Reddit reviews Where I Am Led: A Service Exploration Workbook

I find this workbook “Where I Am Led: A Service Exploration Workbook a tremendous workbook along the lines of what you are seeking.

My husband is my Dominant and over the years he's helped me to become the most genuine version of myself. He's helped me become the most beautiful version of myself as well, inside and out.

One of the first things I would suggest is to encourage her to journal.

Writing this stuff she's dealing with out on paper allows her insight, then in turn you insight, and finally it can bridge a gap if she runs into the need to outsource to a counselor if she needs professional help.

I think it's great that she's reaching out and looking to grow. Here is an awesome workbook that I used in the beginning that made it easier to start journaling and my path in improving in submission (and improving myself as a woman): https://www.amazon.com/Where-Am-Led-Exploration-Workbook/dp/0578035952

Or if you prefer, just have her write out things like: what are your 2019 goals? 5 year goals? 10 things you love about yourself and 5 areas for growth? Best things about being submissive? Describe a time in your life when you felt beautiful and why you felt that way.

Here's an extensive list of prompts: http://prompts.submissiveguide.com

Finally, help her pick the area she'd like to improve on and help her with it. Let's say low self esteem. If you do a Google search on low self esteem there are gobs of pages written about how to turn that around. Read, research, discuss with her. Make a plan with measurable goals and put a small reward in place for her meeting them. For me, things like drinking lots of water, daily exercise, and staying away from sugar warrant sexual rewards like orgasms and choosing tools during play time.

What she is really looking for is active participation from her partner. If you aren't romantically involved and only looking for in the bedroom kink, this may cause issues. But if you're in a relationship, this isn't a D/s or boyfriend/girlfriend issue. This is simply a human to human issue. You've got a person that you're close with and they are looking for a friendly face on their path to personal growth.

Be there. Be listening, be kind, participate. Make suggestions and be encouraging. Set the stage for her to be able to blossom and be a shoulder to cry on when things go wrong. Just be a good person and don't let the question of, "is this what a Dominant would do?" muddy the water of simply being her friend.

Good luck.

I don't know if this particular work would be appropriate for your relationship dynamic but my pet has enjoyed Where I am Led Quite a bit (And will finish it soon, yay!). It is a year's worth of weekly written responses and projects.

My favorite types of homework tasks to assign are research tasks. For example: learning massage techniques, studying a foreign culture and language, reading an assigned book, or developing an existing skill. I think by choosing these not only does my pet enjoy performing a task for me but it also enriches her personally as well.

P.S. You don't have to stick to serious tasks either. Me and my pet both play Magic: The Gathering and last month I assigned a deck list and made her give a detailed analysis of each card in the deck list and how the deck worked together, then write a strategy for play guide for a person new to the deck.

Where I am Led by Christina “slavette” Parker