Reddit reviews Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and into Your Life (Unfu*k Yourself series)

I agree completely with the premise and the problem, but it seems to me like there isn't a lot of solution here aside from "just do it!". So I have some ideas that have been working for me lately:

1. Read "Unfuck Yourself": https://www.amazon.com/Unfu-Yourself-Your-Head-into/dp/0062803832 This is a good book that looks at the psychology going on behind what OP describes. It helps you reconnect your thought processes and teaches you some Adlerian Therapy (founded by psychologist Alfred Adler) to help you understand why your behaviors do not match up to your perceived goals (spoiler: you actually have another set of goals, with reasons, that your behaviors do match with). I don't do it justice trying to explain it.
   
   
2. Set achievable goals. For me this is:
   
   

• A. Run 2 miles a day with my dog around my neighborhood at any speed.
  
  I track speed but I absolutely do not judge myself for what speed I go, because my goal is not to improve, my goal is to get some cardio exercise and to make myself and my dog happier. Being outside in the sun helps make me feel great. Making my dog happy makes me feel great. Knowing I am doing something to improve and for my body makes me feel great. Giving my eyes a rest from the computer by running mid-day makes me feel great. As a >30 year old cardio makes me have increased energy so that I can achieve my goal B below. I track whether I did cardio each day and try to beat the # of days I've done cardio long term (month to month, etc).
  
  
• B. Do strength training every single day. Do 4 sets of 1 exercise the first day, then increase to 2 exercises the next day. If you miss a day, you only have to do the same amount of exercises you did 2 days before. If you miss 2 days, you only have to do 1 less exercise than you did 3 days before. Keep track of strength training using Momentum app and try to build a chain. Track improvement over time and try to beat the # of days you've worked out long term (month to month, etc).
  
  What I have done here is changed my goals for strength training to reflect what I really need to work on: Building Habit. Sure I want to get strong eventually and that will require 8 exercises 3 times a week, but that isn't going to happen until I build the habit, so my goals need to be geared towards habit building, not optimizing my routine. I should feel good just doing 5-7 minutes of strength training if I hadn't done it for a week. The next day, a little harder, but I did it the day before so I can do it today!
  
  
• C. 5 other simple goals that can be achieved in mere minutes each day: Read Calendar and Quarterly Goals, Take Supplements, Drink Protein Shake, Do not Drink Soda, Drink 2L Water.
  
  These goals, like cardio and strength training, are tracked in Momentum app and assessed over long periods of time with excel. Since I have a tendency to make excuses, I purposely chose easy goals that can be done in mere minutes. By creating an environment where it is difficult to make excuses, I can build the habit of not making excuses. In the future I will have a habit of not making excuses and I will then be able to set more difficult goals.
  
  TLDR; Recognizing that you need to unite yourself and stop feeling inner conflict and divide is a powerful first step, but inner-change won't be achieved at the click of a switch. You need to change your environment and goals to facilitate inner-change given the circumstances of division. These environmental changes should minimize the feelings of conflict and replace those feelings with positivity, good habits, and progress to physical health. e.g. Set goals: Run with your dog at any speed each day. Do a little more strength training than day before each day. Track a few very simple daily goals and watch your progress over time.

If self-help books are your thing you might check out these two inexpensive ones:

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck

Unfuck Yourself

I’m about halfway through the first one and have the second on my shelf to read. No religious bullshit mixed in, and it’s an easy read so far.

Hey Fish, depression seriously sucks. I've been there and when you lose all hope it can seem impossible to turn things around. But I'm living proof it can be done. I believe in you and think you can too.

Also I hope you don't think I'm giving hollow advice here, but why don't you get this book and look at a different perspective? You might be surprised how you can get some control back and some coping skills.

https://www.amazon.com/Unfu-Yourself-Your-Head-into/dp/0062803832/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1570545237&sr=8-2

Take 30 days with a new attitude and find out for yourself. Don't hang your head, don't mope. Approach each interaction with the inherent idea that you matter and you will see what I'm talking about.

Some good reading too:

Un-Fuck Yourself:
https://www.amazon.com/Unfu-Yourself-Your-Head-into/dp/0062803832/ref=asc_df_0062803832/

How To Talk to Absolutely Anyone:
https://www.audible.com/pd/How-to-Talk-to-Absolutely-Anyone-Audiobook/B00EDPVJRG

Six Pillars of Self Esteem:
https://www.amazon.com/Six-Pillars-Self-Esteem-Definitive-Leading/dp/0553374397

The Happiness Hypothesis: Finding... https://www.amazon.com/dp/0465028020?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share


Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your... https://www.amazon.com/dp/0062803832?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

Thank you so much for your reply. The appointment went really well yesterday. It is always difficult going to a complete stranger and not knowing if you will be compatible and worrying that they will not be able to help you. After I posted yesterday, I went out and had a really great, super easy 10 miler, so I'm feeling not so terrible about training haha.

My husband recently found this book Unfu*k Yourself and it is also really helping me change the way I think and feel about myself and my life. It's not really like any other self-help kind of book I've ever tried to read (if you couldn't tell by the title) and I have picked up quite a few. I highly recommend you check it out. I don't have much time to myself for reading, but it is on Audible and the author even reads it himself which is fun because he's Scottish so he's got a really great accent.

There’s a pretty good book about this exact problem: https://www.amazon.com/Unfu-Yourself-Your-Head-into/dp/0062803832/ref=nodl_

I've deleted a lot of porn and reduced Facebook to once a week. I felt I was being a pussy as well but what planted the idea to be more assertive was reading a book called "unfuck yourself" It helped me begin the reduction of porn and social media.

For me, music is fine but ill be deleting my reddit account at the end of the year, i feel it can put me in a bad mood, I used to hit up a political sub (hence the username) but after realizing how unhappy I was, I reduced the reddit subs I looked at and my YouTube sub count from 100 to 10.

Small steps but I'm feeling more positive and happier.

the book: https://www.amazon.com/Unfu-Yourself-Your-Head-into/dp/0062803832

No better comment than this to show you are not paying attention. All my comments have been after you showed a clear lack of interest in doing anything but exploiting the communities you were requesting help from.

And they were all about how people shouldn't encourage your behavior and help you.

To quote from a previous comment of mine for this post in r/learnmath:
> Maybe failure will teach them what support is not.

Truly, it wasn't I who provided nothing. It was you. Maybe this will help

Here's a few good ones:

General self help - Unfu*k Yourself

Related to money - Millionaire Factory

Related to women - Make Women Chase You

Related to yoga - Yamas (this one is a little bit out there)