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If you're into romance and erotica there are three excellent anthologies I can recommend written by trans people for trans people.

Take me there: Trans and Genderqueer Erotica

Trans/Love: Radical Sex, Love and Relationships beyond the gender binary

Nerve Endings: The New Trans Erotic

All three of these are really excellent and well worth reading. Very hot, very entertaing and wonderfully romantic. Some are cute, some are heavily sexual, hell one is about falling in love with a trans woman A.I. So there is stuff for everyone in these stories.

A couple thoughts:
-If you haven't already, I would definitely ask in a delicate way what language she prefers for her genitals / chest. For some trans femme ppl, dick or girldick is totally fine, others prefer clit, and some others may use junk or something else. Same goes for chest vs breasts vs boobs vs whatever. It's always best to ask, politely, before you're in a circumstance where you might say something that triggers dysphoria and kills the mood. This can also be a great way to ease into a more general conversation about likes/dislikes
-Even after these conversations, I would still check-in like the day that any kind of sexual activity is happening, just to see what her feelings are on that day. I know for me, some days I love for someone to touch / play with my chest, other days it makes me feel really dysphoric, so I always appreciate someone doing a quick check-in before getting down to it.
-This should be standard for all sex regardless of gender / genitals, but make sure you ask for verbal consent before touching or going down on her!
-Finally Fucking Trans Women is a zine with lots of great thoughts / ideas / advice on sex with trans women, I'd check it out if you are looking for ideas https://www.amazon.com/Fucking-Trans-Women-FTW-1/dp/1492128937

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I had a happy valentines day.

Last night I got the screen on my iPhone fixed, and it only cost $30.

I also picked up my first Squirrel Girl book while I was waiting for the repair, and I loved it. Truly one of Marvel's best characters.

I was down half a pound this morning. Just 3 more until I reach my first milestone of 25lbs lost.

19 days until my second child is born.

HCF is great. If you want to read the book that inspired large chunks of it, Soul of a New Machine is really good.

There's nothing wrong with being a weeb, just be respectful to native Japanese and don't be like a trans chaser is to us.

I don't have manga suggestions, but if you like to read Japanese books then: Musashi, Taiko, The Soil.

My parents did the same thing. I had come out to them once before and then went back in the closet then came out to them again and then went public and full time within 2 months and I didn’t tell them beforehand that I was going to come out. Their response? “Well you should have told us so we could prepare people that we know”

It’s not their transition and they don’t need to prepare anyone. They are emotionally immature parents and you should read a book called:

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents https://www.amazon.com/dp/1626251703/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_z0hVCb2KZADP3

It’s a really good read and will help you learn how to deal with them.

Not doing summaries/reviews, cause it's late and I'm tired. On request, I suppose. Mostly books, with a couple docs and a few blogs.


Less theory, more personal experiences:

• Stone Butch Blues (fiction)
  
• S/He
  
• 3 to Infinity: Beyond Two Genders
  
• Gender Failure
  
• Neutrois Nonsense
  
• Asexy Sex
  
• (a)sexual
  
  Actually Theory:
  
  
• Not Your Mom's Trans 101
  
• My (new) Gender Workbook
  
• You and Your Gender Identity (The author also has some videos)
  
• Any of the videos or articles Zinnia Jones does
  
• As Nature Made Him
  
• Whipping Girl
  
• Queer Theory: An Introduction
  
• Gender Outlaw
  
• Gender Outlaws (same author, different books)
  
• Transgender Warriors
  
• Sexing the Body
  
  And a couple links I make it a point to share whenever I can:
  
  
• Trans 101 (for trans people
  
• there are some things I need to tell you

I’ve been using this IPL device from amazon. After 4 weeks hair has definitely slowed, but I’m very skeptical if it’s going to give me the ultimate result I’m looking for.