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My best advice is make them feel welcome in the community. I’m not really sure how youth groups work but I know many of my friends who are both lgbt and Christian, it can be hard because of people who tell them they cannot be both. Let them know that they are loved and welcome.
As for there being a boys and girls side, I do agree that if at all possible you could remove the gendered sides. If there’s adult supervision in the lock-ins while they’re going to sleep it should be fine. If it’s not possible to remove the sides you can ask them where they’d prefer to sleep, and explain to them that there isn’t much you can do about removing the split sides.
A final thing I’d like to suggest is maybe reading the book “a quick and easy guide to they/them pronouns” it’s a short comic book that helps to explain non gendered pronouns to people who don’t know much about the topic but are willing to learn. It’s only about $8 (link to book)

I’d also like to say I’m glad you’re putting in the effort to make them feel welcome and safe. I’m sure they appreciate it

Yeah, Im currently single, but ive definitely thought about what relationships i might miss. What ive decided though, is that if i find someone that really loves me, they will love me no matter what i do, and anything else isnt worth it. (Ik thats so oversaid, but i really think its the right idea)
That being said, it doesn't make it suck any less.

If you haven't talked about it with her yet though, i wouldn't count it out just yet. One of my friends recently went through a similar experience with his girlfriend, and she was totally accepting.

For tucking, i don't have a whole lot of experience, and dont really know what youre referring too haha. but what works for me is using this gaffe with some boyshorts under it because its assless lol.

And yeah, i have mild anxiety so i def understand.

I also feel that "it" is the best pronoun I could use for myself, and I also feel intense pressure from the community to NOT use that pronoun. It also seems absurd to me that a person should be offended by what I choose to call myself. I think it's reasonable to assert that I'm allowed to use whatever words I like to refer to myself, but if you ask me not to use a given word around you because it bothers you, I'll try to accommodate that, just like I'd try not to swear around a person who asked me not to. With a pronoun, though... it feels like that is too fundamental and tied to one's identity to be reasonably policed this way.

If a lesbian wanted to be called a "dyke" (personally I love this word), or like my best friend, if a gay man liked using the word "faggot" jocularly to himself and his friends (I know a LOT of gay men who do), I wouldn't try to tell them that they shouldn't, but I also would understand why it would offend people. So I'm not sure what the answer is. Part of the reason I have no problem with "it" personally, I think, is because of Clive Barker's Imajica. One of the main characters is a creature whose sexuality and physical appearance are determined by the person LOOKING at it - a creature of manifest desire, so to speak. It's known as a mystif, and throughout the book is referred to as "it." The book is romantic, deeply emotional, and Pie'oh'pah never feels disrespected or denigrated, but I couldn't argue that "it" doesn't dehumanize Pie - it does. That's the point. Pie is not a human and shouldn't be thought of as a human. That would be limiting your understanding of it and who it is.

And here we come to the thing. "Dehumanize" means two things, and one of them is okay, and the other is not. When we mean that someone is treating a person as if they don't deserve rights, safety, the same things everyone else deserves, we call that dehumanizing, and that's fucked up. I don't think that the use of "it" as a pronoun necessarily does that, though. I think the use of "it" as a pronoun does the other form of dehumanizing, and it's the one I'm fine with: it sets me apart from humanity, makes me sound as if I am not human.

Think about the difference between saying: "You are not A PERSON" and "You are not HUMAN." I could be a person with rights and feelings without being human. I see this idea come up in /r/ennnnnnnnnnnnbbbbbby a lot - a lot of enby folks seem to feel this same disconnection I do, this sense that humanity as a concept is an ill-fitting suit, that the body can't be entirely divorced from its binary construction and so gender feels inextricably part of the human experience. There are tons of memes about being "a vaguely girl-shaped void in space" or "an ancient existential horror in a flesh suit" etc. - enbys FEEL dehumanized, and we don't particularly seem to mind that. I've never felt that becoming a man would make me more comfortable with myself, but I've many times felt that becoming a ROBOT would sort some of my shit out. I don't want to be a human. I don't want it to be easy for people to decide how to categorize me and then forget me. I don't want them to skim over my pronoun comfortably and then class me with all the other people they've ever known who used that pronoun. I want them to think about it when they say it, even a fraction as much as I have, and consider both why it bothers them and why it might not bother me. I want them to want to ask questions and be curious. For those reasons, I use the pronoun "it." But there's only one important reason, and that's that "it" feels like me. That's what pronouns are for. They're words that you use to refer to a specific person, place or thing. I would like to be specified, and in that respect, "they" is insufficient. "It" is specific without being definitive.

And if someone is the kind of person who would be so troubled by my use of "it" to refer to MYSELF exclusively, they will probably be troubled by a lot of other things about me, so we probably won't be friends. I think it'll be all right. I ain't hurtin anybody, and neither are you, so you do what feels right.

What's your measurement? Hard to gauge what a tiny trans body means.

Indochino would do whatever size customized but with shipping is going to run you upwards of $100 a shirt. Sounds like you are not looking to spend too much.

What about a boys shirt? Like this or this.

May I also suggest you look into a nice pair of goodyear-welt oxfords like these with a nice toe shape? Goodyear welts are not the cheapest but they are solidly built and you can replace the sole but keep the leather upper, meaning you can literally wear them 5-8 years minimum.

