Reddit reviews Thinking, Fast and Slow

Teaching people that they can't just tell someone's character is not actually easy. I'm fascinated with books like Thinking, Fast and Slow and Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me). But getting normal people to entertain these arguments that our intuition isn't really all that great, that we really can't just know someone's character from their demeanor, is difficult as hell.

People are not receptive to the notion that their intuition is biased or can be manipulated, or that they subconsciously favor tall, good-looking people with good hair, or people with certain accents, etc. Our whole culture is one long celebration of intuition and gut feeling. People love to think they can "just tell," and that leaves them open to all kinds of manipulation.

As you realize becoming great at social skills is just like training any other skill. Realizing you can train it will allow you to build the skill stronger than others who stumble into it. So many will say you can't get better or amazing by reading in a chair. They're right. Read a little, apply a lot, take notes, then review what you did right and what you did wrong, repeat. Get a mentor or training buddy if you can, it accelerates learning, because we can't see ourselves the same as those outside us can. Make a regimen to go out, greet and meet people every day. Or at least three times a week minimum, make it a habit.

I can tell you that I've been in customer service and sales jobs, they taught me nothing because my skills were garbage and sub-par. So I didn't have a paddle for my raft in the world of social interaction. All I got was "people get irritated if I cold approach or try to sell them. Or worse I have to dump mountains of information to make them feel safe." So after studying for the better part of a decade, here's some points that got me to the basics and more advanced subjects. With the basics under your belt, then a job or daily practice will get you understanding and results.

First, learn how to steady yourself mentally, breathing exercise here. Breathing is important as we seem to be learning your heart rate and beat pattern determine more about our emotions than we'd like to admit.

Second, Accept and love yourself, (both those terms may be undefined or wishy-washy to you at the moment, defining them is part of the journey.) Because you can only accept and love others the way you apply it to yourself first.

Third, pick up and read the charisma myth. It has habits/meditations that will be a practice you use every day. I'd say a basic understanding will happen after applying them over three months. Never stop practicing these basics, they are your fundamentals. They determine your body language. The difference between a romantic gaze and a creepy stare is context of the meeting and body language, especially in the eyes.

Sales or cold approach networking will do the same for practice. If you do sales or meeting new people, it is a negotiation. You're trying to trade "value" (safety + an emotion). So if you figure out how to make yourself feel emotion, then inspire emotion in others, mutual agreements happen. Start with Why is a good reference. Here is a summary video. Chris Voss will help you find out that you don't tap into people rationally, you tap people emotionally, big think summary video. Or the full book treatment, Never Split the Difference. The supporting book for Chris Voss' position can be helped by reading Start With No

For training habits and understanding how we execute behaviors, Thinking, Fast and Slow

For dealing with hard arguments and heavy topics both Nonviolent Communication and Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most

Learning what listening is, instead of "hearing" people. Just Listen: Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone is a good book for that. This is touched on in Never Split the Difference and in the Charisma Myth because true listening, making the person you are speaking with feel "listened to and understood" is most of what makes a charismatic person work.

Thinking Fast and Slow is not exactly what you asked for (as other people have responded to that) but it is also an important aspect of learning about how you think.

Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman is a fantastic and (relatively) easy to read book about how the mind learns and makes decisions.

Sorry to derail your post. It's Thinking Fast and Slow. The author won a noble prize for his discovery on how the mind works and this book summarizes his thought experiments. A fair warning however, I have never seen the world the same way again after that book.

>In the international bestseller, Thinking, Fast and Slow, Daniel Kahneman, the renowned psychologist and winner of the Nobel Prize in Economics, takes us on a groundbreaking tour of the mind and explains the two systems that drive the way we think. System 1 is fast, intuitive, and emotional; System 2 is slower, more deliberative, and more logical. The impact of overconfidence on corporate strategies, the difficulties of predicting what will make us happy in the future, the profound effect of cognitive biases on everything from playing the stock market to planning our next vacation—each of these can be understood only by knowing how the two systems shape our judgments and decisions.

