Reddit reviews You Can't Touch My Hair: And Other Things I Still Have to Explain
We found 4 Reddit comments about You Can't Touch My Hair: And Other Things I Still Have to Explain. Here are the top ones, ranked by their Reddit score.
Great product!
I can almost guarantee you that it was not about a simple compliment and more about fawning over and playing with a strangers hair, which is totally a thing and comes across as patronizing and an invasion of personal space.
It's not "hey your hair looks great today" and more "omigod i love your hair can i touch it wow its so bouncy hehe"
https://www.amazon.com/You-Cant-Touch-My-Hair/dp/0143129201
Maybe his friend DID miss the point, I wouldn't be surprised if her only exposure to the concept of micro aggression was from a freshman training session. But from his attitude, it sounds like he's the one who misunderstood, willfully or otherwise.
I just finished "You Can't Touch My Hair" by Phoebe Robinson (of Two Dope Queens, which I also highly suggest). She is smart and amazing and wonderfully hilarious and does a great job of communicating a lot of different issues she has faced, while also reinforcing the idea that being black is not a monolith. Could be a good place to start.
Here are some books I think might give you a taste of what kinds of sexist stuff women have to put up with regularly:
https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Object-Memoir-Jessica-Valenti/dp/0062435094
https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0143129201/
https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0316348406/
https://www.amazon.com/What-Girls-Made-Elana-Arnold/dp/1512410241
https://www.amazon.com/Bad-Feminist-Essays-Roxane-Gay/dp/0062282719
https://www.amazon.com/Gone-Girl-Gillian-Flynn/dp/0307588378
The last one is perhaps the farthest stretch, but I do think it's a lot about how women are made to comform to roles, as well as all the little ways men might dominate women, and plays with the usual perceptions of that. Maybe read it after you've read a lot of the other works so you're more familiar with the everyday struggles of women, otherwise it might not be as poignant to read as a guy.
Anyways, I'm glad that there are guys like you out there who are more open to learning about this stuff.
Forbes has a really good op-ed from 4 years ago on the subject and Dope Queen Phoebe Robinson wrote a book titled You Can't Touch My Hair that approaches the subject in a way that only a dope queen can.