Best cat relaxers according to redditors

We found 110 Reddit comments discussing the best cat relaxers. We ranked the 28 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the top 20.

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Top Reddit comments about Cat Relaxants:

u/AshTreex3 · 166 pointsr/airplaneears

Very well but he’s also been flying since he was a baby so he’s pretty used to it. If he gets too nervous, he goes inside his bag that he’s had since he was a baby; it’s like his security blanket and also his little house.


Have you tried a calming spray?

u/RobotPigOverlord · 17 pointsr/cats

Try getting a Feliway Diffuser plug in, and VetriScience Composure chewables (they can eat as treats or u can crumble into wet food). I have worked in vets offices for 9 years, and people say the combo of these two products really help cats settle down.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B003KV7XVA/ref=cm_sw_r_awd_Pgymub0SMM5SW

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000WHUOEI/ref=cm_sw_r_awd_Ziymub0JEQ8PB

u/itsrainingweiners · 12 pointsr/JUSTNOMIL

There is a product called feliway that basically is pheromones that play a part in calming cats and making them feel safe. I cannot recommend this stuff highly enough. My 18lb house panther developed some really nasty attitudes after some strays showed up on our deck, and he took it out on our other indoor cats. It was brutal, and I was almost at the point I thought I was going to have to get rid of him, and one last desperate Google for help brought this stuff up. I was desperate and bought some. It was like goddamn magic. A few sprays around the house every couple of days and he was back to his old self and the other cats were no longer cowering under the bed. It comes as a spray and as a plug in diffuser, I had absolutely no luck with the diffuser, but the spray is worth its weight in gold. Petsmart had it for like $40, but amazon is much cheaper.

u/Neverborn · 9 pointsr/funny

Cats don't have to be this way. Here is a little checklist of why they may be peeing in places other than their box(es). It sounds like a lack of enough cat boxes, or possibly are stressed. You can try this for stress, or try getting them each a box, and have each in their own space.

u/carolinexbrookes · 9 pointsr/BabyBumps

This is the only thing that ever worked for me when my cat was peeing where she wasn't supposed to.

u/odette_decrecy · 7 pointsr/cats

Bless you for caring for a special needs cat. My kitty is a rescue, he's quite expensive (feline IBD), but his condition is stable, and I love him.

You might try a Feliway diffuser for your kitty's anxiety.

u/bnanapancake · 7 pointsr/Pets

Try Feliway. We originally got feliway to get our cats to stop clawing furniture but now we mostly use it for my cat who has strong separation anxiety. I will spray it in the hallway and foyer where he usually sits and cries after I leave and it works. I also started spraying it around his cat carrier before I put him in it for trips to vet. Night and day with him. They have it on Amazon, but in your situation I'm sure you can find it at Walmart or a Petco.

I will say that he was very stressed after my last move (he slept under my covers for a month straight when I was at work) but he was never THAT bad. Just be there for him.

http://www.amazon.com/Comfort-Zone-Feliway-Spray-Milliliters/dp/B003E71E24/ref=sr_1_4?s=pet-supplies&ie=UTF8&qid=1451005817&sr=1-4&keywords=feliway

u/songbird0519 · 6 pointsr/Pets

It's a synthetic version of a hormone that makes the cat comfortable, less anxiety, less destruction. The description on Amazon probably explains it better than I can!

Anyway, I feel for you. Hope you find something that works. I agree with the other posters, the change in his buddy being gone (even if they weren't really buddies) may have just provoked anxiety in him.


http://www.amazon.com/Comfort-Zone-Feliway-Diffuser-Kit/dp/B00I9SI40S/ref=sr_1_1?s=pet-supplies&ie=UTF8&qid=1465236647&sr=1-1&keywords=Feliway

u/thedrunkdingo · 6 pointsr/AskVet

In terms of the stress she is in I might suggest Feliway (it's a plug in scent diffuser that calms cats) it might not completely fix her anxiety but may soothe her a bit.
https://www.amazon.com/Comfort-Zone-Feliway-Diffuser-Kit/dp/B00I9SI40S

Best of luck for you and your darling cat.

u/firepan · 5 pointsr/blogsnark

Maybe she's stressed about something? We've used these Feliway diffusers before when our cats have started getting a little neurotic.

u/gimmebackmyracecar · 5 pointsr/bengalcats

We used these during our last two moves and they worked wonders for our two Bengals. Like with anything involving animals, YMMV, but we wish we had discovered these before their first move: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B014HCXECW/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_.CEZzb83293RE

u/far2frail · 4 pointsr/cats

Not OP, but you could look into pheromone sprays which have a calming effect on stressed kitties. Typically they are sprayed at key point that cats might touch, i.e. the bottom corners of walls or chairs. They even make air diffusers with the pheromones in it and collars like OP mentioned.

u/xplodingpeep · 4 pointsr/Pets

Something I got when I had to move to help my cat adjust was a pheromone spray (I used this one). It seemed to really help him feel more comfortable and more at home. You might try to see if you can temporarily place her with a friend, until you get your own place. Once you do, try re-introducing them by keeping them in different rooms, (that have already been set up!) and letting them get used to that room for a day, then let them so they can hear and smell each other through a door, and let it stay like this for a day or 2. Then let them see each other through a screen, so the can see each other, but not touch. If they are ok at this stage for a day or so, then let them play together again. The pheromone spray is really helpful for this. I know it is really hard to see your pets struggling, but hopefully this won't last too long. Also, finding more little places for them to hide or another cat tree wouldn't hurt. If they don't have enough space that can also stress them out.

u/Gruesome · 3 pointsr/cats

Second u/loridee's advice...also, check out Feliway. It's supposed to emit feel-good pheromones to make them feel safe and secure. I bought the diffuser because we took our cats on a trip with us in our motor home! I think it made a big difference.

u/1bdkty · 3 pointsr/Pets

Thanks for responding. Good to know the shelter is no-kill, that is important. A few things I would recommend but most of them do cost money so its up to you if you want to give them a shot.

  • talk to the vet about behavior meds. Maybe prozac isn't right but there are others that may help. As you pointed out, she is obsessively licking. Obsessive licking to the point where fur is gone is a huge warning sign and the cause of that could be the cause of her litterbox issues.

