Reddit reviews Toxic In-Laws: Loving Strategies for Protecting Your Marriage

Here's the book:
http://www.amazon.com/Toxic--Laws-Strategies-Protecting-Marriage/dp/0060507853/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1462908809&sr=8-1&keywords=toxic+in-laws

It's Toxic In-Laws by Susan Forward. It was a very helpful book for me. Hopefully it will be useful for both you and your wife.

Edited to add: Another thing that is probably adding to your wife's discomfort is that there is a strange balance of power in a relationship with a MIL. It makes it very awkward as a wife. You are both adults but as the MIL is your spouse's parent, you tend to treat them differently than you would another adult of the same age. And you don't want to start drama, so a lot of times you keep your mouth shut and let the MIL say things that you wouldn't let other people get away with saying to you. Or at least that's how it was for me.

Jesus fucking christ. The story of my life.

edit: In-law/s.o.parents problems? Read this fucking book.. Totally empowering. Don't let the bastards control your lives.

Holy cow, this guy is a case. First of all, you have the right to feel secure and comfortable around family members. What your father-in-law is doing not only violates boundaries, it makes you a victim. The fact that you are having to modify the way you dress, watch your back around him, and always be on guard for nasty comments in his presence is evidence enough of that. This is not okay. If your husband will not stand up for you, you're going to have to do it for yourself. Although, you will need to calmly discuss this with your husband first.

I'm dealing with a toxic in-law of my own (though of a different sort). I suggest reading this book.
It's been a huge help for me. I hope you are able to find a way to remedy this nasty situation. =/

Book recommendation:
http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-In-Laws-Strategies-Protecting-Marriage/dp/0060507853

There's a great book that touches on this kind of thing. Toxic In-Laws

When dealing with my parents, my partner and I found this book, Toxic Inlaws, really helpful. I haven't read the prequel Toxic Parents, but I bet it'd be equally as helpful. It really helps outline the problems as being on their end, and what you can do to stop rewarding/enabling their destructive behavior. Sounds like typical manipulating-and-destroying-for-your-own-good.

If you go on Amazon.com and search mother in law. The amount of things are funny.

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Oh lawdy I dont know if they mean they will take of the MIL or what?

Toxic In-Laws, Strategies for protecting your marriage Lots of good reviews on this book actually!