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NTB still. And I'm glad you got out of that relationship. There's absolutely nothing unnatural about exes staying friends if things ended on good enough terms (especially if kids are involved). That kind of absolutist thinking is super toxic. You're a good person for sticking by your husband through all of this, and your kids will think of you very highly for doing the right thing here.

Best of luck to you and your family - it sounds like an incredibly tough situation, but you sound like a great person and I'm sure you'll be a wonderful presence in your husband's life during this upsetting time.

Also, look into those books called A Father's Legacy or something along those lines for your husband. He can fill them out and leave them for your kids once he's gone. Speaking from experience, getting a book full of anecdotes and advice from my father after he passed didn't make the situation even close to ok, but it really helped a lot and I still turn to that book all the time when I miss him.

ETA: this is the kind of book I'm talking about https://www.amazon.com/Fathers-Legacy-Your-Story-Words/dp/B00FDYSWI0 (if it's the same as the one my dad left me, it was a bit too Christian-centric for my taste considering we aren't a Christian family, but it was still good. I'm sure there are non-religious ones if that's what would suit your family best)

NTB - my boyfriend and I are in a similar situation where I prefer not to sleep with him because he snores and I can hear it through my earplugs. There are things you can do to try to prevent snoring, for example don't drink alcohol and lose weight. (No clue if either of these apply to you but it's worth mentioning that snorers may be able to have some control in solving the issue).

But the solution that worked for me is an eye mask with attached bluetooth speakers. I sync it to my phone and blast whitenoise in my ears. I was able to sleep in the hotel bed with my boyfriend on vacation and not hear his snoring. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07DG279MB

NBH.

BUT neither of you have money. It seems unfair to ask a fellow student to pay for a motel. Were you planning on fronting half?

You can get single-person camping foam mats. If you live in the States, they are obviously cheaper than what I linked you. I don't know prices in other countries though.

I'd say, you can ask, he might not like it. If it's for more than 3 nights, I think motel is not fair ($). And if it's for 3 or less nights, you could probably figure out how to just deal with the coziness - I presume he's not a giant? Send him a 360 photo (sounds like you'll get the entire room) and let him know it might be really cramped*

Wheelchairs actually are cheap, at least the kind that needs someone to push you. Especially if you buy used.

I have this one from Amazon, which cost $100, and folds up. My illness involves crushing fatigue, so I need someone to push me around when we go out, and this one fits in the car.
https://smile.amazon.com/Drive-Medical-Streak-Wheelchair-Footrests/dp/B002VWK1TA/ref=sr_1_4?keywords=Wheelchairs&qid=1573260237&sr=8-4