Best childrens health books according to redditors
We found 298 Reddit comments discussing the best childrens health books. We ranked the 113 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the top 20.
We found 298 Reddit comments discussing the best childrens health books. We ranked the 113 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the top 20.
The intelligent thing to do is to discuss your goals with your pediatrician. Smart pediatricians understand the risks and will help you plan your vaccine schedule.
Our children are going to get all the standard vax shots - BUT we are doing:
Lastly - this type of vaccine planning is not for amateurs. It is important to either strictly follow the accepted CDC schedules or plan carefully with your pediatrician after you yourself are well informed.
EDIT: The best book I've found on vaccines is linked below. Very readable:
http://www.amazon.com/Vaccine-Book-Decision-Parenting-Library/dp/0316017507/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1280253948&sr=8-1
EDIT #2:
Downthread, kylev links to a page that points out inaccuracies in Sears' book above
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>It should be noted that Dr. Sears, while managing to encourage a few otherwise wary parents to get vaccinations for their kids, has also gotten a lot wrong in that book.
> href="http://www.sciencebasedmedicine.org/?p=512
> SBM has a long article to correct some of the misconceptions and inaccuracies. Truly geeky reading and educational!
> It should be noted that the CDC schedule is based on scientific studies with a slight eye toward convenience (to get the best coverage without too many visits). Sears' schedule is based on a few errors and a desire to minimize fears that parents have (many of which are unfounded). It's not bad to consider fear, but it may also leave children at risk.
I'm a 3rd year medical student, on my 5th week of pediatrics, we had a lecture on vaccines today. Apparently there's an "alternative" vaccination schedule proposed in The Vaccine Book where at least the MMR (Measles, mumps, rubella) vaccine can be broken up to be given in smaller or broken up doses over more visits, I don't know about other vaccines.
Book is legit, written by a licensed pediatrician completes the current vaccination schedule appropriately, just in a different manner. The end difference is that you have to take your kid to the doctor a bunch more-->more copays-->more money for the pediatrician.
The end result, really is that some pediatricians don't have a problem with it, moreso ones in private practice, because they get more business and money for doing something that has the same health effect as the less financially beneficial path.
Could you argue that spacing out the doses puts kids at higher risk for preventable infections? Yeah, but I guess the schedule isn't TOOOOO different to make it a big issue.
As far as Trump saying that the kid got a fever a week later? Yeah, that can be a known side effect of certain vaccines. Your physician should let you know about that when they give them to you/your kid, but the fever isn't a serious problem at all unless you're already febrile and/or/maybe have a low threshold for seizures...which you probably don't.
TLDR; There is an alternative schedule which delivers the same amount and type of medication as the traditional method, but takes more time and costs more money.
This should make for some fine reading.
Happiest Baby on the Block saved my sanity with my first. The shushing thing is a big part if it.
Here's some unsolicited advice on getting sweet tiny babies to go to sleep. read this: The Happiest Baby on the Block; Fully Revised and Updated Second Edition: The New Way to Calm Crying and Help Your Newborn Baby Sleep Longer https://www.amazon.com/dp/0553393235/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_0zmoxb183CF91
Or just watch this video: http://youtu.be/mm3aJ78TXak
If anyone is wants to read a good book on vaccines and how ridiculous the anti-vax position is, I recommend Autism's False Prophets.
It is an incredibly enlightening read.
Edit: "anti-vax" not "ant-vax," I kinda want ant-vax...
> I don't want a diagnosis via internet forum, but does it make sense to go against my therapist (who won't ever diagnose me with Asperger's because I can communicate OK with him one-on-one) and pursue a diagnosis from a specialist?
Yes, it absolutely makes sense. I've seen so many reports from others who have been in a similar situation, diagnosed multiple times with various conditions, with the possibility of Asperger's/autism repeatedly dismissed on superficial grounds, as if the mind isn't full of layers, many of which are hidden beneath the surface.
> Could it be that I flew under the radar for so long?
Indeed. Especially as a woman, there's a strong bias to attribute your behaviors and qualities to anything other than Asperger's. This bias exists both in general culture (for example, hormones are used to explain away so many female behaviors without any real consideration) and in the culture of the mental health profession (largely due to the original research decades ago focusing on male children, almost completely ignoring both females of any age and adults of any gender).
I'm a male myself, but it wasn't until recently, when the profession started to wake up to the possibility of Asperger's being just as prevalent in women as it is in men, that I started finding resources that I really connected with. Thus, I suspected I had Asperger's when I was 24, but it was only once I was 32 and revisited the subject that I found all the stories by other "under-the-radar" aspies, many of them women, and could truly connect with those experiences, learning from them and learning about myself more deeply. I certainly have some male stereotypes too, but the stereotypes have done a lot of harm, causing many people to go unrecognized for so long.
> And does anyone have tips for pursuing a diagnosis?
I just got done reading the book I Think I Might Be Autistic: A Guide to Autism Spectrum Disorder Diagnosis and Self-Discovery for Adults, and I think it could be a useful read for you. Some of the details of the middle chapters are US-specific, so their usefulness will depend upon your location, as the diagnosis process differs quite a bit throughout the world. It's also a quick read. (I should have gotten this book a while ago; I had read the author's second book on the subject, Nerdy, Shy, and Socially Inappropriate, over a year ago and loved it, as well as many articles on her blog Musings of an Aspie, and her first book indeed had the same quality.)
A somewhat longer book which I'd also recommend, with more of a focus on the reflective and emotional side of the diagnostic process, and less on the concrete details, is Very Late Diagnosis of Asperger Syndrome (Autism Spectrum Disorder): How Seeking a Diagnosis in Adulthood Can Change Your Life.
I'd also recommend considering finding a therapist/counselor who specializes in adult Asperger's/ASD, without necessarily focusing on an official diagnosis, at least in the short term. If you can relate to the experiences shared by adult aspies, and you feel like you are obtaining deeper self-understanding and highly applicable advice from books and online, it only stands to reason that you could find similar help from a counselor who is willing to approach your situation from that angle. I found a great counselor by very cautiously reading through the descriptions on the Psychology Today therapist search page. Might've gotten a little lucky that my first pick was a good pick, but it worked for me. Also, insurance might complicate this; I paid out of pocket, so I was free to go wherever for whatever reason.
So yeah, that's the essence of my advice: Self-directed research through books, blogs, and online communities, a sympathetic counselor regardless of current diagnostic status, and plenty of time and space for introspection. Also, be liberal with the self-love; when a person internalizes the perceived expectations of the society around them and feels like they are always failing to satisfy those expectations, it can be brutally debilitating, and can easily become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Learning how to wisely choose and live by my own expectations was one of the best things I've ever done.
One last thing - we have a saying - if you know one person with autism, you know one person with autism :) So this:
>Finn just knows his brother and how his brother is, so is of "little" help in the way I need
is not necessarily true :) All you need to know is how Finn is, and you can go from there.
May I also recommend /r/aspergers ? They have some excellent job and lifestyle related information over there as well...
BTW - haven't mentioned this - but i think what you are doing is FANTASTIC. I cannot imagine how trapped and distressed Finn must be feeling in his current situation. You sound like such a loving person. I really hope this works out for you all !!
Dad of two kids here.
Buy these two books -
https://www.amazon.com/Happiest-Block-Revised-Updated-Second/dp/0553393235
https://www.amazon.com/Healthy-Sleep-Habits-Happy-Child/dp/0553394800
...read them twice and commit to them.
"Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" is sometimes difficult to put into practice, but once you do, your kid will sleep through the night. If you don't believe me, believe the Amazon reviews.
The other thing I would suggest is if you have the money and space, bring the gym home. I have a rowing machine at home. You don't need a gym to do pushups, sit-ups and burpees.
I highly recommend the book [Autism's false prophets](
http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/023114637X/ref=mp_s_a_1?qid=1346834477&sr=8-1)
It goes over in detail the whole thing and is very accessible even to someone not familiar with the debate.
The trouble is your friend sounds like they are unwilling to even hear arguments against it if they don't trust the CDC.
Let me take each of those points individually though.
>She gave me a few links such as http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fyCJkiHykkk&fb_source=message and http://www.naturalnews.com/036328_Merck_mumps_vaccine_False_Claims_Act.html . As a result, she doesn't trust any links to the CDC. she also uses a lot of anecdotal evidence, which I can easily dismiss, but I haven't read much on the subject. Her focus seems to be on weakening our immune systems with drugs. Here are a few gems;
Our immune systems aren't weakened with drugs or vaccines. Vaccines actually strengthen our immune systems by allowing them to make antibodies to introduced pathogens. Same way the body would if you actually got the disease but without the risk of death or permanent injury that comes from many childhood diseases.
> Go ahead and read the CDC's list of vaccines ingredients and look up what each ingredient does to the body (even in the "small" doses they use) and virologists STILL don't know, and even claim so, what the interaction between all these ingredients with each other even are. It's just a cocktail of poisonous neurotoxins.
Relevant Skeptoid.