  • try the feliway, probably the room diffuser. People I know have had mixed results but maybe it will help your cat (the idea is that is puts out "happy cat smells" so they don't pee everywhere - people can't smell it) Put it in the rooms you don't want her peeing in.
    http://smile.amazon.com/dp/B003E6WSHK

  • Try a self-cleaning litterbox. If your cat is extra concerned about cleanliness maybe scooping the litterbox once a day isn't enough for her. Sounds like a hassle but there are some cheaper solutions out there now. I suggest the Simply Clean or the Littermaid.
    SimplyClean: http://smile.amazon.com/dp/B000GF0X38
    Littermaid: http://smile.amazon.com/dp/B0097576MY


    good luck, whatever your decision. :)

    EDIT: saw your post about the feliway above, sorry for repeating. responded to your post before reading other replies.
u/midwintermoons · 3 pointsr/Wicca

Shadow is probably very stressed out right now. Moving houses is a nightmare for cats because they depend on everything being the same from day to day. There are four things I would recommend looking into.

First is, if I'm understanding correctly, she has free access to the entire house, but only hisses in your bedroom? If that's the case, have there ever been any other cats or dogs kept in that bedroom? Could there be another cat's scent in there, maybe from a cat spraying or having litter box problems? A black light flashlight can help you find these spots on the carpet and walls if they're there, and then you can use an enzymatic cleaning product called Nature's Miracle to remove the scent. Remember, cats can smell things that we can't.

One of the pheremonal calming products people have been mentioning is Feliway. I think you could really benefit from a diffuser for your room. I know it says it's for scratching and urine marking, but it works for stress in general. It does also come in sprays which you can spray on certain things like cat carriers, furniture, etc. but supposedly it does need pretty frequent application, just so you know. Don't be discouraged if the diffuser doesn't seem to work right away. It can take a week or more but I've seen a definite improvement for my cats.

You might also want to pick up a book called Think Like a Cat, or something similar. There are so many things we as humans do that cats find threatening, startling, upsetting, etc. and we don't even know it. The truth is that she is hissing at you for a reason, whether it's the way you're approaching her, something she now associates with you, who knows. I bet you could figure it out with some insight from a good source.

One final thing that's pretty important. Cats who hiss, growl, or jump when touched sometimes are doing so because they're in pain. Pay attention to how exactly she's reacting to you. Especially since you say she has a heart problem, it's possible that she is physically uncomfortable. You may want to explain what's happening to your vet and see if they can find a physical cause.

And of course... a little sprinkling of fairy dust for luck ;)

u/meliorn · 3 pointsr/cats

Maybe just restless. Needs some hardcore playing for about an hour before you go to bed. Also try some natural calming treats. Helps them relax. http://www.amazon.com/Pet-Naturals-Calming-count-1-11oz/dp/B0011DHJ2W/ref=sr_1_sc_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1409171782&sr=8-1-spell&keywords=natural+cat+camling+treats

u/NochaQueese · 3 pointsr/tifu

Seconding the getting a relaxer. I recommend feliway as it works wonders for our cat. Plug that in in the office and let it be the kitty's safe zone. Also, make sure kitty gets lots of play time during the day. Cats will default to night mode if you give them a chance so you want them to be nice and worn out. Laser pointers work well for getting them maximum worn out with minimum effort!

u/dorenello · 3 pointsr/cats

either one will work, or not work. it's a 50/50 thing. just go with the cheapest. this one has a coupon:

https://www.amazon.com/Comfort-Zone-Feliway-Diffuser-Calming/dp/B00I9SI40S/

u/Crystaleyes · 3 pointsr/cats

I forgot to mention that you may want to try a product called Feliway by Comfort Zone: https://www.amazon.com/Comfort-Zone-Feliway-Diffuser-Calming/dp/B00I9SI40S/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1492095290&sr=8-1-spons&keywords=comfort+zone+feliway&psc=1
It comes as a diffuser or in a spray. It may help to calm her.

u/cmcg1227 · 3 pointsr/breakingmom

This is going to sound ridiculous, but if you're willing to spend a few bucks, can I suggest Feliway? It might not do jack shit, but my sister swears by the stuff.

u/HadHerses · 3 pointsr/cats

Have you tried the Feliway brand of calming therapies? My friend who runs a cat charity swears by them. You can get the diffuser you plug in to the socket and it dispenses the treatment of the regular spray.

Might be worth a try!

u/CrossXhunteR · 3 pointsr/Atlanta

Almost got up for work at 2am this morning. Guess I thought my alarm had gone off already. Luckily I decided to look at my phone right before I went to shower.

Decided to get one of these last night to see if I can get my cats to like each other again. Now to wait for it to really kick in.

u/KaitlynnS · 3 pointsr/cats

One thing you may want to try as well is Feliway.

It mimics a comforting pheromone that may help.

Linky: Feliway with diffuser

u/angrydroid · 2 pointsr/cats

Hard to say but this stuff is at least partially responsible for keep the peace amongst the feline occupants of my place.

u/Il1k3ch33s3 · 2 pointsr/CatAdvice

https://www.amazon.com/Comfort-Zone-Feliway-Spray-Calming/dp/B003E71E24
You should also be able to find it at Petsmart.

Please do update!

u/ossej · 2 pointsr/Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

My vet recommended this to help un-stress my cats and calm them down. It seems to really be helping!

u/LeftMySoulAtHome · 2 pointsr/Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

Sundry list: Kindle.

It's for my dad. His birthday and father's day are the same day. It's a combo gift. He's been through a lot, health-wise, and he's finally at a place he can relax. We both love reading and bond over books better than anything else. I'm one of 4 kids and reading was the thing we had together while I was growing up, that nobody else shared. It was really special.

Books list: Mr. Mercedes

Stephen King and I have a long relationship. I've got Dark Tower tattoos, even. I have read everything he's written that I could get my hands on. This comes out in June. I own all of his books in hardcover. My den is basically a shrine to Uncle Steve.

Home Improvement list: Recessed Light Can Converters

I bought a house last year. It's got sunken eyeball lighting in the kitchen. They really, really creep me out. I know it's irrational. But I plan to put mini pendent lights in instead. o_O

Kitchen and Noms list: Instant Read Pocket Thermometer

I recently bought a bread machine. It's great and I use it every day, almost. Some of the breads require water at an exact temperature. I need a thermometer that starts at zero for this.

