Top products from r/Fosterparents
We found 13 product mentions on r/Fosterparents. We ranked the 11 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the top 20.
1. Crucial Conversations Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High, Second Edition
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
McGraw-Hill
3. How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk
Sentiment score: 2
Number of reviews: 1
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen Listen So Kids Will Talk
4. Parenting With Love And Logic (Updated and Expanded Edition)
Sentiment score: 0
Number of reviews: 1
Parenting with Love and Logic Teaching Children Responsibility
5. Love You From Right Here: A Keepsake Book for Children in Foster Care
Sentiment score: 2
Number of reviews: 1
6. The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting (Therapeutic Parenting Books)
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
7. Cosco Topside Backless Booster Car Seat (Leo)
Sentiment score: 0
Number of reviews: 1
This Cosco backless booster securely fits in your car and gives your child the extra height they need to keep seatbelts properly positionedMade for growing kids, the seat holds kids weighing between 40 to 100 pounds and 43 to 57 inches in heightLightweight, compact design makes the seat easy to move...
8. Cosco Apt 50 Convertible Car Seat (Black Arrows)
Sentiment score: 0
Number of reviews: 1
With 2 modes of use, this LATCH equipped Cosco car seat accommodates infants from 5 pounds up to toddlers weighing 40 pounds in rear facing mode and kids up to 50 pounds in forward facing modeThe 5 point harness adjusts easily from the front of the seat and features 6 heights and 3 buckle location...
9. Shea Moisture Kids Hair Care Combination Pack – Includes Mango & Carrot 8oz KIDS Extra-Nourishing Shampoo, 8oz KIDS Extra-Nourishing Conditioner, and 8oz Coconut & Hibiscus KIDS Detangler
Sentiment score: 0
Number of reviews: 1
SOFT, SMOOTH CURLS: Nourishing mango butter delivers intense moisturisation to curls keeping them soft, smooth and manageablePROMOTES HAIR GROWTH: Enriched with natural ingredients, this pack invigorates hair scalp and promotes hair growthTANGLE AND FRIZZ FREE: Coconut oil blended in the detangler d...
10. Evenflo Nurture Infant Car Seat, Teal Confetti
Sentiment score: 0
Number of reviews: 1
Separate stay-in-the-car base allows for easy transfer from home to car via the ergonomic easy-to-carry handle; Also available separately5-point harness with 3 shoulder harness and 2 crotch buckle positions for better fit and longer useAuto belt guides for use without a base if preferredCanopy shiel...
11. Evenflo Big Kid Sport High Back Booster Car Seat, Arcadia
Sentiment score: 0
Number of reviews: 1
2 Seats in 1: High Back Booster to No Back BoosterShoulder Belt Clip: Includes an attachable shoulder belt clip for proper positioning of vehicle belt over child's shoulderDual Cup Holders: Two built-in cup holders keep drinks and snacks within reach - allows driver to stay focused on the roadMachin...
It seems like you are on the right track! You were able to create an environment where you mostly stopped this behavior until it was triggered again. Have confidence in yourself and what you have done to get to this point.
It sounds like visits are causing her trauma cup to overflow with pain. To reduce the level of trauma in the cup, she needs empathy and positive support. Try validating her feelings: "sometimes it can be hard to remember how things used to be; it's ok to miss your mom and be mad at her at the same time" etc...Giving her her wishes in fantasy can help sometimes: "I bet you wish you could stay in the backyard all night playing!" and then allow her to talk about what she would do before transitioning back inside. The classic book How to Talk so Kids will Listen has great advice for supporting children's emotional needs: https://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/1451663889/ref=asc_df_1451663889/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312610812881&hvpos=1o1&hvnetw=g&hvrand=11106678324434262084&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9006806&hvtargid=pla-406475557415&psc=1&tag=&ref=&adgrpid=61194519294&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvadid=312610812881&hvpos=1o1&hvnetw=g&hvrand=11106678324434262084&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9006806&hvtargid=pla-406475557415
I've had some luck with playful engagement for snapping kids out of the "bad kid" role they sometimes learn to play in their attention starved homes. I'll act shocked and aghast and pretend to look all over the house for the "real" child's name. Or I'll pretend we are acting in a play and they are playing a role and then transition to the "scene" ending. TBRI has advice on this or read The Connected Child. https://child.tcu.edu/about-us/tbri/
First-then statements can help with predictability, trust, and felt-safety. "First we are going to clean up our toys, then we will go to the park etc..." If-then is also helpful for stating consequences when needed.