>during teething, a specific hormone is released into the infant's body to help decrease pain and stress, and this hormone just happens to open to a direct pathway to the baby's developing brain, so when injected with these vaccines at this age, the neurotoxins have direct access to actual brain tissues.
Not true. Vaccines do not show any signs of neurotoxicity in the general population and the overwhelming majority of research shows this. Also, I'm no neurologist but I'm doubtful about this hormone stuff.
> These vaccines suppress our natural immune systems, sometimes cause genetic mutations, ravage our neurological system and cause many things all the way into adulthood and beyond: Hodgkin's disease, lupus, cancers, lukemia, diabetes; mental illnesses like depression, bipolor disorder, increases or decreases in the production of natural chemicals integral to a balanced mental well-being like serotonin, norepinephrine, and melotonin.
Vaccines do not suppressed our immune system, they obviously don't know how either vaccines or our immune systems work. Vaccines work by provoking an immune response from our body. Basically we hand our immune system a dead or deactivated pathogen and then let the immune system develop antibodies for that pathogen.
> recently released information, some published by the FDA, surprisingly, and by the pharmaceutical (spelling??) Companies that actually manufacture the vaccines and how there is no evidence vaccines even work on humans.
Not true. The overwhelming majority of studies confirm that they work and are safe.
> I listened to a news report on NPR that a vaccine manufacturer just released an apology because it falisified its lab results- they used samples with animal cells and animal DNA, not human, to publish their findings, but the CEO of the company ordered the employees to lie so sales wouldn't decrease.
[Citation needed]. From a reputable source too, not natural news or age of autism (to show how great a source age of autism is they had a thanksgiving post a few years ago where they photo shopped Steve novella, Paul offit and others eating a baby).
> children vaccinated for say whooping cough for example where over 89% GOT whooping cough. 100% of children who were not vaccinated never got it.
Not true again, whooping cough is making a resurgence in areas where vaccination rates are low and has killed some unvaccinated children.
> *We are the only nation that has mandatory vaccinations and also the country with the highest number required- 17!! 17 vaccines before the age of 10. Europe, for example, lists only 7, and they AREN'T mandatory either; that being said, we are also the nation with the highest number of cases of autism, behavioral issues in children, brain damage, SIDS, you name it, all linked to vaccines and the harmful ingredients used to make them.
Not true. There are no reputable studies linking vaccines to brain damage or anything else of that nature in general populations. As for whether the US is the only country requiring vaccines... I don't even think we require them.
Also as for the number of vaccines, it is irrelevant. Some have said that the increased number of vaccines are too much of a shock to immune systems, but when you actually look at proteins in our vaccines vs older vaccines then older ones should have proven to be much more shocking as there were many more proteins to be immunized against in older versions of vaccines. I can't remember any of the citations off the top of my head, and while my girlfriend is stealing my computer to watch her silly vampire shows I only have my phone to help me out here. All of this and a ton more is talked about in the book I mentioned earlier.
If you want to learn more about a good, safe vaccination schedule, I highly recommend Dr Paul Thomas's book The Vaccine-Friendly Plan
It's a lighter, more spaced out schedule than the CDC one.
There's also a 9 page pdf with a summary of the plan.
If you have the ability to start ABA, take advantage. I've been a therapist for the last decade, and I have seen world's change for these kids with the right therapy. I worked with a little girl who came to the clinic a little older than two. She wouldn't let her dad touch her and she screamed all of the time. Her poor father had never hugged his daughter. Now she is in a typical class and has tons of language. Her life got completely turned around by ABA therapy. One little boy came to us at age two and he only like to watch lint fall and he had no language. He is also mainstreamed and was able to have his diagnosis removed. Another young man was functional in high school, but was completely rigid and did not engage in conversation. After his senior year and three years of ABA, he got an internship st a hospital and was able to carry on simple conversations. ABA, when implemented properly, is as close to magic as I've ever seen.
I highly recommend this book:
The Verbal Behavior Approach: How to Teach Children With Autism and Related Disorders https://www.amazon.com/dp/1843108526/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_awd_Hhtywb1FT6Y8S
I'm sorry you have to go through this. All is not lost, your son is so young that early intervention can have a profound effect. Find a support group and educate yourself on the rights of your child. It won't be easy, but you're his mother and you can do it.
I got my Dx at 23. Until my therapist brought it up, I had no clue. I was getting MBCT for depression and he noticed a strong Aspie pattern going back through my whole life, so he referred me to an expert on women with AS/ASD.
I filled out a long questionnaire, took some tests, and did an interview (~2 hours). I got the formal results a few days later, but informally the psychologist who did the eval confirmed that I was an Aspie at the end of the interview. (That was when that was still an "allowed" Dx in the U.S.)
I was highly skeptical, mainly because I had a lot of misinformation about autism. It actually took me longer to accept my Dx than to get it. I had to learn a lot about women with autism first.
The key bit of luck for me was that my therapist had an Aspie sister-in-law who was a nurse. Otherwise he probably wouldn't have been as well-informed.
I suggest watching Tony Attwood's videos on his research about Aspie women and reading Cynthia Kim's blog, Musings of an Aspie, and her two books.
Here are the links:
Good luck on your journey of self-discovery!
I think there are books out there about how to navigate the vaccine system with these concerns in mind.
here is one
While I was doing inventory, one of the formula goody-boxes had a copy of the book Your Baby's First Year. Pretty swank.
Maybe just research social skills training. My GP recommended it to me. There are truly a dizzying array of resources available.
Another thing that helped me when I was younger and undiagnosed was acting classes and participating in plays. It's kind of being thrown into the deep end to learn to swim, but it was quite helpful for me as a lot of social interaction is simply acting.
https://www.anxietybc.com/self-help/effective-communication-improving-your-social-skills
https://www.verywell.com/how-to-tell-if-someone-is-lying-p2-3024854
https://www.amazon.ca/Social-Skills-Picture-Book-School/dp/1932565353/ref=pd_sim_14_2?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=W7CY3F5QCH03ZP8GQ8GV
https://www.amazon.com/Social-Skills-Teenagers-Asperger-Syndrome/dp/1843108763
http://www.succeedsocially.com/helpaspergers
http://www.wikihow.com/Develop-Social-Skills-as-an-Autistic-Person
https://education.ucsb.edu/sites/default/files/autism_center/images/Koegel,%20Ashbaugh,%20Koegel,%20Detar,%20Regester%20(2013)%20Increasing%20socialization%20ina%20dults%20with%20Asperger's%20syndrome_1.pdf
http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2009/11/24/aspergers-syndrome-at-the-office-6-ways-to-be-less-annoying/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HJwq7gg2Pw0
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=az8vpzxZkj4
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xGreUClPRgc&list=PLyI3P7xTuJi2JZddqVtLXFoJSocKHCZ6s
Happiest Baby on the Block is a great book for anyone/everyone.
Baby Brain Rules is one both my SO and I enjoyed, lots of science there.
We did not really read any books on the childbirth topic, just internet and a 5 week course at the hospital. I wish you luck!
Oh sweetie, I think this is something everyone thinks about, and I don't know if you ever really feel "ready" to have kids. I know that I didn't--but 2 healthy kiddos later, we figured it out. We wanted to wait until we both had jobs, had our living situation figured out, and had been married for at least a couple of years. We felt "ready" and we started to try. I was still terrified when I found out I was expecting. Only you and your partner can decide when you feel "ready", but realize that it will never be the perfect time to have kids. Also, as a woman, you do want to keep in mind that the older you get, the harder it might be to get pregnant. (Not for everyone, but statistically.) It's something to keep in mind as you plan.
If you feel like you might be almost ready, talk to your partner about it. Talk about your hesitations. Are they big giant roadblock? of just little speed bumps? Does he have any ideas on how to work through them with you? Are you scared about being pregnant? having the baby? caring for the baby? What are your (and his) concerns?
Once you feel like you have worked through your major concerns, maybe set a date to stop trying to prevent (you have been using something to not get pregnant, right? that's important too) or a date to start trying. We waited until after a big trip we had been planning. Then, keep talking. Share your fears with him. Talk through them together. Maybe do some research or learning. It helped me to read about what to expect. Some books that I enjoyed or found helpful were:
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If you like to read, maybe give one or two a shot. You can also check out /r/Parenting and/or /r/BabyBumps to see what real parents are saying. Try to find some local moms to talk to about their experience--they can be a good support group later too.
If you are a planner, do some checking on things that you might need to know about (daycare, pediatricians, etc) if that makes you feel better. Look at costs, locations, ratings, whatever you need to do to feel secure.
Realize that even if you decide you are "ready" you may still freak out a little bit once it happens. Having a baby is scary and life changing, but that's okay! You can do this! You are awesome!
Also, here's a little secret that no one talks about --no one knows what they are doing with raising kiddos, we all just fake it til we make it and muddle our way through the best we can. I still feel like I'm just pretending to be an grown up with kids.