Pets and Wildlife list: Feliway

I have a ten-year-old neurotic cat who takes his pants off when he's anxious. This helps keep him decent. ;)

My son's birthday list: Wooden Pantry Products

The boy turns 2 in May. He has a play kitchen, but no play food yet. (He did have some cardboard boxes that came with the set, but he ate them in true baby form.) This set of wood pantry items will hold up and also be fun for stacking.

Add-ons list: iRobot Scooba Hard Floor Cleaner

Because a bot's got to eat, too.

Thanks for the contest!^ifitisacontest^probably

u/tragopanic · 2 pointsr/Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

These treats! They're healthy and have a calming effect.

u/jlevy1126 · 2 pointsr/tampa

I wiah I could but a couple years ago I basically did the same thing. I used this kinda stuff to help calm my older cat. He originally couldn't stand the kitten but after a couple of months he tolerated the kitten. Now you can catch them grooming each other at times but the younger cat is boisterous so the older cat tends to keep away.

Good luck!

u/Killerzeit · 2 pointsr/TrollXChromosomes

This Sentry collar, I get at Petsmart. He doesn't seem to mind wearing it at all.

I also don't know if you've ever heard of this, but I also plugged in Feliway diffusers at two spots in the house when the problem was really bad and I was trying to tackle it. The diffuser is also supposed to help with aggression problems and kind of neutralizes all the scents in the house so he doesn't get upset by others.

There's also a spray you can use, too, but that's more for spot-spraying on places the cat has peed.

The diffusers are the business, though. They work for about four weeks and then you need a refill, but you don't smell them and it's helped, in my experience. He's to the point now where he just needs the collar and the prozac.

u/QueenCameo · 2 pointsr/Pets

Hi. I had to transition 2 house cats with my fiance 3 cats. All girls except 1, and all fixed but the kitten. That... well the first day - week was an establishment period for laying claim and associating our bedroom as "home." Living room, kitchen, dining room, etc.. was "outside" and to not be trusted. That period lasted about 3 weeks then we introduced my cat, Cameo. She is a rescue (all cats here are in some form) and very very stubborn and has a high confidence in what is hers and carries this aura of "don't even get near me or I will punch the Fuck out of you." True story, many months later, kitten got to close, Cameo gave her warnings, Kitten choose the warnings didn't apply to her so she chopped and moved closer. Cameo heard the boxing ring bell go off and raised her right arm and balled her paw (into a fist! she's long hair so it looked like gloves) and bopper the Fuck out of Kittens head 4-5 times with enough force that Kitten chipped and turned away and poor thing shook her head for several seconds. I had even heard when the huts landed so I can imagine she got a jostle. Now for those thinking that's mean, in cat world that's how you stop a cat from being a douche around you and to retain a lesson.

Kitten, and everyone else, chirps and goes out of their way to avoid being near Cameo. Some may call her a bully but she is 12yo and I have had her since she was 4 months old. It's her land dammit!

It took my fiance about 6 months to be allowed to pet Cameo, a year she would walk up to him and ask for pettings. We did use Feliway from Amazon. I will get the link and edit post with link. The Feliway was awesome and we put it in 3 main rooms. Wayyy cheaper on amazon and my own vet recommended it.

Let us know how it goes. I don't know how joining dogs and cats but I know what we did. We did more stuff but it's late. Good luck!

Edit: not at pc so not sure how to do links and I took my Ambien so that's the other half so I'm going to paste link and prettier it up tomorrow!

https://www.amazon.com/Comfort-Zone-Feliway-Diffuser-Kit/dp/B00I9SI40S/ref=sr_1_1?s=pet-supplies&ie=UTF8&qid=1465968837&sr=1-1&keywords=feliway

u/jasperwasper101 · 2 pointsr/catcare

My suggestions would be Feliway Diffusers and Nature’s Miracle Calming Spray, which calm your cat down and ease anxiety and their overall mood and behaviors. This might ease him upstairs, or at the very least make him calmer. He might be in your basement simply because he likes it there, not that he’s scared. If you adjust the upstairs into something that he would like better, maybe he will spend more time up there. Or maybe he just likes the cool, quiet atmosphere of the basement. Does he come upstairs to eat or play?

One thing about the diffusers is that they do heat up a lot, so keep them away from things that are very flammable!

u/aether_dancer · 2 pointsr/internetparents

Once you rule everything out with the vet, try Feliway. It saved out psycho kitty, and she is back to her sweet loving self after a few weeks. This was after 3 months of constant attacks to myself, my husband, and our other animals. Not to mention hundreds and hundreds of $ on vet bills. (sigh)

But yeah, better than kitty prozac, cheaper too.

u/larry_pancake · 2 pointsr/cats

Lots of good advice here, but wanted to add, as I've also had a fun time of moving two anxious cats (on a two-day drive, too... it was eventful).

They do make spray bottle versions of Feliway Comfort Zone (https://www.amazon.com/dp/B003E71E24). You could spray inside the cats' carriers and/or the area of the car they'll be riding in. I always keep a bottle on hand around the house.

Harnesses + leashes are a good idea, especially if you think you might have to remove them from the carriers during the drive. Vest-style harnesses will be harder for them to escape from, and may even help keep them calm and make them feel safe, but spend some time getting them used to the harnesses before the move, if possible.

On my long drive, the only time my more high-strung cat would stop crying was while our audiobook was playing. The constant talking seemed to soothe her.

I hope this helps. Good luck with the move!

u/Penizette · 2 pointsr/veterinarians

stay calm, your cat is reacting to stress. When cats are stressed they start marking their territory nuteured or not.

At the pet store get some cat urine cleaning products and get some calming medication for the cat, it is hurt and needs to rest, but obviously it cannot as it is very stressed out.

Do not punish the cat, punishing will result in more stress and more marking.
Give the pet love, favorite treats and vet provided medicine or just get this
Feliway Diffuser
But your cat sounds like it is in pain and needs some sleeping pills or pain relievers, please consult your vet

u/IamNoExpert · 2 pointsr/cats

I haven't heard of this before... but then I'm no expert. But you could try some Feliway spray. It mimics a cat pheromone that is supposed to calm them.

u/omen77 · 2 pointsr/cats

Yes, take her to the vet. In case it's something physical.