Reading her books at bedtime that explain the foster care process (she may have anxiety about returning home or suddenly being moved to a new family) and reassure her that you care about her no matter what. I absolutely love the book "Love you From Right Here." https://www.amazon.com/Love-You-Right-Here-Keepsake/dp/163296029X
Building in some sensory/regulation support proactively would probably be a good idea. Google sensory diet. You could also make a routine with a picture chart for her to help her sense of predictability. This is why playing outside likely calms her down. http://www.psychedconsult.com/uploads/5/5/2/7/5527771/9060909_orig.jpg The idea is that you do something every two hours like hopping on a hopper ball or carrying something heavy to help keep her brain and body calm.
Spending 5-15 minutes every single day no matter what to play with her one on one and use the PRIDE skills can cause remarkable change in just a few days. You can't ever take the time away though, no matter how poorly she behaves that day. http://www.impactparenting.com/storage/post-docs/PRIDE%20handout.pdf
Using time ins instead of time outs is a better practice whenever possible. Of course, as an adult, sometimes I am really the one that needs 30 seconds to get myself in a good place so I can be effective, so taking a quick time out first is sometimes needed for me. https://www.circleofsecurityinternational.com/userfiles/Downloadable%20Handouts/COS_Time-In.pdf
No Bad Kids by Janet Lansbury is great for general (ie not just foster) child discipline.
It’s U.K. based but we’ve got a lot out of The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting (https://www.amazon.co.uk/Z-Therapeutic-Parenting-Strategies-Solutions/dp/1785923765/ref=nodl_)
Would highly recommend anything relating to trauma and brain development or therapeutic parenting. Check out Dan Hughes, who came up with a concept called PACE.
Enjoy! And good luck with the fostering application. My wife and I started the journey aged 29, and are so glad we started early :)
It sounds like you’re already doing well, but this book comes to mind. It’s a good read.
Crucial Conversations Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High, Second Edition https://www.amazon.com/dp/0071771328/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_t5d7Cb35X0MDF
Check out r/curlyhair
I used this on my two curly haired toddlers: https://www.amazon.com/Shea-Moisture-Kids-Hair-Combination/dp/B01MTUMYH2/ref=pd_bap_m_rp_3/147-2303140-9478025?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=B01MTUMYH2&pd_rd_r=b0371aa8-3bcc-44da-8043-8bb16a6c83e8&pd_rd_w=EDZAc&pd_rd_wg=YMGk0&pf_rd_p=665e9232-ddd8-4783-afcf-68c54e59275a&pf_rd_r=BZ8JY68JZ7QM4HQQ24SE&psc=1&refRID=BZ8JY68JZ7QM4HQQ24SE
One of the girls hair got really matted in the back and I think it was her polyester pillow case so that might be something to consider. Also recommend using a wide tooth comb
I'd recommend reading this.
Check out:
The (Wonderful) Truth About Santa https://www.amazon.com/dp/0990592839/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_8cLUDbCVX8MAE
We have used this book to explain Santa to our kids. Without going into details, the book preserves the idea without delivering a lie.
Car seats don't have to be expensive. These are what we've got and used for the past few years. You can upgrade down the line if you get a long term placement and discover extra features you could use.
https://www.amazon.com/Evenflo-Nurture-Infant-Seat-Confetti/dp/B06XKWHSJ1/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?keywords=infant+car+seat&qid=1574645170&sprefix=infant+car&sr=8-1
https://www.amazon.com/Cosco-Convertible-Seat-Black-Arrows/dp/B00PNXI5PQ/ref=mp_s_a_1_14?keywords=toddler+car+seat&qid=1574645241&sr=8-14
https://www.amazon.com/Evenflo-Sport-High-Booster-Arcadia/dp/B07GHLCH13/ref=mp_s_a_1_9?keywords=high+back+booster+seat&qid=1574645298&sprefix=high+bac&sr=8-9
https://www.amazon.com/Cosco-Topside-Backless-Booster-Seat/dp/B006ZISVSO/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?keywords=high+back+booster+seat&qid=1574645298&sprefix=high+bac&sr=8-1