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I don't need/expect full shave or wax, but it's just a drag to go down on someone who's got a lot of pubic hair--and I LOVE going down.

I have pretty sensitive skin also, and had issues with both waxing and wet shaving--given that nicks/rashes increase your risk of acquiring an STD, that is not cool from a casual play perspective.

I have been using a trimmer (a wahl) plus this close shaver for several months and am quite happy with that combo. The close shaver is not quick--it usually takes several passes to get all the hair off--but I have zero skin irritation and my skin stays really soft. The close-shaver only works on hair that's already very short, so using the trimmer first is a must.

Personally, I find that I have greater sensitivity (in a good way) when I'm completely shaved, which is why I do it. I also think it's considerate of anyone who might go down on me. :)

EDIT: Just adding this--I personally don't consider it a positive thing that pubic hair traps moisture--unfortunately, for many people, that also means that it causes odor. It would be nice if everyone were super-conscientious about hygiene, but not everyone with pubic hair is going to go wash right before getting down (I wish they would). My body chemistry is pretty sensitive & I avoid anything that increases moisture (e.g., synthetic panties, pubic hair, etc.) because I've found that helps me avoid yeast infections. But I get & stay wet very easily, so maybe I have the opposite problem your wife has.

Hey! You've already gotten some great advice but I wanted to chime in that we've been there and done that. What got us through this much easier than expected was reading a book called "The Ethical Slut". I could not recommend it enough for you: it not only will help you through this situation, it'll help reinforce you and your husbands next steps and encounters. Good luck and you'll get through this either way!

Amazon sells these chucs style pads like they use at hospital for post delivery. https://www.amazon.com/Saddle-Style-Reusable-Waterproof-Bed/dp/B0001YIB1A/ref=mp_s_a_1_8?keywords=waterproof+pads+for+bed&qid=1558227333&s=gateway&sprefix=waterproof+oads&sr=8-8. Definitely a great investment and easy to just wash and use and you need.

This makes sense. Even though I'm not really an avid user of porn (unless you count SLS and AFF profiles, which I rarely if ever use as masturbatory material. Most of that comes from my Kindle erotica readings 8^) ).
The reason I say it makes sense is that our friends like to keep the lights dim when we're playing. I've mentioned to my wife I would rather leave them on as I am a very visual person.

Possibly I should just bring a set of my work lights to the room next time. hahaha. something like this...http://www.amazon.com/Designers-Edge-L13-1000-Watt-Telescope/dp/B0007WJJFS/ref=sr_1_10?ie=UTF8&qid=1453766144&sr=8-10&keywords=work+lights

I read a great book, "How to make love all night (and drive your woman wild)" in my early 20s and its helped me last longer and have multiple orgasms. A lot of good advice on breathing, muscle control, arousal recognition, and more in there.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000FC127S/

Other than that you could use condoms for BJs, numbing lube, cum before going, or just tell them to stop/slow down bc you don't want to cum yet.

Why not start by reading books and listening to podcasts? It's something you can do together to explore your fantasies and at the same time, educate yourselves so that if you do decide some day that you feel like trying swinging, you'll be caught up on the learning curve. There are podcasts linked to in the side bar of this subreddit, and let me go find you some books from my Amazon list. brb...

Here you go:

My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory

69 Shades of Swinging: A How-To Guide From A Full-Swap Lifestyle Couple For Enhancing Your Relationship With Recreational Sex

Playing Well with Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities

Plays Well in Groups: A Journey Through the World of Group Sex

Lots of things can cause it. Being overweight, having a sedentary lifestyle, lack of good sleep, lack of healthy food, environmental factors, I think genetics. It’s endemic among western men and there’s very few people talking about it.

The way you would treat it is to first make sure you’re living a healthy lifestyle. If that doesn’t work then you would supplement, under a health professional’s supervision. You can really fuck yourself up if you do it yourself. Thing is that most doctors, including endocrinologists, have no idea. You need to find a doc that specializes in optimizing men’s hormones.

I would suggest this book and this one

If you need a good telemedicine doctor shoot me a DM and I can suggest one.

Happy to answer any other questions, just send me a message.

loads of christians in the lifestyle but we leave politics and religion at the door...you should too. As far as being compatible with Christianity, the bible is full of multiple wives, brothers taking over deceased brothers wives and all manner of lasciviousness. My POV...99% of the sex you have in life isn't for the purpose of making babies it is for pleasure, God wouldn't have made orgies so much fun if She didn't intend for us to partake. Church doctrine is BS made up by men to control the flock. Look into the book Sex at Dawn for a little history on how sex USED to be viewed. The idea of monogamy is relatively recent

http://www.amazon.com/Sex-Dawn-Stray-Modern-Relationships/dp/0061707813/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1452562585&sr=1-1&keywords=sex+at+dawn

Swinging in America by Curtis R. Bergstrand and Jennifer Blevins Sinski is another good one. http://www.amazon.com/Swinging-America-Love-Marriage-Century/dp/0313379661/ref=la_B002QK30IQ_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1407366961&sr=1-1

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A book that may help: Esther Perel - Mating in Captivity
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000UODXP0/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1

https://www.amazon.com/Ethical-Slut-Practical-Relationships-Adventures/dp/1587613379

Softcups

http://www.amazon.com/This-Party-Started-Frances-Hill/dp/0811848701/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1375875395

The Swinger Manual by JustAsk Julie was a huge help for us when we were brand new. We took turns reading it aloud to each other. It covers a lot of ground and is mostly spot on. It really addressed a lot of our fears, doubts and questions.

Edit: Added link.