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u/the_yugoslav · 2 pointsr/ROCD

I know you're in a bad place right now and here's an Internet hug from someone who understands your pain. Unfortunately, 'success stories' are probably not what you need right now. That would be reassurance seeking and is something that keeps OCD episodes coming back. It teaches your mind that 'when I'm feeling bad I need to find new information to make myself feel in control again'. It gives temporary relief but only reinforces the same patterns. I recommend reading the following book to get you started:

Then I'd say find a good ERP therapist who will help you make sense of all the confusion in your mind. The book in particular has some great exercises that will help you prepare yourself for the ERP sessions.

Finally, whether your thoughts are from OCD or genuinely how you feel, you are not a bad person. Actually if you could step outside of your own mind right now, you'd be able to see that what you're going through is simply part of the human experience. Especially in the 21st century where so much importance can be placed on romantic relationships, our peculiar ideas of love and the black/white views of society around us.

I'd say if you haven't already, read the book. It's written by someone with far more experience on the topic than any of us hanging out here in the subreddit (though not to take away from the wisdom and anecdotes we can share). Then, find a good ERP therapist in your area. That's plenty of homework to keep you busy for a little while :)

u/HiddenAntoid · 2 pointsr/ROCD

>Sometimes I find myself sinking into a pit of despair where I think that I'm permanently damaged because even the man who loves me most and knows me best can't get over the things I've been through, and it makes me question if I can ever reasonably expect to get over them then.

Please, don't do this to yourself! OCD doesn't com from a healthy or rational place in the mind, and not being able to let go is on of its main characteristics. It has nothing to do with you personally, it's just this particular thing that your boyfriend's brain is latching on to. There's nothing broken in you. Please remember that!

The gist of it is that it's your fiancé who needs to be doing the main body of the work. However, there are some things you can do to help/not hinder his progress. For example:

>. I try to calm him down by talking to him, but nothing I can say ever makes his obsessions stop.

Reassurance is not a good thing for OCD sufferer's, and one's obsessions will typically not respond to logic. He needs to be in Exposure and Response Prevention therapy, not avoiding his triggers, and identifying and resisting his compulsions. This book has very good reviews and it may help you understand better.

Also, it's great that you guys are working to be together ASAP, but keep in mind that it's likely that his OCD will get better and then worse again, because that in itself will not cure him. From my experience it's typical for long distance partners to experience this with rOCD (less intense symptoms when they reunite).

I hope everything works out fantastically for you two, congratulations on the engagement, and feel free to post here whenever you need it!

u/loki93009 · 2 pointsr/ROCD

This is the book, it has a lot of helpful stuff in it for husband i havent read it but he's read parts to much. lol its funny because sometimes he gets really excited when it helps something click in his brain about why i do things / how my brain works. It's helped us a lot.

Like i dont want him to enable my OCD and i dont want my OCD to create rules/ limit what husband and our daughter can do but i do want him to understand it so that he can help me work on things and know when like im freaking out/ stuck in an OCD spiral, it helps us not fight because he doesnt get frustrated with me anymore and can be like " seem to be being a bit illogical atm" and i can be like "yeah you right" or "no this isnt an ocd thing you really just pissed me off"

u/ashleykr · 1 pointr/ROCD

Here is a place to find a specialist who treats OCD:

While you're waiting, here is a really helpful book that will help you get started:

Best of luck!

u/kitapillar · 1 pointr/ROCD

>Don't worry, mom. I'm doing me. I won't let myself get taken advantage of.

Okay, good goal.

>I thought that's what girls that guys try to lie to are supposed to do. That's really what I felt.

You live and you learn. How you feel =/= the best decision.

>I actually thought I was the victim of a pathological liar. I felt powerless. I felt terrified I was losing him.

When confronted with a red flag like this, the only thing to do is leave. Why would you be terrified of losing a pathological liar in your life? Whether or not he is, if you feel this way, the only healthy choice for you is to leave.

>To which you'll respond that if I can't move past the lie, I should leave him, not continue to abuse him.

Yeah. And it's not easy. But that's the healthy thing to do. No buts about it. The way you feel being in this relationship is not good. Healthy people dont try to manipulate the parts that arent good. Healthy people realize that the only thing they can control are themselves and they leave. You are stuck in this limbo where you are trying to control him to lower your insecurities, while understanding that you will never truly know if he's lying to you (aka whether or not he is really under your control). When you are in a relationship like this, you leave, because it is not fun or good to feel this way. Yes, it's the only answer. It doesn't matter if you love him, it doesn't matter what you want, what matters is what's good for you. This is not.

>This really isn't how I treat people in general - this is pretty situationally-specific.

Honestly, if you dont learn anything from this and change your response to stressors from romantic interests, it will definitely become a pattern. Maybe he's one of the few people you feel it's okay to do this to, so that's why you justify it (vs. a stranger or a friend). But objectively you think its okay to treat him like this, which means there is potential for you to continue abusing him or use the same reasoning with other partners to abuse them.

>I want help. I want to be better and I want to stop this behavior. I am not willing to believe I'm a hopeless cretin.

I don't call people names, so I would never call you a hopeless cretin and I don't think it's useful to call yourself one either. What's done is done. You can't change that--but you can use your shame and regret (as well as love and pride in yourself) to become a person that you do like. The more you develop yourself, the more you will like yourself.

Being better means to stop abusing people, which means to learn healthy interpersonal skills. I suggest you get the book The Usual Error: Why We Don't Understand Each Other and 34 Ways to Make It Better. You need to learn how poeple communicate not only so you can become a better communicator, but also so that you can trust your intuition and leave untrustworthy people early so you dont let it drag on and have to leave when you're so caught up in them.

Develop self love, read about how people work, change your responses to relationship stressors--all of this needs to be addressed in therapy.

u/Kindlywriter · 2 pointsr/ROCD

No worries, it's good to discuss things. You should read the guy's book. It's a bit traumatizing to read, but his recovery after he went through what he went through is really heartening.

u/certainly_doubting · 1 pointr/ROCD

Copy-paste form my previous thread so it doesn’t go missing:

Here are some resources that I think are essential reads for anyone suffering from ROCD and/or depression

ROCD: Relationship OCD and the Myth of "The One" - Great writeup written by therapists who are specialized in treating ROCD

Love You, Love You Not - Excellent ROCD 101 short book targeted towards people who have ROCD. It's very insightful as it is written by someone who has dealt with it and learned to successfully manage it. I just re-read it recently while going through a relapse, and it punched me with even more power than the first time

Imp of the Mind - Although it does not talk about ROCD specifically, it is all about Pure O. It helped me to look at ROCD and other intrusive thoughts in my head from another perspective. Some of the cases in the book are bizarre and funny, which made me feel like i don't have it so bad

Brain Lock - This should be part of anyone's OCD treatment swiss-army knife!

The Noonday Demon - If you struggle with major depression, as I do, this is dense but an incredible read. The author has a TED talk that is really good: Depression: The Secret We Share

Don't Panic - This one borders more on self-help books, which I kinda don't like, but a must-read if you struggle with panic disorder