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I took baby aspirin in this pregnancy (currently ~27 weeks along) and my last pregnancy, which resulted in a live birth (who's almost 2 now :). I did not take it in either of my first two pregnancies, both of which resulted in miscarriages; HOWEVER, I made many changes and took many supplements, so I can't say that the baby aspirin, specifically made a difference.

In case you're curious, here's a brief run-down of what I take, supp-wise: progesterone (200mg x twice a day up to Week 10, suppository), baby aspirin, COQ10 (400 mg/day), fish oil, prenatal, calcium + vitamin D, magnesium.

I also eat mostly mediterranean (was a healthy eater to start with though), have one or two cups of coffee a day (up to 200mg of caffeine)m quit drinking 4 months before conceiving, don't use drugs, limit plastic (e.g., plastic plates, cups, tupperware, etc.), and try to use low-chemical personal care products (e.g., shampoos, soaps, lotions, etc.) and housecleaning products.

Lastly, I was very into high-intensity exercise (a great stress reliever for me!), but lowered the intensity a bit prior to my first successful pregnancy (still exercise regularly--just less intense--more walking, yoga, less jumping, etc.)--and try to meditate regularly as well. This hasn't negatively affected my fitness as far as I can tell and it's also helped me with energy-management (for me, pregnancy is a VERY energy-consuming process, and I felt much less tired/run-down when I moderated my exercise intensity a bit...but every body is different, so you should absolutely do what feels best for YOU :)

Again, not sure if ANY of these made the difference, but they's certainly helped my mindset and made me feel like I was doing whatever I could to support a healthy pregnancy after my miscarriages. If you're curious, I rec. the book, It Starts With the Egg (https://www.amazon.com/Starts-Egg-Pregnant-Naturally-Miscarriage/dp/0991126904) for evidence-based interventions that you can do to support a healthy pregnancy (these are mostly geared toward IVF folks, but as a non-fertility treatment TTC person, I found it extremely helpful!). Also, I'm a science/research geek, so I loved this website as well: https://sites.google.com/site/miscarriageresearch/home?authuser=0

Hope this helps and good luck!

EDIT: Can't believe I forgot this: I also take 600mg a day of n-acetylcysteine, which in at least one study has been showed to DRAMATICALLY decrease the risk of miscarriage for RPL. I honestly don't know why more doctors don't know about this or rec. it to their RPL patients (study here: https://www.rbmojournal.com/article/S1472-6483(10)60322-7/pdf)

I am so sorry for your loss. Yes, of course you can name your child. Of course you love your baby. There's no one right way to honor them, there are lots of right ways, and you don't have to find the perfect thing right this second. You can carry the child's memory with you always, and honor the child throughout your life. Some people plant trees, others get tattoos or wear memorial jewelry, others do other things.

I don't know if you're religious, but we're Orthodox Christian. At our little one's burial, one of the Bible readings was 1 Corinthians 15:39-41. Every star has its own glory. Every one counts.

I really liked this book, if you're the sort who likes to read about others' experiences. I found it helpful.

We buried our little one in a church cemetery, where the priest's family had experienced miscarriage. I made her a Christmas ornament, because we have ornaments for every important thing that happens. Eventually we named her Maria Arsenia, and I'll put her name on the little memorial wall we have at church. We will give a donation in her memory to help living children every mother's day and father's day. My husband is going to make a cross for her grave, and we visit to say ordinary daily family prayers there sometimes. She'll be with us, loved, always.

Someone told me once that a relationship doesn't end when one person dies. They were talking about an adult, that how they relate to the person changes through the years. But in the last few months I've found it to be true of my baby, too. I talk to her all the time. The raw grief is fading, but the love isn't. Hang in there. It's going to be very tough for a while, and you're going to need a lot of rest as you physically recover. Be very kind to yourself.

Woah that is just awful!! I'm so sorry the people that are supposed to be closest to you have been so unfeeling. My loss was nearly 2 years ago and it still hurts to this day. From my own experiences and in talking to others who are more years out than I, the pain never goes away but your ability to manage life with that background of pain improves.

