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u/readinginhk · 1 pointr/AskGayMen

Most LGBTQ people face a lot of rejection in their life. People who should love them unconditionally often revoke that love as a condition of their identity or orientation. "I love you, BUT..." is a common touchstone of the conditional love many LGBTQ people get from religious family members. Do a little role reversal. How would you feel if your brother said to you:
"I love you, BUT I think Christianity is a sin."
"I love you, BUT your belief in Christ is sinful and you are not welcome in my house."
"I love you, BUT I think Christians are sinners and disgusting and will go to Hell."

Consider your language and the general proscription in Christianity to offer unconditional love. Could you change your language to better reflect your commitment to Christianity's call for unconditional love? For example, what if you placed the conditionality (the "but") on Christianity and the theological claims about homosexuality? What if you said, "Some Christians claim homosexuality is a sin. Others do not. I love you regardless of those claims." What are you communicating about your faith when you use these words?

Peace and love to you as you travel down this spiritual path.

PS -- There are lots of excellent book recommendations here. My two books would be: 1. Love the Sin, which talks about the limits of the application of Christian doctrine to legal structures.

2. The Good Book by Peter J. Gomes, which offers a thoughtful, scripture-based critique of common Biblical critiques of same-gender sexuality. The Good Book: Reading the Bible with Mind and Heart

I picked two books written by religious scholars who spend a lot of time getting into the legal and theological weeds of the textual and Biblical prohibitions around same-gender sexuality.

u/NSMike · 2 pointsr/AskGayMen

Motivation is overrated. Establish a habit. After work, or before, or whatever time where you can devote an hour or so to working out, make it a habit like brushing your teeth or shaving, or whatever. Make 6:00 am, or 5:00 pm, or whatever time of your day, the time you leave the house to go to the gym. Just have it programmed into your mind, "It is this time, and this time is when I work out."

And the other advice, of course, is to find something that isn't going to bore you to tears. Exercise bike will probably put you to sleep. Honestly the most interesting workouts I've done are lifting workouts. I did Stronglifts 5x5 for a couple years (there's a lot of writing on that site, but the most important info you need is just the routine). The way you gradually add weight, plus the variety of activities, and the endorphin hits you get from lifting make a huge difference. If you track, like I did, in a spreadsheet exactly what weight you'll be lifting on certain days, you can go back and look a few weeks ago, you were only squatting 125, now you're squatting 250 and it doesn't even seem that much harder... Seeing the numbers go up is extremely satisfying.

Also, Stronglifts is just a routine - it doesn't really coach you on how to do the lifts, so I would look up Mark Rippetoe on YouTube - he has videos detailing each lift in Stronglifts - and also pick up Starting Strength to see detailed explanations and diagrams of how some of these lifts are supposed to work. If you're not doing them right, not only are they going to do less for you, but you could hurt yourself.

u/DaddysBoy75 · 1 pointr/AskGayMen

Yes - keep your pubes trimmed shorter.
You don't want it so short that there's stubble, but you don't want it all bushy.

There are several good beard trimmers, at all different prices. I recommend one that has an adjustable guard instead of the attachment style guards.

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u/TofuLaRue · 1 pointr/AskGayMen

If you can afford one, I would recommend the (NJoy Pure G Spot Metal Wand It has a small end for getting you going and offering great reach. Then you can digivolve to the megabulbous end once you’ve gotten more comfortable.

u/Richelieu1622 · 7 pointsr/AskGayMen

Actually if he’s not meeting your needs and does nothing about it, that is taking you for granted. His feelings about his body image is not your concern b/c you are his partner not his therapist. If he’s sick, is he seeking help? If not then once again doing nothing is not the answer unless you’re OK with the status quo. Also, the notion that leaving a relationship is not a course of action is quite naive and dangerous. Sometimes you must quit for your own safety and health, mental and physical. I recommend this book b/c from the sounds of it you need to read it immediately. You are young so you have much to learn. Best of luck to you.

u/sjalsfrander · 4 pointsr/AskGayMen

First born here, my brother is straight.

Also, this is linked to epigenitcs. And afaik, the latest study published on the topic showed an accuracy of 67% when it came to predict one's sexual orientation from one's epigenome.

I'll just leave that piece by Nessa Carey (one of the leading epigeneticists) about the topic.

And if you are interested in epigenetics, please try reading Carey's books (here and here), they are surprisingly easy to understand.

u/AufDerGalerie · 16 pointsr/AskGayMen

Brene Brown has found in her research that trying to conform to what we think other people want (e.g., striving to show how stable you are) leads to shame and unhappiness.

She says wholehearted people aim to share their authentic selves with people who have shown them that they are worthy of this.

She talks about this in her audiobook The Power of Vulnerability: Teachings of Authenticity, Connection, and Courage.

For the CliffsNotes version, here is the list of recommendations she discusses towards the end of the audiobook:

I don’t have an opinion on whether your behavior with these guys was you having the bravery to share your authentic self, or you trying to conform to some ideal you have of what you think they want.

u/doodwheresmy · 7 pointsr/AskGayMen

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u/russelthewizard · 2 pointsr/AskGayMen

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u/amnorvend · 2 pointsr/AskGayMen

I have a few thoughts on being a Gay-friendly. I'm not speaking for any of the other letters in LGBTQ because I can't.

I think the most important thing you can do is be courteous and non-judgemental about a patient's sexual history. Sometimes even in a liberal place like where I live I get the evil stare when talking about my sex life.

Next, butts. Butts are important for everyone and yet difficult to talk about. That's true for everyone, but both are doubly true for gay men. In fact, almost all the rest of this is about the butt.

I think gay men just tend to care about butts more than straight guys. Men are attracted to other guy's butts. If they're bottoms, it's a sexual organ. But even if they're a top they'll still care about their butt more than the average straight man.

A procedure that might leave a scar may cause a gay man more distress than it might a straight man. A condition that affects his butt may also cause distress. Gay men might freak out more about butt problems than straight men because they may have probably been told about all the awful diseases they'll get if they ever engage in any sexual acts. So take their concerns seriously when someone thinks their hemorrhoid means they have AIDS.

More to the point, a gay man is very likely to have been told at some point in their life that their sexual activities are wrong and sinful. So it may be more difficult for them to talk about due to the shame they feel.

You need to know about butt problems that are both common to everyone and common to gay people. Straight men get hemorrhoids and so do gay men. But the gay man is more likely to assume that the hemorrhoids are a result of his sexual activities even though it isn't. Then there are things that gay men get that straight men don't get. Like rectal STDs.

And lastly, I can't recommend a book called "The ins and outs of gay sex" enough, though it's pretty dated.