Top products from r/ExChristianWomen

We found 10 product mentions on r/ExChristianWomen. We ranked the 10 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the top 20.

Next page

Top comments that mention products on r/ExChristianWomen:

u/WhiteTigerZimri · 1 pointr/ExChristianWomen

Yeah that's a good point - it's frustrating when people sexualise everything. Perhaps it's a symptom of their own sexual repression, which they project onto other people. After all, if they are thinking about sex all the time, they assume other people are too! I do also think our culture has retained some Freudian ideas even if they are not scientifically valid... the idea that nearly everything people do is motivated by sex.

You make a great point about child abuse and sexual shame. Shame about sexuality is one of the primary tools that religion uses to keep people coming back, as most people experience sexual fantasies and thoughts fairly frequently, thus they feel guilty on a regular basis and have to repent continually. You might find this book interesting if you want to explore this topic further: Sex and God: How Religion Distorts Sexuality

But yeah I'm in a partnership with a woman now and sometimes it's frustrating feeling like our relationship gets sexualised. I feel like my relationship with her is primarily based on a foundation of friendship, first and foremost. We have gone long periods without sex for health reasons, so sex to us is really just a nice bonus - but not a necessity. However, people act like it's the only reason we're together.

u/blue_illusion · 1 pointr/ExChristianWomen

I don't have children yet, but I'm trying to anticipate these same situations you've shared. One book that I might use in place of a christian bible to teach morals and life lessons is The Good Book: A Humanist Bible.

u/Window_to_your_heart · 1 pointr/ExChristianWomen

I am very late to this post, but I wanted to recommend Higher Ground by Caroline S. Briggs. It was made into a movie driven by Vera Farmiga. It is about a woman's conversion to Christianity and her slow deconversion. She and her family were part of a cult that was Pentecostal and she is from my home state. I recommend both the book and the movie. Sorry, I am not good at linking...
Book:
https://www.amazon.com/Higher-Ground-Memoir-Salvation-Found/dp/1442214384
Movie:
https://www.amazon.com/Higher-Ground-Vera-Farmiga/dp/B006LMF4FC/ref=sr_1_1?s=movies-tv&ie=UTF8&qid=1493864578&sr=1-1&keywords=higher+ground

u/HelloSweetieXXOO · 4 pointsr/ExChristianWomen

I can recommend a few things. For some reason I like reading books about people who have escaped from fundamentalist sects. These may not be exactly what you're looking for but you might want to give them a try.

  • I Fired God: My Life Inside - and Escape from -the Secret World of the Independent Fundamental Baptist Cult by Jocelyn Zichterman. This is a book written by a woman who grew up in the IFB church (the same kind of church the Duggars belong to) and she talks about how abusive her childhood was because of it. Eventually she and her husband leave the church and have to cut off contact with her family.

  • Banished: Surviving My Years in the Westboro Baptist Church by Lauren Drain. Lauren's family joined the WBC when she was a teenager. She was later excommunicated and had to learn to make her own way in the world. The rest of her family still belongs to the church.

  • Cut Me Loose: Sin and Salvation After My Ultra-Orthodox Girlhood by Leah Vincent. This is actually about a woman leaving ultra-orthodox Judaism but her struggle with no longer being part of the only world she's ever known is very similar to what I've read in books about people leaving Christianity. It's a brutally honest memoir but it the ending is happy.

  • Keep Sweet: Children of Polygamy by Debbie Palmer. This one is written by a woman who grew up in the fundamentalist Mormon community of Bountiful. She suffered some severe abuse in both childhood and and as an adult. She made her escape when she saw the same things happening to her children.