Best wedding etiquette books according to redditors

We found 23 Reddit comments discussing the best wedding etiquette books. We ranked the 4 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the top 20.

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Top Reddit comments about Wedding Etiquette:

u/AmeriqanTreeSparrow · 13 pointsr/weddingplanning

So, there's nothing wrong with getting a book if you're a pen/paper kind of organized (I am too, I HAVE to write things down). Yes there are tons of online resources but some people just need to write things down and that's totally fine. But that book is from 2004 which is 12 years old, and just looking at the cover I can tell it's probably a veryyyyy traditional book. Yes I judge books by their covers.

If you want something a little more modern I would suggest getting one of these:

u/sneakyysam · 7 pointsr/weddingplanning

The Knot wedding planner has 2 checklists and one is for a 6 month planning period! I'm not sure if they also have it on their website but here is the planner!

u/sharkbaitooaha · 5 pointsr/weddingplanning

Congrats on your engagement! Non religious ceremonies are common and popular. You will need a justice of the peace or officiant to marry you, and you will still need to carry out the procedure of getting a marriage license, the rules of which vary depending on which state you live in. Otherwise, you don't need to do anything official besides getting your marriage license and showing up for your wedding.

Regarding who pays, it was long ago a tradition that the bride's parents pay, but that is honestly an old tradition that isn't really followed anymore. In my experience, usually the bride and groom pay and plan, but sometimes the parents will offer to contribute (they are not asked however). If they do offer to pay for all or part of your wedding, it is good courtesy to ask if there are certain people they would like to invite, or things they would like to see at the wedding.

Wedding party: totally optional. You can have 8 bridesmaids, or 1 maid of honor, or no one. If your fiance is having 5 groomsmen, you do not need to have 5 bridesmaids. It's really a "do whatever you want" kind of thing. If you do choose to have a bridal party, just remember that they are not responsible for anything such as planning a bridal shower or bachelorette party, or helping you DIY centerpieces and stamp invitations. A lot of American wedding movies make it look like bridesmaids are slaves to the bride, but this is actually really frowned upon. If your bridesmaid offer to plan a shower or help you with invitations, that's a different story.

Some other American things are registering for household items, maybe sending out save-the-dates 9-12 months before the wedding (this is optional), sending invitations out 6-8 weeks before the wedding, having a cocktail party after the ceremony that leads right into the reception, having a first dance with your husband, possibly doing mother/son and father/daughter dances (also optional), getting a DJ, cutting cake, and maybe doing an after-party somewhere.

I'm the oldest in my family and first to get married, so I didn't have a ton of help planning my wedding. I read this book which was helpful (https://www.amazon.com/dp/B003DYGO0K/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1#nav-subnav) and also perused wedding websites such as The Knot. Feel free to PM me for any other questions!!

u/Karnivore · 4 pointsr/wedding

You can totally do it, it'll just be fast paced from the get go. You'll have to prioritize to get things done in the right time frames.
This planner helped me, it has great tips and timelines, but it has way more stuff than any sane bride is actually going to use. If you get it, just throw away the pages that you don't care so much about.
Pointers from me personally would be to set your budget and guest list as soon as possible as they dictate almost all of the decisions that follow. Then find a venue and photographer, as they book up fast. And finally, if you want a wedding gown done the traditional way (made to your specific measurements, instead of trying to find something that is already the right style/size) you should start looking now.
You will definitely be able to get it done! Hope it's not too stressful!

u/bmoreirish · 3 pointsr/wedding

People or physical planners? I’ve been recommended the one from The Knot:

The Knot Planner

u/jaspysmom · 3 pointsr/weddingplanning

Check this out! I’m a huge list person and this has been really helpful for me.

u/_lesterburnham · 3 pointsr/weddingplanning

The Knot has a great book to walk you through all the stages of wedding planning and answered a lot of my questions. I've found it to be super helpful!

