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u/airandfingers 路 3 pointsr/BettermentBookClub

Thank you for sharing these thoughts; I imagine that wasn't easy.

> My parents placed an emphasis on sports, and on winning. However, I have come to realize that this mindset breeds hedonism. When my purpose in life was to win and seek the most benefits for myself, this attitude ultimately led to mental weakness and a lack of willpower when it came to pleasureful activities. In my opinion, even the goal of being happy leads to a hedonistic lifestyle.

The way I see it, feelings of happiness fall on a spectrum between pleasure (short-lived, visceral, shallow) and joy (long-lasting, subtle, deep), and while seeking pleasure is hedonism, seeking joy is not. Helping others brings (most of) us joy, and altruism is pretty near the opposite of hedonism.

The trick, I think, is balancing our desires for pleasure and joy, as each provides its own stability. Not experiencing pleasure leaves us irritable and unpleasant, while lacking joy leaves us purposeless and depressed. Neither state is ideal for accomplishing anything.

> And now, here I am. I am utterly confused now, when it comes to my life's goals. Should my goal be to make contributions in order to improve human civilization? Or something else? Idk.

One approach I suggest you try is this:

  • set aside this philosophical question (for now)
  • find something tangible that you care about doing鈥攖hat is, something that brings you joy
  • focus your time and energy on becoming better at that activity.

    This advice is based on the "craftsman mindset" advocated by Cal Newport's So Good They Can't Ignore You, which he presents in opposition to the "passion mindset" that focuses on the question, "What should I do with my life?"

    While this doesn't directly address your philosophical questions, following this approach may provide you with a mental clarity that could help. Think of it as a bottom-up kind of philosophy that generalizes from your actions and experiences, rather than the top-down kind that seeks to impose abstract ideas onto concrete reality.

    > Apologies for the rant.

    No need to apologize, as this is the kind of thought we BettermentBookClub subs like to discuss. I'll tag /u/PeaceH, /u/Skaifola, and /u/TheZenMasterReturns, who may want to respond to you with their own perspectives. They know much more about Stoicism than I do, so they may even answer your questions, unlike me. :)
u/callmejay 路 3 pointsr/BettermentBookClub

>might not follow through with the lessons in the book.

This seems like the obvious avenue for improvement. If a lesson seems promising, try it.

Maybe it would help to try books that are more like workbooks? This is one of the best ever written.

u/ludwigvonmises 路 5 pointsr/BettermentBookClub

Most book summaries are bad in that they don't connect the different themes in an intelligent way to actually allow your brain to comprehend the important details correctly and quickly - which is the point of a summary. The summaries in this sub are quite good, but only because there are committed people who did the really deep digging and can bring up the gems to show you in a comprehensible way.

Reading the book is always, always more beneficial than reading the summary (unless time is a factor, like cramming for a test). You won't get less content from reading the book versus reading the summary, but 99% of the time you will lose content from the summary.

If you are struggling with reading comprehension and retention, I absolutely recommend Mortimer Adler's How to Read a Book. Read it all the way through, deliberately, carefully, then read it again a year later using its own tips. It has helped me get 40-50% more juice from each book since. It's a tremendous capital investment in your reading ability (which will serve you well here and in life).

u/Numero34 路 2 pointsr/BettermentBookClub

I have three of them. Meditations, Tao Te Ching, and Man's Search for Meaning.

I read Tao Te Ching many years ago. I think it was above my reading level at the time as I can't recall much about it. I wasn't really paying attention to what I was reading or properly digesting it.

I have the Gregory Hays' version of Meditations. It's up next after I'm done Flow. So far Flow mentions quite a few things I recognize from Stoicism. Directly mentions Diogenes in the first chapter.

Man's Search for Meaning will probably follow shortly after Meditations.

I've only heard of the Bhagavad Gita, so that's as familiar as I am with it. I assume it's a book of wisdom or something like that from India.

