Best domestic partner abuse books according to redditors
We found 11 Reddit comments discussing the best domestic partner abuse books. We ranked the 4 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the top 20.
We found 11 Reddit comments discussing the best domestic partner abuse books. We ranked the 4 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the top 20.
In support of OP points in Myth #3:
Forty years ago, the late Suzanne Steinmetz initiated research about husband battering with her seminal article in Victimology:
http://www.papa-help.ch/downloads/Steinmetz_The_Battered_Husband_Syndrome.pdf
Shortly thereafter, Murray Straus joined with Suzanne Steinmetz and Richard Gelles to publish the famous book including their estimate of slightly more DV against men than against women:
https://www.amazon.com/Behind-Closed-Doors-Violence-American/dp/1412805910
Feminist society has thus spent 40 years (!) denying gender symmetry in DV. Straus has, more recently, published more analyses of symmetry and of the reasons for denialism:
http://citeseerx.ist.psu.edu/viewdoc/download?doi=10.1.1.588.4366&rep=rep1&type=pdf
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/228350210_Gender_symmetry_in_partner_violence_The_evidence_the_denial_and_the_implications_for_primary_prevention_and_treatment
There are literally entire books on the subject.
I was going off memory from the national center of women and policing which talks about this but is a bit dated on it's information. I suggest reading the book as it's the most up to date version.
Finally while link digging I found this article.
Which is chock full of links to various news organizations and associated articles.
Highly suggest the book btw. It's previous version was a chilling read. I can only imagine the 2017 with updated information would be more so.
I checked SocietyofJanus listing to make sure I didn't duplicate. One thing I would say is, don't jump over the LGBQ section, books there are excellent for those that may not identify in that way, just apply the appropriate pronouns and many of the concepts are still very valid.
If you haven't read anything yet, I suggest "The Loving Dominant" as a jumping off place.
I'll add some that I have come across in my journey that are not listed that come to mind.
Extreme Space: The Domination and Submission Handbook
Devil In The Details I - The Art of Mastery - A Mentoring Trilogy: Volume I "The Master - The Slave - The Power" - I'd say get the whole trilogy. This is written for the Dominant partner, not the submissive.
One thing that helped me immensely was leaning they never loved ME. They loved CONTROLLING me. If they did, the would have given a shit about my feelings. I just got out almost 3 weeks ago, have read lots of articles about emotional abuse and gaslighting, and surviving and thriving after.
Mind Games: Emotionally Manipulative Tactics Partners Use to Control Relationshi https://www.amazon.com/dp/1537379968/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_7jV0xbQYRSZHD
This book is pretty good, too.
Talk to your friends about it, start a discussion. Take care of you like you're already doing.
I wish you well :)
there's a shit ton of data showing that they are abusers:
https://www.amazon.com/Police-Wife-Epidemic-Domestic-Violence/dp/0994861761