Some things that helped me: going to a support group run by my maternal-fetal medicine department. My main doctor and delivery had been through a different hospital, but they welcome anyone in the community. They were so incredibly nice to me.... and after a traumatic experience with my delivery/horrible hospital stay/staff, they were just what I needed. The simple kindness and warmth helped immensely. I'd recommend talking to your nearest maternal-fetal medicine department because they'd likely be able to point you in the direction of a support group, if they don't run one themselves.

Additionally, this book was helpful. It is a compilation of stories of people who have lost children of all ages. It helps to show you are not alone.

I agree with distancing yourself from them for the immediate future. Give yourself the space and quiet time you need.

Wow, I'm going through something very similar. I found out yesterday from the D&C genetic testing that my "mass of cells" was a girl and it set my grief back to square one. I cried hysterically all night last night because knowing the gender makes it feel more "real" (100% agree with the other commenter) and that it was more of a baby than cells.

I'd like to recommend a book that my therapist told me about that has helped me a bit -- it's called Tear Soup and it kind of looks like a children's story book but it's actually pretty great. It offers a lot of tips for how to move through the pain (it also offers tips for how you and your SO can support each other).

I've really liked Willow Tree figurines. I got one if their little memory boxes to keep my ultrasound photos in, and it helped me get some closure after my loss last year.

This is the one I have, but all of their stuff is great: Willow Tree From The Heart Memory Box https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001A5165M/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_nC0SzbW4PTS41

I miscarried at 6w3d. The ER saw a very small fetal pole, but no heartbeat and three days later at my OB’s office there was only a gestational sac with a small yolk sac.

Take time to grieve. Let yourself feel your feelings. I found reading stories online and sharing with family and friends comforting. Journaling helps me too so I did that and wrote a letter to my angel baby.

After a few weeks I purchased some books on Amazon including, Loss Mom to Loss Mom and Saying Goodbye.

My mom and I also planted some flower bulbs that will bloom in the spring/summer around my estimated due date.

I am so sorry for your loss 💜

Not at all. I feel this way all the time. Two of my best friends just told me they are pregnant and it shattered me. I highly recommend reading the book Infreakinfertility. It helped me sort through my feelings of jealously and understand that there may always be a pang of sadness when you hear of someone who is pregnant and doesn't have to go through the same things you did. Best of luck to you, friend. Hang in there.

https://www.amazon.com/Infreakinfertility-Survive-When-Getting-Pregnant-ebook/dp/B07H7S52ZD

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Check out “Not Broken” by Dr. Lora Shahine. It covers every known cause for recurrent loss and explains all of the tests REs typically run. It’s thoughtfully written, really easy to read, and based in science and medicine.
I had been (erm...have been) obsessing about my unexplained RPL and read this book in a day. It was fairly comforting.

Amazon link: Not Broken

So sorry for your losses, hope this helps.

I am so sorry for your loss. I was in your situation twice last year. It’s absolutely awful. And you’re so right- it’s horribly unfair. There’s no logic or reason to it. I still can’t listen to certain songs or watch certain scenes in tv/movies and I still think about my babies. What they would’ve been like, looked like, etc. But I promise you, you can get through this. The best advice I can give is to let yourself grieve. Don’t fight the feelings. It’s ok to be devastated for a while.


I read this book: book link It was really helpful for me- it’s written by two psychologists who had miscarriages and did a study interviewing women who had suffered MCs. It’s all about making people more aware of what it’s like and how women cope. It made me feel less alone. After my miscarriage I realized they’re so common! But people don’t really talk about it. I highly recommend the book.

Hang in there. Sending you lots of positivity and strength 💜

You Are Not Alone: Love Letters... https://www.amazon.com/dp/0996555625?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

This one has really helped me. I don’t have the patience to sit and read long passages when I’m upset, so this is the perfect length for me.

Sorry about that! https://www.amazon.com/dp/0316027669/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_4MNODbT1WNPWA

I am sorry for your loss. I found this book helpful: https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B06XTZW86Y/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1492570548&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_FMwebp_QL65&keywords=not+broken
Also you don't have to wait until you have 3 miscarriages to do testing. Go see a Reproductive Endocrinologist (RE). The book above talks about all the tests you can have done.