I do make notes of the books I read, so if you'd like I can forward them to you when they're ready. Currently putting together some for How to Read a Book, The Art of Learning: An Inner Journey to Optimal Performance, and Atomic Habits.

u/global_dimmer 路 15 pointsr/BettermentBookClub

The Five Elements of Effective Thinking

A concise explanation of various strategies to think better and be more creative. Written by two math teachers, I think, which makes it much, much better than some consultant-y, "I made money selling books, so you can too."

u/MostInterestingBot 路 6 pointsr/BettermentBookClub

I also didn't like Mark Manson's TSAONGAF, but his previous book, Models: How to attract women through honesty, was a life changer. I mean, I'm still trying to implement the principles into my life but it already started to change my life for the better. It's not just for the single guys btw, any man who wants to be attractive should read this book.

u/ericxfresh 路 3 pointsr/BettermentBookClub

off the top of my head:

Meditations, with The Inner Citadel as a reader

Letters from a Stoic

A Guide to the Good Life by Irvine

Do The Work by Pressfield as well as The War of Art by Pressfield

Managing Oneself by Ducker

Man's Search for Meaning by Frankl

What Predicts Divorce by Gottman

Nicomachean Ethics

Models by Manson seems to be popular on reddit

So Good They Can't Ignore You by Newport, as well

I'm currently reading Triumphs of Experience by Vaillant and find it insightful.

u/funny_funny_business 路 6 pointsr/BettermentBookClub

The Power of a Positive No

This was one of the best self-help books I鈥檝e read. It鈥檚 not 鈥渋t鈥檚 hard to say no but you just really need to say it sometimes even though you don鈥檛 want to鈥, it鈥檚 more like 鈥渨hat鈥檚 the alternative if I don鈥檛 say no; why do I want to say no鈥 and is really helpful for understanding relationships.

u/shazam9 路 1 pointr/BettermentBookClub

I didn't read these to cure any addiction but sure everyone has some bad habits which they would like to take care of. I'm big on self improvement so try to ready as much as I can in that category.

If you're dealing with bad habits or addiction, I'd highly recommend

Even though the book is about curing OCD, but the 4 steps mentioned in this book can be applied to any kind of bad behavior or habit. Also, if you want to change habits, then power of habit gives you a really good insight as to how habits are build.

u/PM-Me-Your_PMs 路 1 pointr/BettermentBookClub

Ok, thank you!

Right now I'm reading 12 Rules for Life, but I'll add this to my wishlist for my next read. :)

u/ZaggahZiggler 路 1 pointr/BettermentBookClub

I just started listening to Jordan Peterson's 12 Rules For Life. My only complaint is it's read in his own nerdy voice. As an atheist I find his bible references are not overbearing or proselytizing but brought up in a form of basic moral truths and therefore palatable when referenced

u/BaconMeTimbers 路 10 pointsr/BettermentBookClub

The problem isn't the book usually, but the method towards digesting the material.

Here is the only book needed on that subreddit:

How to Read a Book: The Classic Guide to Intelligent Reading

Because it has the ability to change any book into a long term influence.

u/OneSource13 路 2 pointsr/BettermentBookClub

If you have any slight interest in philosophy I would recommend On The Shortness of Life

u/conjunctionjunction1 路 2 pointsr/BettermentBookClub

the power of one by byrce courtenay is exactly what you're looking for. Very similar to the alchemist, very inspiring.

u/GetOffMyLawn_ 路 5 pointsr/BettermentBookClub

Gloves? Cotton gloves or gardening gloves. Or try surgical gloves. Or rubber gloves. you can get gloves at the drugstore or the painting store. Go hog wild and get leather driving gloves.

you can get special antiperspirant for hands.

u/exploring_guy 路 1 pointr/BettermentBookClub

As you note, I typically use Kindle and save my highlights. Back in the days when I would read physical books, I always wondered about something like this product, but I never tried it:

u/wz_ 路 2 pointsr/BettermentBookClub

I just finished The 5 Elements of Effective Thinking. It's a quick read and some of the topics are obvious but some are not. I'd recommend

u/Toast_Sapper 路 6 pointsr/BettermentBookClub

Solving the Procrastination Puzzle: A Concise Guide to Strategies for Change

This book helped me immensely. It's written by a psychologist who has spent a ton of time researching the mechanisms and psychological basis of Procrastination, and he explains thoroughly both why we procrastinate and how to stop.

He also has a blog and podcast series where he gives further material and exercises to help stop procrastinating. I can't recommend this book more highly.