Top products from r/ExChristianWomen
We found 10 product mentions on r/ExChristianWomen. We ranked the 10 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the top 20.
1. Cut Me Loose: Sin and Salvation After My Ultra-Orthodox Girlhood
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Number of reviews: 1
Penguin Books
3. Keep Sweet: Children of Polygamy
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Number of reviews: 1
PolygamyFundamentalist LDS ChurchBountiful, Creston, BC
4. I Fired God: My Life Inside---and Escape from---the Secret World of the Independent Fundamental Baptist Cult
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Number of reviews: 1
5. Higher Ground: A Memoir of Salvation Found and Lost
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Number of reviews: 1
6. Banished: Surviving My Years in the Westboro Baptist Church
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Number of reviews: 1
Grand Central Publishing
8. Sex and God: How Religion Distorts Sexuality
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
Yeah that's a good point - it's frustrating when people sexualise everything. Perhaps it's a symptom of their own sexual repression, which they project onto other people. After all, if they are thinking about sex all the time, they assume other people are too! I do also think our culture has retained some Freudian ideas even if they are not scientifically valid... the idea that nearly everything people do is motivated by sex.
You make a great point about child abuse and sexual shame. Shame about sexuality is one of the primary tools that religion uses to keep people coming back, as most people experience sexual fantasies and thoughts fairly frequently, thus they feel guilty on a regular basis and have to repent continually. You might find this book interesting if you want to explore this topic further: Sex and God: How Religion Distorts Sexuality
But yeah I'm in a partnership with a woman now and sometimes it's frustrating feeling like our relationship gets sexualised. I feel like my relationship with her is primarily based on a foundation of friendship, first and foremost. We have gone long periods without sex for health reasons, so sex to us is really just a nice bonus - but not a necessity. However, people act like it's the only reason we're together.
I don't have children yet, but I'm trying to anticipate these same situations you've shared. One book that I might use in place of a christian bible to teach morals and life lessons is The Good Book: A Humanist Bible.
I am very late to this post, but I wanted to recommend Higher Ground by Caroline S. Briggs. It was made into a movie driven by Vera Farmiga. It is about a woman's conversion to Christianity and her slow deconversion. She and her family were part of a cult that was Pentecostal and she is from my home state. I recommend both the book and the movie. Sorry, I am not good at linking...
Book:
https://www.amazon.com/Higher-Ground-Memoir-Salvation-Found/dp/1442214384
Movie:
https://www.amazon.com/Higher-Ground-Vera-Farmiga/dp/B006LMF4FC/ref=sr_1_1?s=movies-tv&ie=UTF8&qid=1493864578&sr=1-1&keywords=higher+ground
I can recommend a few things. For some reason I like reading books about people who have escaped from fundamentalist sects. These may not be exactly what you're looking for but you might want to give them a try.