Read Autism's False Prophets. This books cites numerous accounts of areas which stopped vaccinating and still had rises in cases of ASD (as well as spikes in preventable disease), of meta-studies about ASD and the lack of correlation between the diagnosis and being vaccinated, and it covers in depth Andrew Wakefield's study that purported a correlation (in just a handful of children); it also discusses the methodological and ethical errors of said study.
Also, this study which suggests that ASD occurs during pregnancy, not after.
people may believe these kind of things. But i dont think anyone would risk their child's live by avoiding these kind of medicines, just by believing these whatsapp/fb videos. Dont worry so much.
Seems like healer baskar is talking about this book: https://www.amazon.com/Vaccine-Book-Decision-Parenting-Library/dp/0316180521/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1486266298&sr=1-1
has anyone read this book? or know what it is about?
These are a couple books/resources I found most helpful:
https://www.amazon.com/Heading-Home-Your-Newborn-Reality/dp/1581108931
https://www.amazon.com/Your-Baby-Child-Birth-Five/dp/0375712038
https://www.amazon.com/Your-Baby-Speaking-You-Behaviors/dp/0547242956
https://www.healthychildren.org/English/Pages/default.aspx
https://www.circleofsecurityinternational.com/
https://www.marchofdimes.org/nursing/modnemedia/othermedia/states.pdf (This is a great explanation of newborn states of arousal. However, I think the information at the end about co-sleeping may be out of date at this point.)
This is my favorite breastfeeding resource. If you are formula feeding, the AAP book as well as Penelope Leach's book both have good guidance. Formula fed babies, like breastfed babies, should be fed on cue/demand, and allowed to determine their feeding volume and schedule. https://education.possumsonline.com/programs/gestalt-breastfeeding-online-program
http://www.zerotothree.org is a great reference for normal development and milestones.
This is a great read about co-regulation, or the process of how babies and children learn to self-regulate:
https://fpg.unc.edu/sites/fpg.unc.edu/files/resources/reports-and-policy-briefs/Co-RegulationFromBirthThroughYoungAdulthood.pdf
Lots of people hate on Ferber, but his book Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems has good information on sleep cycles. You don't necessarily have to implement all his techniques, although in some circumstances they are useful.
There are a lot of different soothing techniques out there. The Happiest Baby on the Block covers the basics. Most newborns like to be held flexed with firm touch. They like movement. They like to be close to another human. They like access to their hands. A baby who is in a frantic or crying state (see the march of dimes link) often needs help to come back down to a quiet alert or drowsy state, and soothing by an adult caregiver can be the key. You don't necessarily have to soothe them all the way into sleep, though, especially as a newborn. Sometimes just getting them calm and drowsy is enough that they can do the rest. In addition, a baby who is crying too frantically will have a hard time latching on to a breast or bottle so it is a good idea to feed before they become frantic since it can be difficult to soothe them if they are frantic with hunger. However, even offering a pacifier or finger to suck on, gently bouncing, or holding them can help them get calm enough to eat.
The absolute best source to outfit you for this (and them if they will read it) is Autism's False Prophets: Bad Science, Risky Medicine, and the Search for a Cure by Dr. Paul A. Offit. I would say definitely one of the quintessential rebuttals to the anti-vax crowd.
My favourite is definitely Expecting Better, as the author looks at the actual scientific evidence behind most common pregnancy do's and don'ts.
I've also bought:
And I've just ordered a pile of books from the library:
Eeee, so excited for you!
But vaccination isn't just for your child's benefit. By not vaccinating him at a young age that creates a risk for children too young to be vaccinated.
I'd also like to add that my mother did not have me vaccinated for meningitis as a child. I only found this out a matter of years ago and was furious. As my mother it was her responsibility to do everything she could to ensure my survival until I was old enough to look after myself. As for the book, anyone who wants to read some of it, the majority of it is available to read on Amazon for free. http://www.amazon.com/The-Vaccine-Book-Decision-Parenting/dp/0316180521
Also, please remember a majority of the thought to be 'problematic' vaccines in this book were using the live virus, something which is rarely if ever done with babies nowadays. Injecting your baby with saline solution and a dead virus so it's white blood cells can recognise it in the future is simply common sense. As for the "bad reactions" some kids get, a lot of them are actually just their white blood cells getting to work and ensuring that the virus is dead (which is was when injected). Just like when we get colds our glands swelling up is a good sign, it's our body fighting back, despite how uncomfortable it may be.
I have a 2.75yo boy :) We have "pew pew" (thank you, Lego Batman), hitting, throwing toys, and other roughness. We talk about how mistreating toys can turn them into trash (i.e. they break). Toys often go to time out if they can't be played with appropriately (sometimes for a day, sometimes much longer). I tell him I won't let him hit/hurt people (his older sister the usual target) and block him or use time out as needed. I think he has a need to be rough, and I try to provide him with plenty of appropriate opportunities for that. We go places where he can throw rocks, bang with sticks, and get lots of physical exercise. I also like [The Art of Roughhousing.](The Art of Roughhousing: Good Old-Fashioned Horseplay and Why Every Kid Needs It https://www.amazon.com/dp/1594744874/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_jna1AbCMFK3TB). Thankfully my husband enjoys playing this way, because although I recognize it as developmentally appropriate, I do not enjoy it myself!
I had the same issue and was able to switch to doing one shot at a time and increasing the number of visits at no charge. So instead of grouping them together at the well child visits, we got one every 2-3 weeks. It worked out great! We're on schedule and haven't had another reaction (after 1 year). I wonder if this is a possibility for you? I relate to the difficulty and fear of seeing your young baby sick but also wanting to inoculate them from worse illnesses!
Dr. Robert Sears wrote [this book on vaccines](The Vaccine Book: Making the Right Decision for Your Child (Sears Parenting Library) https://www.amazon.com/dp/0316017507/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_lmhpzbG9XEER9) and it has been a useful guide for me. The pediatrician recommended it and it's been a good source for listing ingredients, how common each disease is, and potential side effects to expect. I've found that knowing ahead of time makes it easier.
Good luck! I'm sorry you had to go through that with your new baby. I hope you find the method that works for your family.
Since you might have similar anxieties about your baby's pediatrician, and might be surprised at all the rules and details about baby health and all the check-up stuff, this is a good primer for new parents. I find the AAP books easy to understand. You could mark pages and bring it to the pediatrician with you, so you're better prepared to ask questions. I also like Dr. Sears' baby books as well. You can do this!
https://www.amazon.com/Your-Babys-First-Year-Fourth/dp/0812988450/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1499888466&sr=8-2&keywords=american+academy+of+pediatrics+birth+to+5+years
This a good resource book, it has a lot about life as a parent too: about relationships, work, etc. It goes month by month into how your child is developing and growing. https://www.amazon.com/Mayo-Clinic-Guide-Babys-First/dp/1561487503
My personal favorite is the [Mayo Clinic Guide to Your Baby's First Year] (http://www.amazon.com/Mayo-Clinic-Guide-Babys-First/dp/1561487503/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1382884091&sr=8-1&keywords=mayo+clinic+baby). It goes through a ton of things you might not already know- how to tell if baby has a skin rash, what a sleep schedule should look like, etc. My favorite part though, is that they have a chapter for each month of the first year of a baby's life that details what you can expect. Furthermore, they provide help in what you should be doing in each of those months. Hope this helps!
My wife and I looked at Mayo Clinic's Guide to healthy pregnancy. It was neat to look up what was going on on the given week. We also took a trip to Babies R' Us early on to get an appreciation of what we'll need, what we'll want, and how much everything will cost.
For after the baby comes out: The Happiest Baby on the Block and Mayo Clinic's Guide to Your Baby's First Year, also.
We have Dr. Sears's The Vaccine Book. It's fact-packed, extremely detailed and completely even-handed.
Not really software related, but:
If you you think you might suffer from a mental disorder such as depression or a learning disability like adhd/autism, get on top of it before you hit rock bottom. Many entry level CS jobs can be soul crushing if you don't have a healthy outlook or personality. The jump from a regular ritualized environment of college/university to being on your own can be difficult when your sanity depended on the regularity of that routine. The stress can easily tip you over into dark places.
Also, start the job hunt early - basically do demian0311's recomendation. Don't rely entirely on resumes and sending out cover letters. Create things and use your interests to be helpful and network with people (even if it's only on twitter).
If you think you might have autism or asperger's issues (or are just struggling with the prescribed way of doing a job hunt), highly recommend taking a look at some of the tips in Asperger's on the job - changed my life.
Strive to be 1% better, small effects tend to multiply.
I like the Mayo Clinic Guide to Baby's First Year. It discusses all aspects of baby care, but each monthly chapter has a section with a pretty large list of developmental milestones your baby should be working on. It's been pretty spot on and includes more than just the basic things I've read around the internet. It also suggests some play activities too.
The Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy is my favorite pregnancy book, and Happiest Baby on the Block is great for the newborn stage.
Mayo Clinic Guide
Happiest Baby
The book Your Child's Health helped me so much... worth the minor cost to help us stop worrying at 3am.
