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u/dehmise · 5 pointsr/Stoicism

That's a good question about brain chemistry. Yesterday I was actually wondering about how people with a chemical unbalance in their brain and to what extent they could be Stoic. And then I questioned myself if I could have a chemical unbalance and realized that if people put off trying to learn about Stoicism and put it off based upon the assumption it would not work because they think or know they have a chemical unbalance then they would not reap any benefits from it. If you had a chemical unbalance in your brain any Stoic teachings may still be very beneficial to you regardless. That turned into a little rant, but back to topic - I think it was good that you came off anti-depressants and decided to combat your negative moods by expanding your own mind. As a word of advice, if you ever find it hard to change your old depressive habits, and this goes for anyone else too because this is of up-most importance to have knowledge of, in my opinion, that you should study the power of the subconscious mind to change old errors you have inputted into your mind and stray away from your old self image. It is key to know how your subconscious mind functions when trying to incorporate new habits and a new mind set. I recoccmend these 3 books for starters

1)ISBN-13: 978-0671708825

2) ISBN-13: 978-0399176135

3) ISBN-13: 978-1614270195

Edit: I may make a post about why learning about your subconscious mind is very beneficial to anyone and also why it helps much with the teachings of Stoicism.

u/HushBabyGirl · 4 pointsr/asktrp

Seriously, get your hands on a copy of What to Say When you Talk To Yourself by Shad Helmstetter as soon as you can. Amazon link here. No need to thank me when it changes your life. All good! :)

u/Masonjarteadrinker2 · 3 pointsr/TheRedPill

There's a book called "What to say when you talk to yourself" and there's this part about losing weight. It's pretty simple, he has you record your own voice repeating to yourself bs like "I am in control of myself in every way and in all situations", it's like 10 different sentences.

Well anyways, you listen to them once or twice a day, and I swear that shit does wonders, made me lose weight without even trying all that hard, you should give it a shot.

u/thrwy75479 · 3 pointsr/asktrp

Your question made me look up an article on perfectionism. It is worth having a look at. There's also a good book on self-talk here.

There seem to be positive and negative aspects to it, meaning that while you should strive towards perfectionism, being perfect should not be a goal.

You will make mistakes. How you frame those mistakes determines whether you have a positive or negative mindset.

Instead of saying, "man I suck!" when you make a mistake, it may be better to think, "man that thing I did was not good!"

Notice the difference, whereas the first statement diminishes your self-esteem, the second statement admits a particular course of action was not the best choice. You can then identify how to improve that course of action through better decision-making. As others have stated, get a calendar.

Within the context of your LTR, it shows you didn't completely breakdown due to a few mistakes, you're unshaken. And, that you have a positive, learners' mindset geared towards improvement.

u/[deleted] · 3 pointsr/howtonotgiveafuck

I haven't actually finished reading it yet (just started a few days ago), but so far it seems like this book is a good resource on this topic.

u/Fuck_Dacts · 2 pointsr/addiction

I'm nearly finished this book and I love it. Honestly have only taken a few concepts on board but still felt a difference.

u/JETeran · 2 pointsr/DecidingToBeBetter

If I have to select one book, I would go to "[What to say when you talk to yourself]( SY200_QL40&keywords=what+to+say+when+you+talk+to+yourself&dpPl=1&dpID=51uyR7wv8tL&ref=plSrch)" by Dr. Shad Helmestetter. It is a fast read, and you will never forget it.

A hint? Do exactly what he says, follow the exercises and start enjoying your wonderful life.

u/BillyMormon · 2 pointsr/exmormon

"what to say when you talk to yourself" by Shad Helmstetter.
This book can change your life, assuming you do what it teaches. Also therapy is great.

u/LynzM · 2 pointsr/AskReddit

You need to change the things you tell yourself in your own head.
"I am a junior in college with no direction, still no motivation and an increasingly less promising future."
"I am not stronger enough to put off instant pleasure in order to achieve future happiness."
"I know I'm a screw up."
Put a post-it note on your bathroom mirror. (Or someplace else you'll see often.) Something about yourself that you want to be true but don't yet believe. Single sentence, statement of fact. "I work hard." "I pursue things that interest me." "I dedicate my energy to improving myself." Not I WILL or I'LL TRY or I'M GOING TO but I DO. You can rewire your internal brain patterns this way. Also, get your hands on a copy of this book:

u/Dandibear · 1 pointr/suggestmeabook

I just heard extremely good things about this one but haven't had a chance to check it out for myself: [What To Say When You Talk To Your Self] (

The cover looks like typical self-help cheese, but apparently it's really held up over time.

u/nickem · 1 pointr/atheism

20 years back, I read What to Say When you Talk To Yourself by Shad Helmstetter
I made a 15 minute tape. It changed my life. I listen to it daily and even made it into an MP3. Nothing on it has been redone. I know that I can change myself and nothing is any more impossible than I believe it to be. I feel good about myself, who I am and who I want to be. Believing in oneself is not for everyone, but it was ideally for me. (read the reviews)

For example, at level 3 one is saying things as if they have already occurred. "I no longer smoke, I am always on time, I never forget names", etc. That's when the sub conscious mind takes over and there you go...

u/reddexx · 1 pointr/theXeffect

"Read aloud Self-Talk cards daily for 5 minutes"

I find this practice to be invaluable for my mental health and well-being. Lacking motivation? Feeling blergh? Not focused? Read aloud positive self-talk cards for five minutes to yourself in the mirror. Holy CRAP does it rev up your whole day.