>Engaging the reader in a lively conversation about how we think, Kahneman reveals where we can and cannot trust our intuitions and how we can tap into the benefits of slow thinking. He offers practical and enlightening insights into how choices are made in both our business and our personal lives—and how we can use different techniques to guard against the mental glitches that often get us into trouble.

It depends on what I'm reading. 20 for the average book is about what I can read. I've had things like What Every Programmer Should Know About Memory that I could only do 5 pages at best and things like Head First Design Patterns where I could do 40 or 50

An interesting side note is that I've also been reading books like Thinking, Fast and Slow that basically say that we have a finite amount of mental will power. We can only focus on a difficult task for so long before we run out of steam. The only way we know to improve focus this is by maintaining decent glucose levels. So you might be able to improve your limit by having a snack or breaking for something to eat.

I've also been reading Seach inside yourself. It's book on meditation written by a programmer at Google. I'm hoping to improve my focus with meditation. It might also let you bump up your number number of pages per-day or at least let you settle in to reading faster

You won't find a great lay book about all of psychology, but there are many good books in specific areas. For instance, Thinking, Fast and Slow is a wonderful book by Nobel prize-winning cognitive psychologist Daniel Kahneman. The Person and the Situation is a classic and lay-accessible primer on social psychology. And anything by Oliver Sacks is great for neuropsych / neurology.

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If you think so, I'd suggest reading Kahneman's Thinking, Fast and Slow or another text on cognitive biases. Because if you're building safe rooms in a classroom for an event that has E(X) value of essentially nil, you're beyond irrational. Its akin to people selling parachutes for highrises after 9-11.

I'm about to finish up reading Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman. I plan on reading Algorithms to Live By: The Computer Science of Human Decisions by Brian Christian.

However, I'm looking for an nice fictional book to read alongside it. Any suggestions?

Haven't read the above book, but along the same lines have a read of this:

https://www.amazon.com/Thinking-Fast-Slow-Daniel-Kahneman-ebook/dp/B00555X8OA

Not just finance related, but life generally.

The answer to the first question is yes. I/we are non-monogomous which means I have had many experiences with women other than my wife. Sometimes these experiences are with my wife in the room with us getting in on the fun. ;)

As to the second part of your statement about women being more irrational than men. I don't know how to put this any more plainly than to just say that you are stereotyping. What you said is the definition of stereotyping. I appreciate that you're trying to look out for me but you probably want to get over that idea if you want to be with women who are into non-monogamy. Human beings are irrational all the time regardless of gender. If you're noticing irrationality in women more than you are noticing it in men then it's likely a result of your lack of self awareness. Read up on irrationality and you'll see what I mean. We're meat computers driving a hairless ape-robot that evolved through a haphazard and inefficient process. None of us are capable of being truly rational. That said Juno is a pretty thoughtful person and it's clear to me what her motivations are.

here's a couple of great books on human irrationality to get you started if you're interested in wiping out your biased viewpoint:

Start with You are not so smart

Then move on to Thinking fast and slow

Humans have two processing systems.

The one we like to think about is "careful thinking". You rationally and logically think through a problem. This is an amazing skill, but it is tiring and slow.

In addition, we have "instant thinking", which is also known as emotion. Scary: Run away! Disgusting: Don't eat that! Love: Make babies with him/her!

For certain types of decisions we can use "careful thinking", but most of our life runs on "instant thinking" because it is so much faster and easier.

(For more details see Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman.)

I have always found Malcolm Gladwell's books to be immensely entertaining. He can be a bit repetitive in pounding his major theses home and I wouldn't advocate for treating any of his theories as the gospel but he is a gifted storyteller and many of his stories regard psychological research.

The Psychopath Test Fascinating look at psychopaths by one of my favorite journalists. Well researched as has some scientific depth but is certainly geared towards the layman.