I'm currently reading "Heading Home With Your Newborn" and love it so far. It's written by two pediatricians/moms and has a lot of helpful info for the first few weeks and months. It includes a lot of what other books do, but also the very simple things that they tend to skip over like how to bathe the kid properly. Useful if you're a first timer!
I am currently reading a book titled The Autistic Brain by an animal biologist named Temple Grandin. She is also autistic.
I haven’t yet finished the book (on chapter 3 still), but I’ve learned that for some people with autism, genes cause developmental anomalies. Particularly, brain functionality is short in some areas, and spectacularly abundant in others. I guess those with photographic memory and good recall is one of those serendipitous gifts.
Temple Grandin also has this ability to draw detailed images from her head. She even has a diagram in her book showing an MRI scan of her own brain with the enlarged neuropathways largely responsible for that talent.
So frickin’ interesting!
I realized today that we own no less than 6 pregnancy books, but ZERO newborn care books. Sooo today I bought one: Heading Home with your Newborn! I'd also love to know what y'all are reading; any that y'all highly recommend!
in regards to alcohol. She most definitely can have a drink periodically. That is one of the biggest myths out there with breastfeeding.
Typically depending on your metabolism one ounce of alcohol such as Vodka or rum, a 4oz glass of wine, a beer will metabolize in about an hour and a half. Some people maybe an hr, some people maybe 2 or 3 hrs. Alcohol hits its peak in your blood about a half hour after consumption. Alcohol leaves your breastmilk once it is out of your blood. If you are ok to drive, you are ok to breastfeed. My kiddos tended to have a stretch of sleep from 8pm-midnight. So I would nurse them to sleep, get up and have a glass of wine 2 or 3 days a week, then follow that with some water. By the time babe was ready to nurse I was good to go.
How old is your little one? and just curious you mentioned she has sensitive nipples. is this in general or just since breastfeeding? Has babe been checked for a tongue or lip tie?These can affect the latch and cause sore nipples or damage. it can be clipped or lasered which will vastly improve the latch. Other common things for the sensitivity could be thrush or vasospasm. The soreness I wonder about plugged ducts. Is she wearing any restricting clothing? too small of a bra or one that has underwire that may be pushing on a duct near her arm pit.
Teething could go any which way. My oldest it never affected her latch, she cluster fed and that was about it. My youngest has just finished getting her molars and she got lazy with her latch. I had to spend more time making sure she was latching well but that was about it. Some kids actually nurse less cause it can hurt to suck when teething. Generally speaking if the latch is good, she should not feel the teeth.
Neither of my kiddos ever took a bottle. If I wanted to go out I waited till they were older to go longer then 2 hrs. but generally once they were past the newborn nursing stage and going longer naturally between feeds if I nursed first, left and then were back in and hr or 2 all was well. We co sleep so no reason for my partner to take over feedings, he would change the diaper and burp when needed though. Also even if your little one took a bottle, your SO still has to get up to pump to keep up her supply. she still has to pump when babe would have normally eaten. If she does not then that signals to her body to make less, since less was removed. It is a supply and demand game when it comes to breastmilk production.
www.kellymom.com is a fantastic resource and usually gives links to their sources. May want to check that out as well.
Even though this is not of popular opinion, especially on reddit.I have to say I feel your wife when it comes to vaccines. We saw some negative reactions with my oldest and she has a permanent scar now from an injection site. I myself had a negative reaction to a vaccine. We did more research when pregnant with our second and have choosen to hold off till she is 2 yrs and then re evaluate. I am leaning towards 2 In particular, but my SO does not want her to have any still. Our doctor is pro vaccine but after my reaction and our daughters he is very hesitant to move forward with vaccinations with our youngest. I read and researched a lot. It is hard cause most articles and papers are very biased. http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0316180521/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1374668468&sr=8-1&pi=SL75 this book is not as biased I found. The author is still pro vaccine, but he addresses a lot of what people worry about. Maybe it will help you understand your partners concern or even help her or you come to a consensus on what is best for your kiddo. I do believe that the parents need to agree or compromise on something that is this big of an issue.
Well I'm still in the early days, so for me the most meaningful parenting book has been The Happiest Baby on the Block by Harvey Karp. I read Outliers when it came out, which was long before I was a parent. I may give it another look, though, as I enjoyed it.
I've also been thinking a lot about the goals of parenting, and how to achieve them, so I'm interested to see what others might post.
Good on you!
You can't become a "registered behavior technician" and work with your own child but you can absolutely get the 40 hour training and have a consulting BCBA that trains, supervises, and updates the program for you.
Some other useful resources for implementing your own program are the classic Maurice and Green book and Mary Barbera's book and courses for "gung ho parents."
Congrats! One subreddit that was super helpful for me when we found out is /r/predaddit.
As for books, I would recommend The Mayo Clinic Book, as it is waaaay less scary than the "what to expect" book.
Good luck... it's the start of the best adventure. :)
When I had my son, the hospital gave us a copy of Your Baby's First Year which I found to be a helpful reference for any questions I had.
I really like the Mayo Clinic Guide to Your Baby's First Year. They provide information on diapering, feeding, bathing, etc. without advocating strongly for one position so you can make up your own mind. It's by "doctors who are parents too." (Note: the Kindle version is not really optimized for the Kindle, so get this in paperback form. This is the only Kindle book I've read that doesn't let you change the font size. It's teeny tiny, and you have to zoom in and out. I think they just captured each page as an image.)
For helping baby sleep I recommend The Happiest Baby on the Block. I haven't put his method to work yet, but it's grounded in research and I trust it.
Fixed your link:
The Art of Roughhousing: Good Old-Fashioned Horseplay and Why Every Kid Needs It
Check out this book! I've been reading it and it's great. https://www.amazon.com/Mayo-Clinic-Guide-Babys-First/dp/1561487503
Don't let random people fit you into a career based on stereotype. Asperger's is a pretty complex syndrome to begin with, and now it's technically combined as part of ASD. People didn't really have a good grasp on it before, and don't think about the range of severity when approaching this topic.
Check out Asperger's on the Job
. It's a very quick read, but features a lot of evidence-based findings and approaches for people with Asperger's to consider when dealing with the workplace (For example, the struggles with job security...). And as always, I like to point any career-curious people to My Next Move to play around and narrow down specific fields that fit their work styles and workplace preferences.
Don't start with a general doctor, even good ones probably don't know the best resources for autism spectrum (which includes aspergers). Call someone at the link below and/or spend some time online looking at google searches with something like adult+autism+resources+nova scotia along with words like "therapists", "psychiatrists", "specialists", "psychologists", and talk to some people you find in the industry for recommendations.
Also the light switch turned on for me looking at books like "Aspergers on the Job" and reading what basically was a blueprint for my mind and how I process things, so that may help. FYI, the sooner you find the right resources for you the better your life will be--I wish I did it years ago.
http://www.autismsocietycanada.ca/
http://www.amazon.ca/Aspergers-Job-Must-Have-Functioning-Employers/dp/1935274090
> You can't describe the personality of a baby.
The nursing personalities of newborns were first described and classified by Edith Banfield Jackson, MD, a Yale University researcher in the 50s:
After a couple days of this, I was reading the book Your Baby’s First Year, from the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), and came across a section, called Getting to Know Your Baby’s Feeding Patterns, that ---> described five different nursing personalities<---, including the “Excited Ineffectives” — infants who “become frantic at the sight of the breast.”
The breastfeeding types were characterized by Yale University researcher Edith Jackson, M.D., during the 1950s, when she observed hundreds of nursing newborns in the university hospital’s maternity ward. If you had a healthy, full-term baby, you might recognize your tiny sucker in one — or all — of these profiles (adapted from the AAP’s Your Baby’s First Year and the original Yale study). (Second full paragraph)
The book cited above can be found here.
Get [Happiest Baby On The Block](http://The Happiest Baby on the Block; Fully Revised and Updated Second Edition: The New Way to Calm Crying and Help Your Newborn Baby Sleep Longer https://smile.amazon.com/dp/0553393235/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_SNV2DbC29KRVP) it helped us out a lot
Start with the VB-MAPP. It’s really not that difficult to understand. Buy yourself 1 copy of the workbook and use it as a guide to write individualized treatment plans. Not everything in it is useful for every child though, particularly higher functioning kids so you will need to come up with your own goals as well. Just get out there and start gaining the experience and confidence. You will get there eventually. Also, if you need help studying, The CBA Learning Modules helped me tremendously to pass the test. They are expensive but worth it. Here are some more good resources I found helpful when I was in school.
Teaching Language to Children With Autism or Other Developmental Disabilities https://www.amazon.com/dp/0981835651/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_knMqAbP298N1D
The Verbal Behavior Approach: How to Teach Children with Autism and Related Disorders https://www.amazon.com/dp/1843108526/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_9nMqAbDP5Q2SP
Both of these are fairly easy reads with good information. The second book I have given to parents as part of their training to help them understand basic concepts they can apply at home.