I am definitely doing this card again because I want the lifetime unbreakable habit. Only change I'm going to make is doing these in the morning because it affects the course of the entire day.

For more information on Self-Talk:

The Self-Talk Solution (my favorite)

What to Say When You Talk to Yourself

u/ValentineSmith22 · 1 pointr/Advice

Check this out. It may give you a different perspective on your concerns.

u/Jabberhakke · 1 pointr/getdisciplined

>I observed that I'm the most productive when I'm happy. I scratch my itches to feel happy, but that just makes it worst. So I guess the question is what could I do to be happy, so I can be (more) productive?

Scratching those itches will only make you happy in the short-term. It sounds to me like "positive self-talk" might be a good thing to look into. The idea is that, all day every day, we're in a sort of conversation with ourselves. We often judge ourselves harshly and think negative thoughts about ourselves, and that creates a lot of anxiety. Through that negative thinking, we can convince ourselves that we can't accomplish the things we want to accomplish. And, the other big idea here, is that it's possible to take control of that inner conversation and teach yourself instead to be calmer and more confident.

My mother struggled with depression and found a lot of help in this book: But there's lots and lots of links out there if you can't/don't want to buy a book. Just Google positive self-talk. I also have a lot of anxiety about my career, which I am just starting out on. When I find myself anxious and thinking that I'm not good at it, I tell myself instead that I can learn.

Like anything else, negative thinking is a habit, and like any other habit, it can be fixed. I've quit my own share of bad habits (including an obsessive and unhealthy writing habit--violence in my case) and I also have a bunch more bad habits that I really need to quit. My advice in that regard is to take one thing at a time. If you try to quit every bad habit at once you'll get overwhelmed. So I picked one, the one that bothered me most. For me it was my writing. I wiped my hard drive and threw away my notebooks. I let myself have the other things, which were in my case chocolate and gaming. The cravings for the writing eventually went away, and then I tackled the next thing on my list. And I don't feel that it's necessary to cut out all my bad habits completely forever. It's possible to play video games and eat chocolate healthily. A few games with friends in the evening after a day of work is not a problem, which is where I'm at now with my video games. A piece of chocolate cake at a birthday party is not a problem. They are only problems when they become obsessive and interfere with the other parts of your life. The writing I could never make peace with--I can't seem to do that in a healthy way so I don't do it at all. I know a few people who are that way with games. But perhaps you can tame some of your cravings without eliminating them completely.

Another thing to note is that exercise is helpful when you're stressed. When you get anxious, try to take a walk before you do anything else (indulge in any cravings or do any more work) and try to walk off some of the nerves.

u/Helicopterz · 1 pointr/seduction

I was gonna suggest the same as iwbafam1...

READ THAT BOOK. I just finished it last month and working on creating my own self-talk audio, which is different than affirmations. And it's only 5 bucks.

u/overide189 · 1 pointr/LifeProTips

Tldr first; You will stop caring (mostly) about what others think when you realize all that matters is what you think of yourself. everything after that is optional. It takes training of the mind as old habits like these never completely go away. you just learn to make that voice a lot quieter and when it does squawk you recognize it and shut it down. You will listen to the voices of the people you respect so figure out how to respect yourself first and foremost. I know first hand you can bounce back from dark places if you are willing to put in the effort. If you want to know about how I got this life experience read on and feel free to message me if you have any questions.
I used to have anxiety attacks in junior high/ high school over what other people thought of me. It was crippling. Fortunately, It was brought to my attention that this wasn't normal and I was eventually diagnosed with a form of depression called Dysthymia.

It took a lot of trial and error but I found a great therapist and have learned how to be happy despite my depression which I can assure you is still with me today. Part of that therapy was being forced to interact with random people. She would have me meet for "field trips" to grocery stores and such and encourage me to talk to people about anything. I was not comfortable interacting with strangers in the least but I knew I had to try if I wanted to change.

Side note, therapy is useless if you aren't willing to commit. Therapy isn't about a therapist fixing you it is about them helping you fix yourself. I highly recommend it. Also, not all therapists are alike so it might take a few tries. It took me 3 tries over many years before I found someone I worked well with.

It's hard to say the exact moment or the exact method because it's an epiphany. It is a moment where thoughts finally click in your brain into something of meaning for you and you alone.

It was a realization that nobody cares and I will most likely never see these strangers again in my lifetime. There is no negative connotation with "nobody cares". It simply means I had no real impact on them whatsoever unless I wanted to.

Back in school I had convinced myself I was broken. More than that, I was a thorn in the side of the universe. A bug in the code. Merely by existing I was hurting the people around me. My head was not in a good place and it happened so slowly I never noticed.

I found this book helpful so maybe you will too:

Sorry if this got too long. It's a deep subject for me and I find it hard to keep it concise.

u/PaulJarrett · 1 pointr/IAmA

Love that you read the book! Here's a link if anyone is looking for it :) WARNING it's cheesy as hell but it works.

I would say that we're always open to be acquired...we've turned opportunities down, we've had deals blow up in our face, AND we actually did sell :)

The answer is that the goal is to grow profitably and create value for all parties and if an acquisition is an option, we'll look at it if it comes along...I would say that I was probably "programming" myself incorrectly talking "acquisition, acquisition, acquisition" all the time because your decisions are based on that end goal. So, yea, we'd sell but we're just building a great company that makes real money right now :)

u/99-66 · 1 pointr/Hamilton