Another thing you should do is get Feliway which is a pheromone that helps cats feel more relaxed / particularly a kitten who has been separated from his litter / mama. Feliway comes in a form that emulates the pheromones put out by the mother cat. We got it for our girl cat who was very skittish. In a couple weeks she was like a totally different cat. It can work wonders:

https://www.amazon.com/Comfort-Zone-Feliway-Diffuser-Cats/dp/B00I9SI40S

u/MsStardust · 2 pointsr/Pets

Couldn't have said it better than /u/andreablondie myself. I wanted to add that OP should talk to a vet about possibly putting the kitten on anti-anxiety medication. I used to be the first person to balk at an idea like this, but a friend for whom we cat sit (in our house) recently put her cat on anti-anxiety meds, and it seems to have helped. This cat was kind of a little terror, and many of her owner's friends wouldn't even go near it. Even my cats decided she wasn't worth the hassle and just starting ignoring her! Now, on the meds, she's still totally nuts--just a calmer version of nuts.



Also, there are "calming treats" you could try, and some people report success with synthetic pheromone products such as Feliway.



Does she let you play with her? My cats are on the skittish side, but playing with toys (especially a laser or the dangling teaser kind) often gets them to come out of their shells.

u/MotherCybele · 2 pointsr/Pets

Try plugging in a Feliway. They are diffusers that release calming hormones into the air. They are very effective at calming cats down in stressful situations.

I would also suggest boarding up the hiding spots near the ground and give him a nice big cat tree. If he gets up higher he will feel more comfortable. The enclosed hiding spots on the ground will only help him to feel more stressed.

Each day go in and sit. Read a book, listen to quiet music, or work on a craft. Don't talk or look at the cat. Just let him get used to your presence.

u/mewtallica · 2 pointsr/Dogtraining

Smelly is doing pretty well. He is going to a scenting class and it just just fantastic. I am finding that he sniffs more on walks as well.. almost that he has learned that is is a-okay to sniff on walks. Perhaps he even is a touch more confident!

I am using the calming cap and it has been working wonders in preventing lunges in the narrow apartment hallways. It works more to confuse him, not calm him, but I'll take anything to stop the lunging.

The weather is nicer.. the snow has melted so we have started biking again! We biked by a few dogs and did a little BAT on foot in mud. He learned how to balance on a balance beam in the park! Now if there were only agility classes for reactive dogs...

u/LadyMiseryAli · 2 pointsr/cats

Just got a pack of calming treats today and gave one to my butthead cat. He's been trying to resist the calm, but I think it actually took affect because he's napping right now, instead of jumping on the head of my fiance's cat. You can order a pack here. They're only 5 bucks, so if they don't work, then it's not a huge financial loss.

u/faultybluebox · 2 pointsr/cats

Have you tried feliway? It's a spray that makes cats chill out a little bit. There are also treats that I use on my cats that are like kitty Prozac but it doesn't make them lethargic. It just calms them down. http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0011DHJ2W?pc_redir=1408798376&robot_redir=1 these are the treats I use. If your cat doesn't eat them by themselves, get some wet food and coat it in the stuff and he should eat it.

u/kdennis · 2 pointsr/femalefashionadvice

My cats don't love the car, so I try to make sure I get these treats and this spray any time we're travelling with them!

u/compacthippo · 2 pointsr/askredddit

You should try feliway. Its a diffuser with the scent of a mother cats pheromone, it's scentless to us but it calm cats down!
This is the link to amazon.ca where I got mine! ---> https://www.amazon.ca/gp/aw/d/B00I9SI40S/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1493451607&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_QL65&keywords=feliway+cat+diffuser&dpPl=1&dpID=51kvBrWP9GL&ref=plSrch

u/EarlofBlackthorne · 2 pointsr/cats

Man, that's a tough one. It's going to take some hard work, but it can be done.

I also have a male and female who were altered as kittens but it's the 9 year old male who is the problem. I call him "The Piddler" and am hoping that someday Catman shows up to dispense justice. :D j/k

Seriously though, up until recently it's been enzymatic urine removing spray, and blocking access to the problem areas.

After doing some research, I've found that cats tend to present this kind of behavior when they feel very stressed or feel that their territory is being encroached.

I've had some pretty good luck with a few Feliway Diffusers that dispense a drug-free, odorless vapor that mimics a cat’s natural calming pheromones.

They take a bit to fully kick in but you do start to see positive results pretty quick. I have three of them dispersed throughout the house and they really seem to do the trick.

I've also had luck with an extra litter tray. What I've read says "you should have one extra littler tray than you have cats". So you might think about having three litter trays in various locations in the house and staying on top of making sure they stay cleaned out.

So, I guess it all boils down to this:

  • Taking a good hard look at things that are potentially causing your female to feel stressed or threatened, and doing your best to remove the triggers.

  • Giving your cat a little extra positive attention in order to try to reassure her that her place in the house is secure.

  • Making sure the areas affected are kept super clean.

  • Adding an extra litter tray.

  • And, (I'm not trying to sell you a product or anything) installing a few of those Feliway things. (Man, they have really helped to drastically alter the behavior.)

    Good luck! Like I said, it's going to take some work on your part but you can help provide a more comforting environment for your problem kitty by just taking a few steps to help her along the path of a piddle free existence.
u/jrrhea · 2 pointsr/Pets

After driving from AZ to upstate NY with 4 cats last summer by myself, I think I'm qualified to answer this question!

After doing lots of research I bought this Petego Pet Tube Kennel and it worked out great! I didn't buy the optional cushions, I just put a plush king blanket in there. It zips on both sides and has handles to carry. With you and your husband you'd easily be able to carry 3 cats in and out of hotels. I think my cats really liked it most because there was plenty of room and they could cuddle with each other.

I have an SUV so I had lots of room, I put all my boxes and stuff I was bringing in the back and then put the tube in lengthwise, with ends toward front of car and back, not side to side, it just worked out better for me that way.

Since it was such a long trip I didn't want them to be stuffed in the kennel all the time so I rigged a cargo net around the driver's seat and had suction cups and clips to pull it around all the way and attach to the window so the driver's compartment was completely enclosed. That way I could stop for gas and meals without having to worry about one of them jumping out, which was my biggest fear. It took me awhile to engineer before I left but it worked wonders. Before final stops for the night I'd pull over and wrestle them all into the kennel before opening any doors.