Not a pregnancy book, but I love this one:
If Your Kid Eats This Book, Everything Will Still Be Okay
Funny and straightforward advice on what to do, and when to panic, and what to do.
I don't know how good it will be but I got the Mayo Clinic Guide since I have found their pregnancy book very helpful.
I just read this book and it conveys the basic concepts in a beautiful, simple way.
Ten Things Every Child with Autism Wishes You Knew
http://www.amazon.com/Things-Every-Child-Autism-Wishes/dp/1935274651/ref=pd_sim_14_4?ie=UTF8&amp;dpID=51nHl1KOasL&amp;dpSrc=sims&amp;preST=_AC_UL160_SR107%2C160_&amp;refRID=1RK2JE56ATQX4EY87Y80
Another vote for both of the Emily Oster books, and the best practical book I've read is Heading Home with Your Newborn. Also this one's not a pregnancy book but I would strongly recommend How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen if you're at all scared of the toddler through kinder stage. It's an entertaining read that aligns well with developmental psychology and has all these really funny real life examples of using the strategies from the book.
If I had to only pick a handful, I'd pick those.
I also liked the Ina May book which people will recommend a lot, but keep in mind it really is exclusively about childbirth and it's a bit crunchier than the average (though this pertains to the birth stories included more than Ina May's actual writing IMO). There's a good interview with her on the Longest Shortest Time podcast that addresses some of the things I felt the book could have benefited from stating outright to avoid sounding a little preachy at times.
If you're looking for like a detailed read that starts with absolute basics that would be especially good for anyone who hasn't researched much on pregnancy before, I would recommend Pregnancy, Childbirth, and the Newborn: The Complete Guide. It's as thick as a textbook but it doesn't read like one. They have a page in most sections directly speaking to partners as well, which is neat.
If you want a book recommendation my absolute favorite book for those first few months was Mayo Clinic Guide to Your Baby's First Year. Since your GF already has a 3 year old you might not find it as helpful as my wife and I did but it was our absolute favorite to answer all those questions you wonder in that first year.
The piece of advice I got that was the absolute best piece I receive was to go out and do things in those first few weeks. You will be tired and a lot depends on your GF's recovery but in a lot of ways your baby will be more portable in the 6 or so weeks post birth than they will be for a long time since you can leave right after they go to sleep and they hopefully just sleep through things allowing you to eat dinner and get out of the house.
I found 3-6 months to be the most isolating time because they are aware enough to make it hard to just pack them up and go to dinner or something while they sleep but they aren't able to sit in a high chair or really entertain themselves so going out with them at that age is a real ordeal and that can become very isolating.
autism's false prophets is another good read.
Definitely! And once y'all are ready, I highly recommend the Mayo Clinic Guide to Your Baby's First Year. A similar sort of practical helpfulness.
Aspergers on the Job
http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1935274090
Practical for the working aspie or his/her employer.
A lot of people in this thread seem to identify themselves as conversational narcissists. What are some techniques they can use to change their habits?
For example, some people might feel they never think of appropriate supporting questions; how could you develop this skill?
Others might have difficulty engaging with people they don't already know well; where might they practice? Bars and Toastmasters clubs are common recommendations, are there others worth checking out?
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Edit: I had a chance to look in my notes, and the best candidate I've found for practicing social skills with strangers is speed-dating. You get a lot of practice with a lot of people in a short period of time, and in addition to the normal channels of social feedback, you also get concrete confirmation of mutual attraction.
One way of increasing empathy might be to watch babies and try to figure out what they're thinking. Finally, this book is apparently pretty good for working on fundamental social skills, whether or not you're on the autistic spectrum.
The Verbal Behavior Approach: How to Teach Children With Autism and Related Disorders
http://amzn.com/1843108526
This is a fantastic place to start. It will provide you with a new framework for understanding and addressing behavior.
If you are feeling ambitious:
Applied Behavior Analysis (2nd Edition)
http://amzn.com/0131421131
This is the "bible" for ABA. It can be a little technical, but not beyond the average adult's comprehension. At the very least it will give you a reference.
Heading Home With Your Newborn: From Birth to Reality https://www.amazon.com/dp/1581108931/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_XnWBybNM51P39
I was given a copy of this book before my son was born from my cousin who'd found it helpful. Ive since given my copy to a friend and bought another for another friend. It was very helpful for a lot of instances.
Actually, IIRC (and I haven't had coffee yet so I may be wrong in which case somebody PLEASE correct me), it is/was a combination of the # of shots given at a single time and a mercury-based preservative in the vaccine that causes/caused autism.
Which is total bullshit.
I wish every time somebody said to me "But vaccines cause autism!" I had a copy of Autism's False Prophets to hand them. JFC.
48 yrs old female here. It’s all good :) there’s nothing to “face”. You now simply have a name for your wiring. You’re still the same person. & btw, autism doesn’t get caused by “childhood trauma”. You’re born autistic, so I’d question that statement..
Is this the only diagnosis they gave you? As if you’re doing EMDR, I’d assume you have PTSD as well or at least a severe anxiety condition. PTSD is brought on by trauma (or C-PTSD), but not autism, so there’s that.. & it would be your main cause for anxiety. I have a PTSD diagnosis, brought on by some events but also incl childhood abuse & it’s tough.
As for Asperger, just learn about it so that you can figure out your strength & weakness & how to best manage certain things. This book is brilliant: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Nerdy-Shy-Socially-Inappropriate-Asperger/dp/1849057575 or you can read her blog https://musingsofanaspie.com/about/. Also: https://theaspergian.com/2019/07/25/is-it-trauma-or-autism-or-both/ (this site is very good).
I know it’s all a bit much now, but try not to panic. I have a long list of “stuff”: ASD, PTSD, GAD, PDA, dyspraxia.. & yet, I’ve learnt to manage it & I’m ok, happy even. Attitude is important, as well as self care. Look at the WRAP method too, many find it useful: http://www.cwp.nhs.uk/about-us/our-campaigns/person-centred-framework/recovery-toolbox/wellness-recovery-action-plan-wrap/ - Yoga & meditation really help as well. Take care.
I read a book recently that might help in this situation. [Asperger's on the Job] (http://www.amazon.com/Aspergers-Job-Must-have-Functioning-Employers/dp/1935274090/ref=la_B0039XA9M4_1_2?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1395793100&amp;sr=1-2) gave me some good tips on how to navigate job-related situations.
I was recommended to get The Vaccine Book by Dr. Sears.
(36W FTM) I personally got it on CD to listen to on my commutes. It seems pretty balanced IMO.
Also, it IS overwhelming. I'm just researching the vaccs as they come to me in order... so... Flu, Tdap, Hep B right now.
I still haven't decided on tdap for myself yet though. I'm having a hard time. Hub is for it...
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lol. I'm an idiot and responded to my own post.
hahahaha.
Not deleting anything.
This is a great book... really good summary and is a must read for everyone that has an autistic child in their lives
http://www.amazon.com/Things-Every-Child-Autism-Wishes/dp/1935274651
Have you read The Gift of Dyslexia?
I haven't read the Dyslexic Advantage, but I can say that the Gift of Dyslexia was an awesome read.
This is a valid argument, and is the reason why I've had to seriously consider and question immunizations for my children. ALL of my immediate family, including myself, had severe reactions to vaccinations. Life threatening reactions. It leaves my children at risk for the same reactions, that statistically speaking are more severe than the diseases being protected against.
After doing a lot of reading, I've found the most informative source to be from Dr. Robert Sears which has helped me figure out how to best tackle this dilemma. For my children, our pediatrician and I have agreed upon a delayed tentative vaccine schedule. Most of the vaccines are for early infant or childhood illnesses, and by the time they are old enough to handle the vaccines they will be irrelevant. But other lifetime immunities will need to be addressed and scheduled separately. Kind of complicated, but our pediatrician has been awesome about helping us figure this out.
A couple of books:
What to Expect When You're Expecting
Your Baby's First Year
Also, while she is pregnant, be prepared to go to the grocery store at any hour. You could be stocked with any food you could think of, and she'll crave [insert food you don't have at home].
My wife craved Frankenberry...
I will give you a recommendation, but it's not about raising the kid. It's about when your kid needs medical attention, and when it's not a big deal.
It's called, If your kid eats this book, everything will still be ok.
We like this one, it's not just a for dads, but we've used it a lot. We got it for free from our pediatrician with some Similac formula (even though we were planning to breastfeed). It's from the American Academy of Pediatrics. http://www.amazon.com/Your-Babys-First-Year-Third/dp/0553593005/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1324619278&amp;sr=1-2
Check out these two books. They should have plenty of cited information in them, plus they are quite good.
Autism's False Prophets
The Panic Virus
One of my wife's friends wrote this one...not a bad book, I suppose. Lots of good information about pregnancy, things that are good to know from the dad's perspective.
The one your wife is going to read, and you should also read, is the classic What to Expect book. That's sort of the "pregnancy bible", lots of really good information in there, most women read it.