The Invisible Gorilla Very readable tour through some of our cognitive flaws and blind spots by two psychologists.

Thinking, Fast and Slow Very comprehensive account of how people make decisions by the father of behavioral economics.

This book is about this phenomena.

I think both intuition or instinct are used to describe the intuitive leap born of experience that can lead to the right answer without a chain of reasoned thought to connect the stimulus and the response.

Look into the literature on heuristics and biases. There are all kinds of irrational habits we build up without noticing. Kahneman is a great place to start with this kind of thing. If you can get past the cultish atmosphere less wrong is good too.

I'm reading Kahneman's Thinking, Fast and Slow right now. (It's only $2.99 on Kindle.) It's an enjoyable read on a significant topic.

The House I Live In is a recent documentary about the war on drugs and it's impact on poor, especially black communties. It helps explain why blacks are predominantly targeted for drug crimes, even though research shows that drug abuse affects black & white communities at the same rate.

When you couple the imbalanced law enforcement rates with the way blacks are portrayed on the evening news, a very unjust portrait of the black community results. And since most people stay within their clique (Asians hang with asians, whites with whites, blacks with blacks), people form biases about other races without obtaining first-hand experiences by working with people of another race. Moreover, our "confirmation biases" compel us to focus on information that confirms our beliefs instead of considering all of the information fairly (See Thinking Fast & Slow )

So when you look at the facts in context, and understand all of the pressures making you believe that "all blacks are thugs", you'll realize that it's far from the truth.

> They were on auto-pilot

The most instinctual thing for a person to do when inside something that's on fire is to get out as soon as possible - finding and bringing your physical possessions with you as well is what requires higher-order thinking. Especially when these people had several minutes while in the air to plan out their actions once they land. The explanation is simply a combination of a lack of judgment and selfishness.

> It does not exist in the body of popular media

What? Every other self-help book (examples: 1, 2) out there makes the contrast between the limbic system and the neocortex.

> Logic and facts

Something else you may like in this journey: Thinking Fast and Slow

My impression is that as much as we idealize rationality, "reasoning" in practice always takes place within some emotional context; there is always a reason or objective for why we are trying to make a rational argument, and such context will always influence the shape of our rationality in some way.

That may just sound like "bias", but the idea is presented in a more thought-provoking and humanist way.

Vamos escrever mais uma vez já que o camarada leu e não compreendeu: não há formas de determinar se este desenvolvimento seria superior ou inferior ao atual sem especulação. Você está fazendo exatamente o que tenta criticar ironicamente ao copiar minha frase, especulando à favor de seu posicionamento político, o que é natural, mas não deixa de ser um erro que deve ser reconhecido e corrigido por si mesmo.

Historicamente o ser humano é péssimo em fazer previsões para o futuro baseado em seu pequeno conhecimento de mundo, devido à predisposições e a nossa deficiência de pensar estatisticamente. Goste você ou não isso é um fato, se quiser aprender mais sugiro a leitura Thinking, Fast and Slow do Daniel Kahneman, psicólogo que ganhou um Nobel de economia.

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Aguardando os downvotes da ignorância seletiva.

This sub is very hostile to opinions and information they disagree with. A general sign of low education/intelligence/strong system 1 control

I know you're kind of joking/light-hearted, which is why I've chosen to respond to you.

Winning a super bowl in your first year as a head coach is obviously a strong indication that you're going to be a good coach. However, there are coaches who have won Super Bowls and then been proven to be less than great coaches in the NFL. Barry Switzer, Don McCafferty, Jon Gruden, Pete Carroll (?), Mike Ditka...All won a single super bowl. None of them have an amazing coaching legacy. Pete Carroll's is still undecided. I guess Gruden's technically is too.

Doug Pederson seems like a really good coach to me. However, there's no way there's enough information on him yet to say that he's a net positive reflection on Andy Reid's coaching tree.