Edit: BTW the suit looks nice

Always My Child: A Parent's Guide to Understanding Your Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered, or Questioning Son or Daughter - Kevin Jennings

The GENDER Book - Mel Reiff Hill

The Gender Creative Child: Pathways for Nurturing and Supporting Children Who Live Outside Gender Boxes - Diane Ehrensaft

Gender Diversity and Non-Binary Inclusion in the Workplace: The Essential Guide for Employers - Sarah Gibson, J. Fernandez

Helping Your Transgender Teen: A Guide for Parents - Irwin Krieger

The Transgender Teen: A Handbook for Parents and Professionals Supporting Transgender and Non-Binary Teens - Stephanie Brill

Transitions of the Heart: Stories of Love, Struggle and Acceptance by Mothers of Transgender and Gender Variant Children - Rachel Pepper

yes it is, good eye!! i got it at a local shop, but i found this listing! there’s another listing on a website called inked goddess creations, but it’s sold out.
and thank u so much!!

In Germany we have a brand called ANITA. Can't vouche a 100% for them for being the best brand for a large chest, also I am not sure if you can buy their products everywhere. Ever since i discovered two or their models fits me more or less, it is my to-go brand. I posses now like 6 bras of two models and usually wearing them every not-binding day. the ones i have are pretty neutral in their design and I like the support and kind of light binding function. every now or then for very short trips I wear one of my very old bras and realise the huge difference. But I also gotta say that this brand doesn't fit me perfectly. My body changed quite a bit over the last few years (a difference of about 35-40 kilo less). I bought the 75-H modells, it is the only option that fits me more or less. I would need a smaler size (probs like 70ish) but in that case would also need a bigger cup which is not in their product range. It might be worth a try for you

https://www.amazon.de/dp/B0039O1DPK/ref=pe_3044161_189395811_TE_SCE_dp_1

https://www.amazon.de/Anita-Active-5527-Sport-BH-Schwarz/dp/B001VH7TTQ/ref=sxin_32_ac_d_rm?ac_md=1-1-YW5pdGEgYWN0aXZlIHNwb3J0IGJo-ac_d_rm&keywords=anita%2Bsport%2Bbh&pd_rd_i=B004HZHNY0&pd_rd_r=6a9870a1-b506-4627-8402-03931116a51d&pd_rd_w=esEZb&pd_rd_wg=j98Fq&pf_rd_p=2618eca9-4ff7-41d3-b46f-51aebb297467&pf_rd_r=58FSX1MN10FDCA0J6F7R&qid=1568644045&s=gateway&th=1&psc=1

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Those are the two I have

My husband and I decided to forego traditional rings entirely, and got tungsten spinner rings with a band you can rotate. I've always loved worry rings like that, he thought it was a neat idea, and we both found something similar we liked. I went for a thinner one that reads neutral to feminine, he went for an 8mm one that was more masculine.

A lot of it is just how you feel internally. I'm amab, but don't usually present in a feminine way in public due to how many assholes are out there. When I do, I make sure that I'm armed.

This book would probably answer all of your questions, and it does so in a very user friendly and easy to understand way, even for people who are straight and cis: How to Understand Your Gender https://www.amazon.com/dp/1785927469/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_txISDbVPY8001

Yessss!

Good for you!!!

If you need some reinforcement, tips, etc - highly recommend this book:
Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

You could say that you came out two summers ago and you feel like they're trying to ignore you whenever you try to share this part of you. Proper framing helps this sort of stuff so just sort of putting it across as trying to help them understand where you're coming from and not wanting to lose ties to them might help? Alternatively, approaching one before the other and saying that you don't think the other wants to understand you? Might sound a bit manipulative but this sort of thing is basically already gonna be a struggle in trying to get someone to get you.

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Another option is going to be dropping an article on their lap or sticking something on the telly with a nonbinary character in it that'll help them understand it a bit without it seeming "forced" or giving them a chance to argue about it. If you watch films with your parents or anything, "Upgrade" is a 2018 Science Fiction film with a one scene nonbinary hacker formerly named Jamie and that was a life saver for me as far as something silly and dumb to put on that raised the talking point.

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A mate of mine recommended THIS ( https://www.amazon.co.uk/Quick-Easy-Guide-They-Pronouns/dp/1620104997 ) to me. Life saver and a half. My dad borrowed it for a weekend, started making an effort thereafter. Its not the most complex of books but its got the general gist that someone completely new might need.


And maybe avoid the polycule for a bit unless there's a natural opening for it. For some reason the idea of multiple partners seems to spook people more than "I'm not the gender you think I am."

YESSSSS! I saw an article online back in September about these coming out with a slight negative slant to the story, and me being fresh on the self-acceptance train and brimming with enthusiasm said WELP, GOTTA HAVE THAT! I picked up this one and was utterly delighted! I've had fun swapping out their clothes to different looks, and to be completely honest, I feel personally empowered as a grown ass adult having a doll that matches the way I feel.

I almost want to get another one just to have more clothes to swap out with, but just as with my own wardrobe, there are bills to pay before we can get to that!

Ok so I can’t paste a picture here - I’m still learning reddit sheepish. The link that has the image is https://www.amazon.com/Funtasma-Pleaser-Womens-Gogo-300-Stretch/dp/B0018NCUEC/ref=asc_df_B0018NCUEC/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312487462035&hvpos=1o5&hvnetw=g&hvrand=16548211012477571817&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=t&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9016105&hvtargid=pla-339978493377&psc=1&tag=&ref=&adgrpid=65865895167&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvadid=312487462035&hvpos=1o5&hvnetw=g&hvrand=16548211012477571817&hvqmt=&hvdev=t&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9016105&hvtargid=pla-339978493377

Hanes Men's Pullover EcoSmart Fleece Hooded Sweatshirt, Black, Medium https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00JUM2V8I/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_7lB8CbZSE4FHM