Another one that I really got a lot out of is If Your Kid Eats This Book, Everything Will Be OK. That's written by an ER doctor who talks about how to tell the normal illnesses and maladies that aren't worrisome from the ones that you actually do need to be concerned about. It's saved my wife and I from a handful of ER/Doctor's Office visits.
The final one is the one I recommend over anything else. If you buy no other books/dvds, buy this one. It might save your life, sanity, and/or marriage:
The Happiest Baby On The Block
I'd recommend both the book and the DVD, but if you only get one, get the DVD. Hell, many libraries carry it.
Any and every parent I know who has watched it basically thanks Harvey Karp for making the first 3 months entirely bearable. It teaches you how to soothe a screaming infant, quickly and calmly...it makes for a happier child, and happier parents. Buy it, or rent it, or whatever...just make damned sure you see it before d-day.
Outside of that, a quality swing that plugs in (not one that runs on batteries...you will spend the difference in cost between the two on batteries) can be great. Our little girl, along with a few of our friends kids, all loved the Ocean Wonders one by Fisher Price...although for whatever reason, it seems to be ridiculously expensive on Amazon. I believe we paid 150 or 200 for it brand new. Worth every penny...cheap swings are just that: cheap. They aren't comfortable, they aren't well made, and they don't work for particularly picky infants (e.g. my daughter). I have a few friends who had more laid-back kids who have said that the cheaper swings work, so if money is tight that's something you might wait on until you meet the child:)
For most baby stuff, you get what you pay for. The stuff that works is going to be expensive because it works. I tell most of my friends that my experience is that you buy the best rated thing you can afford (just because it's expensive doesn't necessarily mean it's good, always find product reviews!).
Anyhow, through the pregnancy, the best thing you can do is just be interested and involved. Try to remember that your wife/partner might seem to lose her mind a few times, and it's mostly hormones...so let the crazy slide a little bit more than usual.
Other than that, just square yourself with the idea that your old life is done, and you now have a new one. Everything changes with kids, and the more OK you are with that, the better you will be as a dad. It's the best change you could ask for, and most dads will say that they wouldn't go back to the life of video games and nightly partying for anything in the world now that they are dads. It's worth giving all of that up a million times over. But don't fight it. Don't tell your wife that she can handle being home with her one-month old alone because you're stressed and need some time with your boys. Don't say that you can't get up in the middle of the night because you have an early tee time. Don't tell her that you shouldn't have to help clean up the kitchen because you worked all day.
That kind of stuff comes naturally to most guys, and I certainly hope it does for you. You find that when you just let the change envelop you, instead of trying to shoehorn your old lifestyle into your new life, things are easier and much more fun. The change is good, and it is inevitable. Fighting it just makes you, your wife, and your child miserable.
Try reading Happiest Baby on the Block. I had a "high needs" baby. Even though this book isn't a cure all, it will help you find ways to soothe your baby.
I’ve heard this is helpful and am planning on reading it but haven’t yet. https://www.amazon.com/Heading-Home-Your-Newborn-Reality/dp/1581108931
The The Happiest Baby on the Block
The nurses recommended this book to my husband and I after our baby was born, and it was a HUGE help!
AAP (american academy of pediatrics) puts out a book called "your baby's first year", It's on it's 4th edition. It has a chapter on feeding and includes breastfeeding and formula feeding. It is very comprehensive, all research based, no judgment and a good jumping off points for all your questions.
It's also rather inexpensive: https://www.amazon.com/Your-Babys-First-Year-Fourth/dp/0812988450/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_14_t_0?_encoding=UTF8&amp;psc=1&amp;refRID=K0HQVZ04ASX6W333FGV6
So long as you aren't suicidal, nothing wrong with self-education. The professional community is lacking in ASD as a whole.
Being forced to NT standards, and then burning out because of it sounds common.
Here are some resources that I know of... I was just diagnosed, and some of these were recommended by the psychologist who made the diagnosis. I am a man, but I have mostly female stereotyped manifestation/traits of ASD.
Pretending to Be Normal: Living With Asperger's Syndrome by Liane Holliday Willey
https://www.amazon.com/Pretending-Normal-Aspergers-Syndrome-Spectrum/dp/1849057559/
The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome by Tony Attwood
https://www.amazon.com/Complete-Guide-Aspergers-Syndrome/dp/1843106698/
And for free you can check out Cynthia Kim's Blog:
https://musingsofanaspie.com/about/
She has a book too:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1849057575/
good to know, best of luck to you and your daughter.
if i could do it over for my son, i'd completely skip the hepatitis B series until just before he becomes sexually active (currently halting all additional doses for him). that one in particular coincides with the initial skyrocketing of autism cases in the 1980s. the earlier the immune system is activated via aluminum adjuvant vaccines = the higher the chance of neuro damage later on. though, if the mother has hepB herself, then of course you'd want to administer the hepB immunoglobulin right after birth to prevent hepB.
also skipping the MMR for sure, and will probably avoid PCV13 as well. again, please do your own research and weigh risk vs benefits.
will point you to one more resource i believe every parent/prospective parent should read, which include several sections on the importance of a heavily delayed vaccine schedule:
https://www.amazon.com/Vaccine-Friendly-Plan-Effective-Health-Pregnancy/dp/1101884231/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8
and if you don't want to purchase it, then at least see this review comment about appendix E (i purchased it, can confirm it's there)
https://www.amazon.com/gp/customer-reviews/REUQXW216AKF0/ref=cm_cr_arp_d_viewpnt?ie=UTF8&amp;ASIN=1101884231#REUQXW216AKF0
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The Appendix E of this book really tells you all you need to know:
A team of researchers have been reviewing and tabulating the health outcomes 2,230 children over age two and under age seven who were patients at my clinic, Integrative Pediatrics, from June 2008 (which is when my clinic first opened) to February 2015. We are in the process of compiling this data for a retrospective study approved by Western Institutional Review Board. We are examining incidence of autism, developmental delays, hospitalization a, infectious diseases, and sick visits. The following data is preliminary but serves to answer one key question: Does Dr Paul's Vaccine-Friendly Plan help reduce the incidence of autism?
Patients were divided into three groups as follows:
Group 1: Following Dr Paul's Vaccine-Friendly Plan:
These children were either born into my practice of established care by the two month well baby visit. They did not get the birth or the infant hepatitis B vaccine. If they got the hepatitis A vaccine, it was after age two. If they got the MMR and the chicken pox vaccines, it was at or after age three.
There were 1,098 children in Group 1.
Group 2: Unvaccinated: Because of parental choice, these children had no vaccines.
There were 238 children in Group 2.
Group 3: Other/Most Vaccinated: Though there was some individual variability, many children in Group 3 were vaccinated according to CDC guidelines. There were 894 children in Group 3.
Group | Total infants/toddlers | Autism cases-ASD rate
---------|----------|----------
1 | 1,098 | 0 - 0%
2 | 238| 0 - 0%
3| 894| 15 - 1/60
Using the previous CDC autism rate of one in fifty, we would have expected approximately twenty-two cases of autism in Group 1, but there were no autism or ASD (autism spectrum disorder) diagnoses.
We would have expected to have approximately four cases of autism in Group 2, but there were no autism or ASD diagnoses.
We would have expected to have approximately seventeen cases of autism in Group 3, and there are fifteen autism/ASD diagnoses, which mirrors the national average. This data demonstrates with a high level of statistical significance that the Vaccine-Friendly Plan - as well as not vaccinating at all - was associated with less autism/ASD.
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and also highly suggest you follow this twitter account.
https://twitter.com/NVICLoeDown
the founder of NVIC, barbara loe fisher, has a vaccine injured child herself, and she's been at the forefront of vaccine safety legislation for decades.
>lastly, towards the end of this debate it started to get personal, when the focus switches from an informative healthy debate to personal attacks it starts to lose credibility, not saying this is whats happened above but the last comment seemed like the conversation can only head in that direction. differences of opinion does not automatically make you enemies no matter what society has programmed us to think.
i have no patience for liars/deniers and parrots of the CDC (referring to another poster, not you). how many tens of millions worldwide now have neuro damage and/or autism because of these types of liars? even the cdc found causation back in 1999, even had to call an emergency meeting in 2000 (simpsonwood georgia) to the bewilderment of all scientists in attendance, then eventually chose to cover it all up by including fraudulent data sets from the opposite side of the country that reduced CDC's statistical significant findings (https://www.safeminds.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/Weldon-letter-to-Gerberding10-31-03.pdf)
and of course there's the recent cdc whistleblower from 2014, dr. william thompson, stating there's a massive ongoing coverup of a previous MMR->autism study.
so, fuck being "nice".
The No-Cry Sleep Solution, So That's What They're For-breastfeeding basics, baby 411.
As a pediatrician, lactation consultant and mother, please avoid:
Babywise it has been condemned by the American Academy of Pediatrics and La Leche League for its bizarre recommendation that newborns be put on a feeding and sleeping schedule that is pretty much designed to lead to breastfeeding failure, attachment issues, and failure to thrive. The reviews on amazon tell quite a story--some of the 1 star are former 5 star submitters who realized that their baby wasn't "good" or "obedient" or "quiet", they were starving like little Romanian orphans and had given up making noise because they were just ignored. If I could put every copy in an incenerator I would.