For the trip - Disposable kitty litter trays are a must. Portion their cat food into ziplock baggies. If you intend on letting them out at all in the vehicle as I did then cover everything with sheets. If you're going to keep them in kennels bring extra pads and stuff for the inside so if they soil them you can change them out. Bring plenty of garbage bags to keep anything soiled in until you can wash.

It was hard finding pet friendly hotels along the way but I did manage it. I wanted to keep driving until I felt I had to stop so I didn't make reservations, just started calling hotels for availability I had previously researched in each city I thought I might stop in. I brought my own sheets and mostly stayed in cheap roadway inns with decent reviews that had exterior rooms to make it easy to get in and out. Bring a hand held vacuum too. You won't believe the mess your cats will make in the hotel room with their food and litter box. I also vacuumed as much hair as I could as well, I didn't think it was fair to leave a big mess for the staff (I'm a hotel manager myself). I would put the cats in the car and do a quick vacuum of the room before I left. The vac also came in handy when I had to leave the room and come back. I turned it on when I was about to open the door to scare them from trying to dart out. It worked wonders!

Also buy one of those $10 cardboard scratch pads from Walmart or a pet store and put it in the hotel room with you to (hopefully) keep them from clawing up the furnishings.

It wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. My cats meow'd for the first half hour but settled in after that and pretty much just slept and slept and slept. They didn't really eat or drink in the car all day but they did when we were in the hotels. One would use the litter box in the vehicle (I had it behind the passenger seat so I could reach it to scoop) but the others only used it in the hotel room.

I had also bought Feliway spray and calming chews for the trip. I really don't know if either made a difference for them since I have no basis of comparison but I wanted to make sure I did everything I could to minimize their stress. They did like the flavor of the chews a lot.

Hope this helps!

u/ddawn215 · 2 pointsr/cat

Hey! My cat is 8 and over the last few years he had developed really bad nighttime anxiety. It's been keeping us up at night because it's just constant crying. I feel awful and I can't keep waking up to calm him.

Anyway, I found these collars on Amazon. They are calming and have a mixture of pheromones and lavender. He hasn't cried a single night since we started using them. I'll send a link!

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0080ZCCNU/ref=mp_s_a_1_14?ie=UTF8&qid=1482114361&sr=8-14&keywords=calming+pheromones+for+cats#

u/vannah08510 · 1 pointr/cats

My cat plays hard too. Undercover (different brand names, but I have the purple one) has this rod that rotates in circles with fabric over the top. Two AA batteries will last it quite some time. (SmartyKat Hot Pursuit Cat Toy Concealed Motion Toy https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00EZTCW94/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_zDtEybK2W9YAK)

The hexbug I spoke of is about the same price but you'll only find it online on amazon or ebay. It's this tiny nano but thing that zooms all over the floor (hard floors only) and when my cat bats it over it gets back up. With this one you just have to make sure it's in a space where it won't get stuck so you have to fish it out (under the fridge for example) (Nano Robotic Cat Toy (White/Blue) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00RWU17KS/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_9DtEybKTBTQHP)

A daily dose of catnip calms my buddy down as well.

Ssscat:
PetSafe SSScat https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000RIA95G/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_PFtEybJ577FA5

You can actually buy cheaper air cans than the brand name for refills.

Here's a different brand--more budget friendly: SENTRY Stop That! For Cats, 1 oz https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00EG8LIN0/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_2HtEyb200JW77


Pheromone diffuser: Comfort Zone Feliway Diffuser Kit for Cats https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00I9SI40S/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_kJtEybF3F4QSX

Remember, chewy.com is your friend. They may have some of these items for cheaper.


Also remember that cats don't understand punishment. If you yell or try to correct, sometimes they'll continue the behavior to seek attention even if it's negative attention. Best thing to do is to be consistent with your reactions and redirect the behavior of possible (example: cat scratches furniture---redirect by placing cat on cardboard scratch pad with catnip each time) and give your cat what he needs. Sounds like he has a lot of energy. So a toy that plays with him when you aren't able may be helpful. Pheromone diffuser was really helpful for my cat when he was so stressed from moving that he got sick.

My cat used to be extremely Velcro. He would cry like hell if I closed a door on him. So I don't anymore. He follows me from room to room most often but does his own thing. When he starts meowing I know he needs play time or food or enrichment of some kind. When I go to bed, he goes to bed. He doesn't sleep with me usually. Most often under the bed or on his cat tree.

Groupon, chewy.com, or amazon, or even EBay are good places to get the items I mentioned for less.

Nutrition is also really important for a cats health. Dry food is actually really bad for its health. Can cause urine crystals, weight gain, dehydration, etc. Even if it's just friskies it's better to have wet food than dry if you're on a budget


As for your boyfriend, try having him see a doctor to get on seroquel if he's able. Its often prescribed to people for sleeping problems. I take it, and within the hour I fall asleep and don't wake up until 8 hours later. Also tends to help with mood problems for some people. Kratom is a great natural opiate/pain reducer that is taken in pill form. You can find it at some vape/smoke shops. It's much less addictive and better long term than vicodine and its siblings.. Obviously I'm not a doctor or anything so take this advice with a grain of salt.

u/dontcryferguson · 1 pointr/dogs

Can't say for sure, but there are lots of products like this one that make these claims.

u/kittenmommy · 1 pointr/AskVet

> He did hundreds of dollars of damage trying to escape and attacking everything. Including furnitures, old furnitures in wood that are hundred years old. I just don't know how I can keep him inside.

