Reddit reviews When Mormons Doubt: A Way to Save Relationships and Seek a Quality Life

Hang in there, man. Your story is a common one, and one I’m all too familiar with.

My wife’s reaction was almost identical. We are in a good place now, but it took us almost 4 years to get here.

Here are some resources that have helped:

• Natasha Helfer Parker’s book, One Family, Two Views: How to Fortify your Mixed-Faith Mormon Marriage
  
  
• Jon Ogden’s book, When Mormons Doubt: A Way to Save Relationships and Seek a Quality Life
  
  
• The “Mormon Mixed-Faith Marriage” Facebook group (good for both the believing and non-believing spouse)
  
  
• Natasha has her own virtual counseling practice, Symmetry Solutions - we have used their services and they are really good at understanding the Mormon mixed-faith paradigm and helping both spouses approach the marriage from a healthy standpoint.
  
  Best of luck, feel free to ask me any questions, I’m happy to discuss further.

This article seemed appropriate to share in light of Pres. Nelson's recent remarks (pulled from this summary article on lds.org):

> “Jesus Christ invites us to take the covenant path back home to our Heavenly Parents and be with those we love,” said President Nelson. He stressed that we can be together with our families in the next life only if we receive sacred ordinances in the temple and keep the covenants we make there.

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> Now, as President of His Church, I plead with you who have distanced yourselves from the Church and with you who have not yet really sought to know that the Savior’s Church has been restored. Do the spiritual work to find out for yourselves, and please do it now.

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I'd highly recommend everyone read Jon Ogden's book When Mormons Doubt: A Way to Save Relationships and Seek a Quality Life.

Dude, I've been right where are currently are. I decided to go on the mission and then to BYU and only recently ended up circling back around to my previous doubts and leaving the church. Oh how I wish I could go back to my pre-mish self and just move on. Pressure from family and friends is real.

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As you make this decision, I would recommend reading When Mormon's Doubt by Jon Ogden. It has helped me navigate those relationships as I've move on from the church.

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Good luck! Sending you love through the binary

One thing that helped me was to focus on the transcendentals like truth, goodness, and beauty. This book was great for that.

I also started trying to write out what it was I believed in. Most of it has stayed pretty constant, but some has changed slightly as I've thought more about my beliefs.

Best to you!

Check out this book. I enjoyed it. Also, seeing a therapist (even if on your own) isn't a bad idea.