The Vaccine Book, a wildly misleading tome full of misinformation and fearmongering. For accurate vaccine information, please read Dr. Paul Offit's Vaccines and your child. He is a vaccinologist, meaning that he has devoted his entire professional career to studying vaccines. Dr. "Bob" is a general pediatrician, like me, and has no additional training in immunology, virology, microbiology, or vaccines.
I have a 1 year old son now, and this book probably saved my life a year ago because I had zero experience with babies prior to becoming a mom:
The Happiest Baby on the Block; Fully Revised and Updated Second Edition: The New Way to Calm Crying and Help Your Newborn Baby Sleep Longer https://www.amazon.com/dp/0553393235/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_.lm-Bb9X1GK78
I seriously recommend it to anyone with a newborn.
I've talked to some pediatricians and read some books from pediatricians. Those would be the doctors I would trust on the subject since they are the ones that have the imperative duty to ensure that what they are doing is safe. I've found nurses and doctors outside of the Pediatric field are usually ignorant on the subject yet confidently speak on diatribes they, themselves, have not researched. Even in the pediatric field, Doctors are simply doing what they're told based on CDC's recommendations and can only discuss brochure level subjects. They work 12 hours a day - they aren't researching vaccines, especially with so much support from the anti-anti-vaxxer movement. They don't have to defend their regimen.
After reading The Vaccine-Friendly Plan, it's all pretty clear to me. I'd suggest you and your parents read it to gain some perspective.
I read the book and was planning on doing a spaced out vaccine schedule still within the CDC guidelines. There are no drawbacks to this healthwise. Our 1st Pediatrician said they he was against it and to not listen to the Jenny McCarthy's of the world. He also did not know why people had an issue with vaccines or why they wanted to space them out.
So here we have the largest network of Pediatricians in a capital city, who have a vaccine policy STRICTER than the CDC. This Dr was one of the main proponents of the policy affecting 10's of thousands of babies. Not only did he now know about the contents of the vaccines, he didn't even know WHY people have an issue with them.
Luckily my next pediatrician was much more open minded and reasonable. He was very honest saying he got his 3 children vaccinated on the schedule but has had patients that showed distinct changes after them, developing autism. He said "Was it the vaccines? No way to really know..." and went on to support our decision with spacing them out, guilt-free.
My favorite for infants was Happiest Baby on the Block: Happiest Baby on the Block
My favorite for toddler is "Raising Your Spirited Child": Raising Your Spirited Child
My favorite for breastfeeding was "The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding": Womanly Art of Breastfeeding
My favorite for pumping at work was "Work, Pump, Repeat": Work, Pump, Repeat
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I found these on Amazon by searching for "childhood symptoms and illnesses"
The Everything Parent's Guide to Childhood Illnesses
Your Child's Health - the One Stop Reference
Baby and Child Medical Handbook
I hope these help!
Surprisingly Bill Maher hosted pediatrician Dr. Jay Gordon on to discuss the topic recently without berating the man as an "anti-vaxxer". The fact that people can't even handle hearing simple questions about the overall safety of vaccines in an effort to improve them is astounding not even when its a pediatrician who administers vaccines himself is asking. https://www.facebook.com/melissafloyd11/videos/10218864123367286/
Dr. Paul Thomas's personal study with his alternative/slower vaccine schedule appears to have resulted in a decreased risk in some of these associated complications which would make sense if immune responses to metal adjuvants within a small time frame are the primary culprit. https://www.drpaulapproved.com/uploads/6/4/8/3/64831775/dr_paul_approved_vaccine_plan.pdf https://smile.amazon.com/dp/1101884231/
Hey, I can't oppose this one. I am dyslexic myself, and couldn't read properly until I was about 20 years old, when I found this book The Gift of Dyslexia and read it – slowly and painfully. Have you read it?
The reviews are mixed, and admittedly it's not terribly scientific at points, but it helped me tremendously, and I can't really argue with that. I read approximately zero books before that, and hundreds of books since!
Project funded! Good luck!
I found this book very fun to read during pregnancy: http://www.amazon.com/Mayo-Clinic-Guide-Babys-First/dp/1561487503. It goes month-by-month with what to expect and helpful advice (based on actual science!).
Note: It is 4 years old and there are a few guidelines that have changed since the publication date, but nothing major.
I do lots of stuff like this my son who is just under 3. He loves it and it's good for him. He's 35lbs! The trick is keeping it up as they grow. You can hurt your self or your kid if you aren't doing it right. Here is a good book that helps you get the job done without throwing your back out (or your kid through a window):
http://www.amazon.com/The-Art-Roughhousing-Anthony-DeBenedet/dp/1594744874/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1375909406&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=the+art+of+roughhousing
Is there any reason for you to be concerned about risks (family history of vaccine reactions, autoimmune disease, etc)? If not, I don't understand your concerns at all. Thousands (millions?) of kids have gotten all of their vaccines and were just fine. And I am not sure what you mean by skeptical that "every single one is necessary" - is there some diseases you would want your child to have?
Actually, I was the same way, I was swayed by the anti-vaxxers at first, but did some research while pregnant and I am very pro-vaccine now. I liked this book: http://www.amazon.com/The-Vaccine-Book-Decision-Parenting/dp/0316180521
In the end all my kids got all their vaccines with only MMR being slightly postponed from what was recommended. Dr. Sears provides an alternative schedule in the book if it's something you would be interested in.
I love this one: http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1561487503/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1397573328&amp;sr=8-1&amp;pi=SY200_QL40
Nerdy, Shy, and Socially Inappropriate: A User Guide to an Asperger Life https://www.amazon.com/dp/1849057575/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_sSEGAbARNZ9DZ
I've been reading Heading Home with Your Newborn. I really enjoy the practicality and comprehensiveness of it. And, for once, it has enjoyable writing too. It covers most topics, with extensive focus on "what goes in and comes out" of the baby XD. I'm disappointed theres not more on exclusively pumping, BUT there seems to be little in the way of judgement so far. And it's written by two female pediatricians that are moms themselves.
Heading Home With Your Newborn: From Birth to Reality https://www.amazon.com/dp/1581108931/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_m0ykDbBHYX80Y
YWBTA. Read this book: https://www.amazon.com/Art-Roughhousing-Old-Fashioned-Horseplay-Every/dp/1594744874/ref=asc_df_1594744874/?tag=hyprod-20&amp;linkCode=df0&amp;hvadid=312150641898&amp;hvpos=1o1&amp;hvnetw=g&amp;hvrand=17521960872481857613&amp;hvpone=&amp;hvptwo=&amp;hvqmt=&amp;hvdev=m&amp;hvdvcmdl=&amp;hvlocint=&amp;hvlocphy=9033307&amp;hvtargid=pla-540668335610&amp;psc=1&amp;tag=&amp;ref=&amp;adgrpid=62860525180&amp;hvpone=&amp;hvptwo=&amp;hvadid=312150641898&amp;hvpos=1o1&amp;hvnetw=g&amp;hvrand=17521960872481857613&amp;hvqmt=&amp;hvdev=m&amp;hvdvcmdl=&amp;hvlocint=&amp;hvlocphy=9033307&amp;hvtargid=pla-540668335610
oh man, i’m sorry. i’m chasing the younger (neurotypcial and just as much as a challenge as the ASD one lol) so this may be a half answer but:
I’m so sorry. it is kind of a shit hand in a lot of ways. there is a mourning period. it’s normal. there are stages. anger at his different behaviors and developmental challenges, sadness at the dreams YOU both had for him that may not (or they might still, don’t give up) happen. but IT WILL GET BETTER. there is also joy. and God help me I’m a bad person but it helped to be reminded in support groups: someone always has it worse.
ASD kids are HARD on marriages. they don’t mean to, they don’t even know but even the greatest, best communication-sex all the time-always in sync ones should be labeled as immediately at risk once this diagnosis comes in. fight for yours. two partners are better. you NEED one another. AND you both NEED a regularly scheduled break. but it if you have to go it alone he’ll still love you too.
so sorry about the friend and family situation. we’re in a similar boat. my parents are nearby but they’re a little old school and limited physically so we use them sparingly. we can’t afford a babysitter on one income.
i hear you on therapy. it was a blessing we found ourselves in a very resource rich school district. but contact yours immediately. we did and we’re quickly accepted into an Early (intervention) Childhood School that was part of the public school system (free) and provided speech and social/emotional (and occupational therapy but he didn’t qualify for that) therapies. he was at a church preschool but he was miserable. bless them, they were untrained and clueless. but at the ECS he blossomed. became a leader and gained so much confidence.
btw, check your local library for some “sensory friendly programs.”
last thing, reading. you’ve found tons I’m sure. this helped me and my family kinda get oriented with my essentially new son. God bless you. hit me up with questions or just a need to bitch bc that’s important too. lol
I liked this book tho what to expect and the mayo one are also very good
http://www.amazon.com/Baby-Book-Everything-Revised-Updated/dp/0316778001/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&amp;ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1312012842&amp;sr=1-1
I sometimes go to dr sears website. I am using his alternative vaccine schedule for #2. I highly recommend his vaccine book even if you plan on following the normal vaccine schedule. Its good to know the side effects & all http://www.amazon.com/Vaccine-Book-Decision-Parenting-Library/dp/0316017507/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1312012757&amp;sr=8-1
I took a parenting class with my first for like $30 @ my hospital & was truly surprised @ what i learned from the class. I recommend taking one along with a cpr class
Also take the maternity tour @ the hospital you will be delivering at (its free).