Yikes. Have you tried Feliway?

u/ktwarda · 1 pointr/cats

Comfort Zone Feliway Diffuser Kit https://www.amazon.com/dp/B003E6WSHK/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_DRD6xbW8KWZBS

This is it! I read back through your post and just for the record, I don't think this is totally abnormal. She's probably had some rough times so the adjustment might be harder and might take longer. Good luck!

u/MeghanAM · 1 pointr/Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

Cat Treats!

but wait, there's more!

u/mtempissmith · 1 pointr/cats

You can use a hormone spray like this sprayed on a towel where he is sitting, in the cat bed, on my bed, some chairs etc. Whatever you do though stay away from the collars that are like this. They're not made well and they are dangerous. This spray actually works fairly well if you spray it daily. So does the Feliway diffuser but it's expensive. I just use the spray once a day or so in my cat's favorite spots. I have a completely hyper near crazy dominant 10 month old boy kitten. This doesn't keep him totally quiet 100% of the time, I mean he's a kitten he's going to play, but it does seem to help both him and my older girl cat with aggression and whining a lot. My girl is a whiner "I wanna go out!!!" cat too. Anything stronger than this though and you'll need a script from your vet. They can put a cat on sedatives but I'd try this first.
http://www.amazon.com/Natures-Miracle-Stress-Calming-8-Ounce/dp/B004WCTQIO

u/mrdantownsend · 1 pointr/AdviceAnimals

The one I bought, I saw the same one at PetSmart for close to 50$

u/BakedAlaska · 1 pointr/Pets

I was in a similar boat. My wife has had her cat for 14 years. We both entered her life at roughly the same time. The cat has been a minor thorn in my side from time to time. Over the last year she started acting like flipping sprinkler. Any thing is fair game couches, kids stuffed animals even a bare hardwood floor. Went to the vet, spent much cash to find out nothing is wrong physically. We were told to use kitty prozac at $50 a month. On recommendation we tried the cat spray that is all the rage. The stuff worked! It is worth a try.

u/zzisrafelzz · 1 pointr/fffffffuuuuuuuuuuuu

There are numerous medical reasons your kitten could be peeing. I have three cats, and one of them we got when he was just a few weeks old, having been weaned just a little too early. He had a severe peeing problem, where he would pee on furniture, on rugs, piles of clothing, plastic bags, and basically anything that he could pee on.
We had him tested for diabetes, bladder infection, and even brain disorder. Nothing was wrong, it was a behavioral thing. Because cats don't understand negative reinforcement (punishment basically) chiding him for peeing only made him skittish around us.
We found one thing that finally worked, and it has worked ever since.
The Feliway Diffuser ( http://www.amazon.com/Comfort-Zone-Feliway-Diffuser-Cats/dp/B003E6WSHK/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&qid=1321539101&sr=8-5 ). We have the diffuser (never tried the spray). It took about a month for it to help completely, but he has gone years now without peeing on anything other than the litter box. The key is to keep the diffuser full, keep the litter boxes as clean as possible and as smell free as possible (corn based litter with de-odorizer powder works best for us). It will take a little bit for it to take effect, to be patient, but its a better alternative than giving up the poor thing to someone else who might not have the patience to deal with the problem.
Basically its just the pheromone that cats give off in their scent glands that allows them to feel calm and comfortable. I recommend it to everyone who has issues with cat peeing that's not related to a health condition.

u/Jashyk · 1 pointr/cats

Yup, like this http://www.amazon.com/Comfort-Zone-Feliway-Diffuser-Kit/dp/B00I9SI40S/ref=sr_1_1?s=pet-supplies&ie=UTF8&qid=1464190209&sr=1-1&keywords=feliway

We use one of these until it runs out, then we just buy refills when our cats start to get stir crazy again. You don't need to be running them all the time.

It seems to help calm down our one wild cat when he can't sleep. Just put it in a higher traffic area that she walks by a lot, we have ours in the hallway, but you could even put it right in your bedroom if you want for max effect.

Worth a shot!

u/Pasteque · 1 pointr/Pets

It sounds like you are mostly on the right track with keeping it slow and using positive reinforcement. I would also recommend building her a cat superhighway to help her explore and get to know August from a safe distance and possibly getting a Feliway diffuser to calm her down.

If she played well with him under the door, have you tried playing with her while he in sight, maybe in the distance in another room? You could also try stacking two baby gates in the office doorway between where Pepper lives and the rest of the house. That way she could see August and get used to his presence, but she would be prevented from attacking him.

u/[deleted] · 1 pointr/AskReddit

Have you tried the calming sprays? http://www.amazon.com/Natures-Miracle-No-Stress-Calming-Spray/dp/B004WCTQIO It's worth a try.

u/0112358_ · 1 pointr/beyondthebump

Have you tried the feline away plug in? I've used them when high stress situations for the cats AK moving new baby excetera and it's really help to calm them down. They're expensive so I only use them for a month or two but after that the cats have seemed to adjust to the new situation. https://www.amazon.com/Feliway-Classic-Plug-Diffuser-Refill/dp/B07R7ZB251?ref_=ast_bbp_dp

u/peanutbuddy · 1 pointr/Dogtraining

I use a calming cap to keep my reactive dog from barking at other dogs from the car. It's amazing. It put it over her eyes and she instantly relaxes and lays down in the back seat. She looks absolutely ridiculous wearing it and I'm a little embarrassed driving around my neighborhood with my blindfolded dog in the back seat, but it works. It didn't take too long to train her to wear it either.

u/antilumin · 1 pointr/cats
u/Cocobean4 · 1 pointr/cats

I had a cat that had separation anxiety and would pee every time I left the house. I bought a feliway diffuser and that helped a lot. However, it didn’t help my current cat but it could be worth a shot. Honestly, I’m not getting a good impression of your bf.

u/slemoine94 · 1 pointr/CatAdvice

Don't use Fabreze. Feliway spray is the appropriate product for this issue. You can get it at Petco/Petsmart, but I suggest Amazon if you have Amazon Prime http://www.amazon.com/Comfort-Zone-Feliway-Spray-75/dp/B003E71E24/ref=sr_1_1?s=pet-supplies&ie=UTF8&qid=1458236485&sr=1-1&keywords=feliway+spray

There are also plug ins that work very well. I would spray the tree and use a plug in next to it.

u/PandorasTrunk · 1 pointr/AskWomen

I've driven about 250 miles with my cat, so it's not quite the same, but I suggest getting some of the calming products they make for cats. I usually use the spray form and then spray my cat's blanket and carrier with it. My sister likes to use it in collar form since her cats are already used to collars. It's not a sedative, but it's an artificial pheromone that will keep the cat feeling safe. The vet recommended it to me.

u/commondenom · 1 pointr/WeAreTheMusicMakers

get something called 'Feliway'.......it's a liquid that comes in a bottle that screws into a little unit you plug into the wall.....