https://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Wedding-Planner-Organizer-binder/dp/0770433367

u/katieshineh · 3 pointsr/weddingplanning

hi! i am all about planning as well. i have two wedding planning books at home. 1 my sister gave me so i cant really give that one away but the other... im PRETTY SURE is this one: https://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Wedding-Planner-Organizer-binder/dp/0770433367/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_14_img_0?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=38MC6XSKE7A1A6S3Q5RG

if you like it (and it was the one i can give away - i can check tonight) you can have it. just pay for shipping.

u/MizMarbs · 2 pointsr/weddingplanning

Happy Birthday and Merry Christmas! :) Here are a couple things I liked in my planning:

  1. Wedding Planning for the Busy Feminist - Practical and funny and very useful day-of timelines. Also a great appendix of vendors, designers, etc. https://www.amazon.com/Wedding-Planning-Feminist-Amanda-Pendolino/dp/1980821887

  2. The Knot's Planning Binder - Great for organizing contracts and business cards, I liked their color swatches for choosing coordinating colors. https://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Wedding-Planner-Organizer-binder/dp/0770433367

  3. Budget Savvy Bride Wedding Planner & Organizer https://www.amazon.com/Budget-Savvy-Wedding-Planner-Organizer-Checklists/dp/1623159857

  4. K Company Smash Book - My sister in law gave me this - a great place to collect all sorts of mementos as you're planning your special day! https://www.amazon.com/K-Company-30-659391-CompanySMASH-Wedding/dp/B007HONAV8/

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u/a_stitch_in_lime · 2 pointsr/weddingplanning

The knot used to send out binders like that but I think as they got more popular that went away. Maybe they still have the papers on the site you could print?

Edit: Looks like they're out at theknot.com but amazon has some! http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0770433367

u/ashlifires · 2 pointsr/weddingplanning

Was it this one?

u/corcar86 · 2 pointsr/weddingplanning

My sister-in-law sent me this when I got engaged and I found it helpful :)

u/Jenesaispas86 · 2 pointsr/weddingplanning

I have The Knot Wedding Planner and Organizer binder. It's amazing. It has checklists, to do lists, questions to ask each vendor, timelines, etc. Best money that I spent.

u/therobbo91 · 2 pointsr/weddingplanning

I think it's probably more helpful to Google than use Reddit if you're just starting to plan. Otherwise you'll either not get the full picture or get a wall of text. We're all biased and may not give a full picture since we're stuck in our own details. Just because someone says you need to have a coordinator or need to pay for it yourself doesn't mean it's true, we don't know you or what you really want. Especially if you're in the beginning stages of planning and you're not sure if something has to be a certain way, you might get misled on Reddit. It's really helpful when you're stuck in a certain detail or etiquette situation, though.

Washington Post planning guidelines

Emily Post is a good source for all things etiquette. Amazon link

Pinterest is also good for getting ideas of what you want, though a lot of things can't be replicated as easily as it seems they can. But it can help you determine if you want something ultra-fancy or something rustic or minimalistic.

u/sncastor · 2 pointsr/weddingplanning

I purchased the Knot's binder. Though it's been supremely helpful at keeping me organized, make sure she takes some of the info it includes with a grain of salt. For example, it has wonderful budget guides. However, it accounts for expenses that don't gel with everyone's vision for their wedding day...she should feel free to edit the tools it provides, or not use the ones she doesn't need.

Also, A Practical Wedding has been a wonderful resource to keep me grounded and focused on what matters to my FH and I.

u/AuntChiladas · 1 pointr/Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

I'm hoping it is. The first time I did keto it all came off like magic. Now, meh. I mean. I'm in a lot better shape in general than when I first started. My BF is way lower and I have much more muscle now. But still. GRRR. BTW do you have a wedding DIY planner yet? The Knot one is on super sale today!

u/MedicSBK · 1 pointr/weddingplanning

First: Congratulations!

Second: There's a binder that The Knot has released. Here is the link. You won't be sorry!

u/BestofBoston12 · 1 pointr/weddingplanning

I just posted this on a different thread but theknot.com has an awesome binder with a timelines and super helpful guidelines on what a typical wedding would include. I would be lost without it. Right now it's only $18!

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0770433367/ref=sxts1?ie=UTF8&qid=1483151154&sr=1&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_FMwebp_QL65