Meet with pediatricians before baby is born. It should be free. You want to find one you like & who has similar beliefs when it comes to treating your child. I went thru several with my first before finding one i actually liked. I wish i had found one i liked beforehand instead of going from one to another after my child was born
I also agree on a doula
The type of work that suits dyslexic people tend to be more practical work. My husband is dyslexic and earns a good living from working with machines. My eldest is good at art and working with others in collaborative roles in practical jobs. My middle child is dyslexic and is even better at art and also a musician. My son is still young but he's wanting to go into engineering or something to do with machines as well, but he is also good at sailing and swimming. I've helped my kids explore different activities and find what they're good at, what they're passionate about, or have talent in. It's pretty important for a dyslexic person to find their niche, to stay competitive compared to non-dyslexics. Pretty difficult to beat the neurotypical people at what they don't struggle with.
I recommend you read The Gift of Dyslexia by Ronald Davis https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0399535667/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_-oUwDb70GRGBW
Please don't stress yourself out with trying to read so many hours a day every day. It may be counterproductive. 🙁 But whatever you do choose to do in the end, I hope it goes well for you. All the best 🤗
Heading Home With Your Newborn: From Birth to Reality. It's especially great if you have some experience with infants but haven't had one 24/7 before.
This is one I give to many of the parents I work with.
https://www.amazon.com/Verbal-Behavior-Approach-Children-Disorders/dp/1843108526
Our baby is the cutest!
http://www.amazon.com/The-Vaccine-Book-Decision-Parenting/dp/0316180521
It's actually more or less pro-vaccination, but it does a good job (IMO) of giving both sides of the story to all the different vaccinations.
Oh and I haven't read this one, but it's on my list to get to sometime.
http://smile.amazon.com/Aspergers-Job-Must-have-Functioning-Employers/dp/1935274090/ref=sr_1_14?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1405361257&amp;sr=8-14&amp;keywords=aspergers
I'm in the opposite situation- did ABA for several years, now in residential. Look into this book. It's short and sweet, but a great step-by-step introduction into how to work with children with autism, esp. non-verbal children, on developing age-appropriate language. It's such a great and rewarding job, but remember to find joy in the small accomplishments. It's slow, incremental progress, but the end result is so incredibly worth the hard work. Good luck!
Your Child's Health is a good reference for this sort of thing. For each symptom it is very specific about what to do and when it is time to go see a doctor. There is also a What to Expect... series that is quite good. It's like the owner's manual the hospital should have given you.
It is worth the time to read up on the subject if you are going to make decisions as a parent, the following was the best book I came across.
http://www.amazon.com/Vaccine-Book-Decision-Parenting-Library/dp/0316017507/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1265636912&amp;sr=1-1-fkmr0
My understanding is that thermerosal has been removed as an additive to most child vaccines (AFAIK it contained 49% mercury by weight*, and a child could get above FDA mercury exposure by following the routine vaccine guidlines ). In my opinion some vaccines given are unnecessary (example; Hep B at birth).
http://www.amazon.com/Vaccine-Book-Decision-Parenting-Library/dp/0316017507/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1265636912&amp;sr=1-1-fkmr0
Congrats. Just had our first 6 weeks ago. Warning, the first month is sooooooo hard! No sleep! 6 weeks is only moderately better. Everyone says 2 - 3 months is when it starts to even out. We'll see.
Also, this book is a lifesaver.
https://www.amazon.com/Happiest-Block-Revised-Updated-Second/dp/0553393235/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=10OKYUFFJWPPG&amp;keywords=happiest+baby+on+the+block&amp;qid=1550595906&amp;s=gateway&amp;sprefix=happiest+baby+o&amp;sr=8-1
It comes on DVD and is worth the 40 minutes.
We got it from our library, it is probably on YouTube as well. (I didnt read the book, but there is an article that sums it up, DVD helps you to see the positioning)
Article: https://www.happiestbaby.com/blogs/baby/the-5-s-s-for-soothing-babies
And steal 3 of the infant swaddle blankets from the hospital They are a little bigger than the junk you buy at the store and will come in handy. Then get these, they come in a variety of styles:
https://www.amazon.com/SwaddleMe-Original-Swaddle-3-PK-Busy/dp/B013GYQVCW/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?keywords=swaddleme&amp;qid=1550596102&amp;s=gateway&amp;sr=8-3
If you haven't, read the book Happiest Baby On The Block. This helped me immensely with my kids.
My first tormented me for his first 6 months. Then it got better. He enjoyed being swaddled. My daughter, didn't. She wanted to be free to move around and cry. And cry she did. All day for 8 months. Fortunately she slept at night.
Good luck. We've all been there.
There are too many Christian parenting books to even try to count, and probably none of them are perfect. For my wife and I, a practical approach was more what we are looking for.
My most sincere advice would be to make sure you have a good and healthy relationship together as parents (another topic on which there are more books than any one person could ever read). If the two of you have a good relationship with each other and with God (and you both have common sense), then you will probably be fine parents.
But take my advice with a grain of salt, my only child is only 6 weeks old.
No baby here yet (I'm due 3 days before you and still haven't popped yet!), but I have a few book recommendations. Your boyfriend might enjoy the first because it's amusing and not really overwhelming, called The Baby Owner's Manual. I am currently reading Mayo Clinic's Guide to Baby's First Year, which is more clinical but VERY detailed. I really enjoyed the mayo clinic pregnancy book because it wasn't as scare-tactic as some of the others (like What to Expect) but still gave good, evidence-based information. Speaking of evidence-based, I read and thoroughly enjoyed The Science of Mom, which is kind of like Expecting Better but for baby's first year of life. It goes over a lot of scientific studies, if that's your thing!
I have that one. That is a good book. I have this one too and it comes with a CD.
There are a few books like this
Mayo Clinic Guide to Your Baby's First Year: From Doctors Who Are Parents, Too! https://www.amazon.ca/dp/1561487503/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_0oa-BbHJTKHH5
A Google search for "baby development guide" will reveal others.
Hey! My partner and I have a three week old. I'm definitely not qualified to offer advice yet (or caught up on sleep), but here are three books that I'm very thankful to have read.
Great advice on how to keep your relationship healthy:
And Baby Makes Three
How to be awesome during pregnancy/labor/delivery:
The Birth Partner
Evidence-based info on how to calm an infant--don't let the cheesy title fool you. I can't imagine what the last couple weeks would've been like without reading this:
The Happiest Baby on the Block
Well...like this one.
https://www.amazon.com/Vaccine-Book-Decision-Parenting-Library/dp/0316180521
The Autistic Brain: Helping Different Kinds of Minds Succeed
Sure sounds like it. Check out these books. I'm an adult but they still helped me a lot:
https://www.amazon.com/Asperkids-Secret-Book-Social-Rules/dp/1849059152
https://www.amazon.com/Nerdy-Shy-Socially-Inappropriate-Asperger/dp/1849057575/
If you're looking to work out or keep fit at all, check out Baby Barbells and The Art of Roughhousing. Both have some good tips for playing with your kid in ways that will benefit your health as well!
You might find some good connections on www.wrongplanet.net
I've heard this is a good book on the topic: http://www.amazon.com/Aspergers-Job-Must-have-Functioning-Employers/dp/1935274090
Speaking of book recommendations, I have not read this one yet, but it addresses the issue directly and has good reviews so far.
I really liked Heading Home with Your Newborn. It gave a good overview of all the baby basics without being overwhelming. Basically, enough to figure out what else you want to look into.
Congrats on the baby! Do you know what you're having? This book helped a lot! http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00TCI48AE?keywords=happiest%20baby%20on%20the%20block&amp;qid=1452274949&amp;ref_=sr_1_1&amp;s=books&amp;sr=1-1
http://www.amazon.com/Social-Skills-Picture-School-Beyond/dp/1932565353/ref=pd_sim_b_3?ie=UTF8&amp;refRID=1XDQKNZZGK34D713B45R
Newbie here. I have had this book pinned for when the time came. You can find it here.
I heard about the book listening to him speak about it on a podcast (Pregtastic, I believe). I like that it's from a doctor's perspective. There is a short bio on there but I do know he strongly touches on the delaying schedules of certain vaccines. Hope this helps!