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it's not expensive and contains a pheromone that'll help chill your cat out...

you should only need to use it for a month or so

https://www.amazon.co.uk/FELIWAY-CLASSIC-Day-Starter-Kit/dp/B0031TFZRK/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1542063182&sr=8-2&keywords=feliway

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also make a place tat she can call her own in the studio.....a cosy box that's fairly high up so she can keep watch, but easy to get to.....that might help make her more at ease in the room

u/annamine · 1 pointr/cats

Yeah it can be quite strange for them, you are trying and that's the important thing!
I've used this one before: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0031TFZRK/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_s8TZCb48HYRSP
But I'd give a read through the reviews of some and see what others have said. Good luck I am sure she will settle soon

u/1finefeline · 1 pointr/Pets

I would say give Feliway a try. I was a non-believer until I tried it for my cat with anxiety and I can't believe the difference, it started working within just a few hours. She calmed down and was once again willing to do normal things like eat, use the litter box, etc. without being scared of everything she saw.

u/nondescript_purpose · 1 pointr/cats

CEVA Animal Health FELIWAY MultiCat Starter Kit for Cats (Diffuser and 48 ml Vial) https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01AVHPFDS/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_TYJyCb05TTBSF

This works! They also make collars, and sprays.

u/Ellaana · 1 pointr/OctoberBumpers2017

I have the same problem with one of my cats. We've had luck in the past with this pheromone stuff, but it doesn't fix everything. We've ended up just locking her in a room by herself with a litter box. Seems to have fully solved her anxiety. My husband works from home in that room with her so she still gets attention.

If you haven't tried before, this stuff has been great for us. It doesn't work for every problem/cat, but I had a lot of luck with it. Sorry you have to deal with this, I know how heartbreaking and frustrating it is.
Comfort Zone Feliway Diffuser Kit for Cat Calming https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00I9SI40S/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_-W8BzbW587RH6

u/Baphomeme · 1 pointr/germanshepherds

Oh shit, I can actually relate to this. I moved in with my GF about 4 months ago. I brought my cat with me and then we got our GSD 2 months ago. Seven (the cat) became difficult. Shitting on the floor while staring at us, growling like Satan had just been jabbed with a red hot iron, all that kinda shit. We bought this plug-in thing by Feliway and within about 2 days she totally calmed down. She went from being unable to be within 20 feet of Blue (the dog) to being able to sitting next to him pretty comfortably. She does run away if he moves too quickly but you would too if there was some animal which was 4 times your size suddenly moving while you’re walking past.

Along with the Feliway stuff, we also dog-proofed the flat. We put a baby gate up in a place where they’d both have equal roam of the place and the cat can decide if she wants to be in the room or not. We bought a tall scratching post so she has somewhere where she can be in the same room as him but not at the same level. We also made sure that she has a safe place where she can hide that the dog can’t get to in anyway. As long as they have a couple places where the dog can’t get to, I’m sure everything will be grand.

If you need anymore tips just PM me, I’m happy to help.

Here’s a link to the Feliway stuff; https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0031TFZRK/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_R86NDbCHHCZ44

Edit; Forgot to mention this. If you do put a baby gate up, put the cat food on one side and the dog food on the other but a little out of the way so they can’t exactly see each other. If you can’t put a gate up, you can do it with a closed door instead. It’ll help them to get used to eachother scents while keeping them separated and let them know that they aren’t a danger to one another. I’d also recommend one of you being on one side of the gate and the other on the other side and feeding the animals treats until they’re eating about an inch away from each other. This also really helped our animals to get used to each other

u/GenesisPO1008 · 1 pointr/cats
u/cyd23 · 1 pointr/cats

you can buy Feliway! it's great and most of the adoption centers have them for all the cats n.n https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01AVHPFDS/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_zAULDbV9FTJDR

u/crazy_cat_lady_5 · 1 pointr/cats

My female cat had a horrible habit of peeing and pooing in rooms where we'd buy new stuff. For instance I bought a feather blanket, she promptly pee'd on it. Bought home a new bath rug, promptly poo'd on it. She hated change. Our vet suggested a ComfortZone plug-in and it worked perfectly. It calms the cat down and relaxes them so they don't act out as much. You plug it into the wall and change it out in about 30 days. I would start with just one in the problem room. We had two initially and after a while we stopped using them with no more problems.

When we moved and bought a new couch I was afraid the move and new furniture would trigger her stress again so I put one in the living room with the new couch and one in the room where we kept the litter. No problems at all! They also make a spray and we used that on her cat bed during the move to keep her calm. In our opinion it really did wonders! I hope that helps!

Edit: Just wanted to mention that there is no scent to the human nose. It's like pheromones only the cat detects.

u/hgbleackley · 1 pointr/Pets

It will take a while while they both adjust. I was in a similar position; my female cat could have been better and we wondered if she needed a friend. We got one, a kitten, and did the long method of introduction (which involves keeping the new cat/kitten in a separate room for about a week! I can go into more detail if you want). It went well. They are good friends now, and my first cat has benefitted immensely from having a companion.

It's a tough choice; if they don't get along, neither will be happy (not to mention YOU won't be happy either!). But if they do, you could be providing a richer environment for your existing kitty, and saving another from the shelter.

If you are unsure, I would see what options the shelter has, like if, after a month, you know it's not going to work, can they take the kitty back. That would suck for the cat from the shelter, but in the end they should go to a home where they'd work out forever.

Oh I have a suggestion- to make the transition easier for both animals, try getting a pheromone diffuser- I did it and I think it helped in the adjustment process. Feliway was what I used and I will recommend it! It doesn't work for every cat, but if it does it really works. It worked for my problem cat and made quite a difference.

I hope you try getting a second cat and that it works out. Good luck!

u/million_dollar_heist · 1 pointr/cats

I've heard that the collars don't work. I've had no experience with the collars. Can't hurt to try it. But the plugins are what most people say works.

The plugins are what I was going to recommend if a bladder problem was ruled out. (I have another recommendation, too, see end of comment.) You shouldn't need a pheromone plugin in every room in the house, only in the places where he tends to pee. Dog beds, for example - make sure there's a plugin near the dog beds.

As far as price is concerned, buying online will save you money. I hope these links will work: Amazon has 6 refills for $73.57 at the moment and PetCo does bulk purchasing at reduced prices, $84.99 for 6 refills at the moment. You can also schedule repeat delivery at a reduced price. Check around the internet for better deals if you like.

