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"does anyone else have trouble “accepting” the fact that you’re a 4?"
I have and I do. Beatrice Chestnut's The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Self-Knowledge helps to explain why. Chestnut writes that all nine types have a shadow, or unconscious part of their personality that they repress. Most types repress their negative aspects--except for Fours, who repress their positives. For example, a One might have a 'superego' that keeps their anger hidden from their conscious thoughts and behaviours, but a Four might bury positive parts of themselves under feelings that they are inferior, broken, or damaged.
I can only speak from personal experience, but my advice would be to seek out people and experiences that bring out your shadow--positive aspects of your character. Do things you love and are good at. Spend time with people who love and appreciate you for who you are. Face fear and challenges to help you grow as a person rather than escaping into melancholy and fantasy. This will help you to accept yourself as a whole. And, if you can, I highly recommend picking up Chestnut's book!