Try the product and see if you notice an improvement. I know $73.57 for 6 bottles isn't incredibly cheap, but it's really not that bad considering you should get about a month out of each bottle and may not need one in every room.

I know there's at least one dog in your house, which may be causing this territorial behaviour. I don't know if you have other cats. In addition to the plugins, many people find that adding vertical space to the environment, for example a cat tree or cat shelves, resolves their cats' territorial anxieties. For cats, having a high place to climb up and observe is quite important. If you don't want to spend the money to buy a cat tree or shelves, both can be made inexpensively with materials from the hardware store, and as a bonus they're really fun to make.

u/stillnotaswan · 1 pointr/PetBehavior

Have you considered placing him in another room for mealtimes? That way, your other cats can eat in peace.

You may want to consider portioning his meals using a timed feeder. I own a similar one, with an ice pack built in for wet food, available on Amazon as well. You can set it to dispense food up to 5 times per day. I’ve also heard that these are good for cats that eat too fast, as they have to “hunt” for their food little by little (alternatively, you can also hide his food in small portions around whatever room he eats in, inside puzzle feeders, etc). I think the food dispenser is probably easiest. The version I linked to above is $36, but I’m sure you can find it cheaper on OfferUp or eBay.

As for fighting, Jackson Galaxy and Pam Johnson-Bennett have some great suggestions. Pam has a great reintroduction guide here. They also stress the importance of playing with your cat to get any excess energy or aggression out.

My guess for why he attacks the other cat may be some insecurity on his part about his status in the home. Do you have any cat trees, or high perches where he can sit? That may help him feel secure. Does he get to spend adequate time with you? I know it sounds silly, but some studies now show that cats view their owners in the same way that children view their parents, in contrast to dogs, who view their owners as pack leaders. Maybe your cat feels like the child who is always getting disciplined (however well-deserved it may be). In either case, reintroduction would likely be the first thing to try. It can take weeks, but it may be worth it for some peace in the home.

Another option is Feliway Multicat . It is a diffuser system (and I believe they have a spray version) designed for homes with multiple cats. The diffuser contains artificial pheromones designed to mimic the ones produced by a mother cat to calm her kittens. A friend of mine volunteers at a local shelter that utilizes these extensively to help keep the peace among their cats, and I know they’re quite popular in households with cats that don’t get along. It’s a pricey product and you may need multiple diffusers throughout your home for adequate reach, but again, you may find them cheaper elsewhere. Additionally, you can try placing them specifically where the two cats fight.

Good luck with everything. If you do choose to re-home your cat, the best thing would be to find him a loving home yourself, or at the very least, be sure you are looking at no-kill shelters (they often have waiting lists, by the way, so you’ll likely have to wait a bit - but it would save his life!) Be transparent about his issues and his need to be an only cat (in probably an adults-only home) so he can be placed where he’d be a good fit.

I hope it all works out for you and you can all live peacefully together!

u/sls9198 · 1 pointr/needadvice

I agree with other commenters, there is likely another cause that isnt a brain issue or serious medical issue.

I would purchase a pheromone diffuser first, these help to settle anxious cats. It sounds like your cat might be anxious, stressed or bored.
In my country the best recommended diffuser is the feliway, but there may be different options in your country.

(https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0031TFZRK/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_9qKOCbVJBM9ZE)

u/Hyper_Threaded · 1 pointr/Pets

It could be some sort of pheromone imbalance when there are just 2 females without any males. I believe there are pheromone collars that help calm pets.. have you tried one of those?

edit: something like this

u/Wescyde · 1 pointr/cats

A vet recommended something like this to me for my cat. Not this brand but wanted to give you something to follow and research more

Pet MasterMind Cool Kitty Cat Calming Pheromone Spray 8OZ https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01BRWPHH0/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_VmZbBbHPZQ9DA

u/TactlessButTrue · 1 pointr/NoStupidQuestions

Cats, unlike dogs, bond to territories not to people.
If you moved the cat into a different location it may take quite an adjustment period before she goes back to her happy self.
When I moved cross country it took one of my cats several months to settle in.

Get some Feliway and spray it around. It mimics the pheromones that make cats feel secure and at home in unfamiliar places.

https://www.amazon.com/Feliway-Feline-Behavior-Spraying-Scratching/dp/B018BVZFG8/

u/czer0wns · 1 pointr/cats

I bought a 2-pack of Feliway two weeks ago, and my cats no longer fight. Had 2 of them that would tussle several times a day, and they slept together on the bed last night for the first time.

So yeah, in my opinion, they work.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00I9SI40S

u/BournGamer · 1 pointr/AskVet

First off, thanks so much for the reply!


Now in regards to what you said...

  • I get the feeling that stress is probably the cause but I'm honestly unsure of ways to calm him. He likes to play but he very picky with how/when that happens.


  • A tree/more vertical space is probably long overdue


  • Do you know if this would be good for his stress?

  • We currently have two litter boxes and are tight on space but I suppose a third could work


  • Thanks for the suit idea! It could save me a lot of time
u/EdenBlade47 · -1 pointsr/pics

>we punish him

Well like I just said, that won't do anything. Ever. The chances of that having any positive effect on his behavior is exactly 0. So fuck off with that, you're pointlessly pissing off the cat and achieving no results.

Keep the litterboxes as clean as possible, which is easy enough to do with a cleaning in the morning and at night- shouldn't take more than 5 minutes. Make sure they're big enough for the cat and deep enough for enough litter (3" deep is generally recommended). Use this shit. It's cheap and cats love it. Don't have a litterbox near where they eat, cats like to keep all their businesses separate- food, water, and litter locations shouldn't be close together.

"Litterboxes" wasn't a typo by the way, the rule of thumb is that you should have one litterbox per cat in the house plus an additional litterbox. One cat = two boxes, two cats = three boxes, three cats = four boxes etc etc etc. Have them be somewhat spread throughout the house. Have one in your room or bathroom if your cat goes there a lot.

If your cat is "marking" aggressively then pheromone diffusers can sometimes help, but it really varies from individual to individual and it can take 2 weeks or so before it typically has a result, so it's kind of frustrating to use it if it doesn't end up doing anything. If you're out of options then you may as well try, though.

Is your cat declawed by any chance? Declawed cats fucking despise litter because it irritates their amputated toe stumps so they tend to poop outside of the box.