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This has become my default copy-and-paste whenever someone asks about getting started with rope bondage. In this case also look at the last time I saw this question asked, there are plenty of other good answers there. This is a copy-paste to make it easier to keep things up-to-date and not ignore key points, but I'm always happy to provide more information if you have additional questions.

TL;DR: Be safe first. Hands-on classes are the best way to learn to be as safe as possible, but there are several excellent resources available as well.

Looking for local groups on FetLife is one of the best things you can do, especially for something like rope where there is a strong element of risk. In almost any mid-sized city and up there will be a local rope community teaching classes, organizing munches (public social gatherings), skill-shares, and the like. Done wrong you can cause permanent nerve damage or even death. Don't just rush in without learning the basics of how to do it safely. Along those lines Crash Restraint and Remedial Ropes both have excellent resources on how to have a lot of safe fun with rope bondage.

For the basics you can go a long way with some simple single and double-column ties. With a single-column and a half hitch to a bedpost you can easily have a lot of fun. My personal favorite is the Somerville Bowline because it's fast, easy to tie, and it won't cinch tight after being tied unlike many other methods. It's also the first step in making this great wrists behind head tie. Topologist (the guy in the video) was teaching this recently actually and I got to see first-hand how quickly a number of novices picked it up. Easy, fast, built from a few basic, reusable techniques; looks great, lots of utility, and a bunch of fun ways to expand on it (say, going down between the crotch before starting the wraps and tying it off in the front rather than the back so that trying to pull your arms forward serves a dual purpose). Twisted Monk and Two Knotty Boys (who also have several well-respected books) have some very good video tutorials available for free online as well. They get many recommendations, but I find Two Knotty Boys to be a bit too focused on aesthetics and decorative ties.

But you want to get some books instead? The Society of Janus has an excellent book list to get you started with a wide variety of BDSM topics. They cover a lot of the standard recommendations: Midori's The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage, Jay Wiseman's Erotic Bondage Handbook, and Lee Harrington's Shibari You Can Use.

What they don't list, however, but I would suggest above those titles is Douglas Kent's Complete Shibari. Start with Volume 1: Land. Suspension is an advanced topic and something that not only requires strong floor skills, but should really be learned hands-on from someone experienced. It's quirky and has some odd choices (I would like far more text personally and his single column tie, though popular and often taught, will cinch under tension), but it has excellent illustrations and does one thing that most other books ignore: it teaches you in a building-block approach where basic ties are shown and then used to create a variety of more complex ones. This shows you how to start developing on your own rather than locking you into just repeating what you've been shown and makes it easier to learn since it's not just rote memorization. It also makes learning new things simpler since you understand the concepts at play and can then focus on how they're combined and the details to making them work well together.

While people usually ask about tying someone the other side is all too often ignored, but equally demanding. The Little Guide to Getting Tied Up by Evie Vane is the only book on the market aimed specifically at rope bottoms and it's filled with useful information. There's a lot of information to be gained as a top in it as well and I can't recommend it enough.

As for rope itself it's never a bad time to learn more about what's out there and why people use it. "Japanese silk" from major sex toy companies is just cheap cotton rope dyed in various colors (avoid black rope when starting, even though it can look great it makes it hard to see knots). Especially buying from Spencer's or most sex shops you'll be overpaying badly for short lengths of cheap rope. My girlfriend (we're both rope tops) has a 200' spool she bought recently from Amazon for about $30 and while it's OK, it's not great. Stretchy, squishy... it holds and feels better than nylon, but that's about it. You could probably buy something cheaper or equivalent at the hardware store. I personally started with nylon and I dislike it quite a bit, but it's another cheap, starter option. In this case though we both moved on to hemp within a few months after having more time and experience with natural fiber rope and realizing that we'd be getting plenty of use out of it.

If you want to get inexpensive rope from the hardware store check that it doesn't have a core made from another fabric. Cotton "clothesline" often has a tough plastic core and should be avoided. Many braided nylon ropes have a thin, wadded layer inside as well. Try to check it out first if possible or look around for "solid nylon braid" rather than just "nylon braid." Twisted nylon will work and won't have a core, but it comes apart too easily and isn't ideal.

I've been happy with the hemp from Karma Rope personally. It's a good, inexpensive option (pay what you want) and their hemp requires minimal finishing. They also sell jute, but I have no personal experience with it. People have stated good things about the jute from MyNawashi however and if you want another inexpensive option they're worth looking into.

You'll be paying roughly twenty cents a foot from either of them and approximately the same price at the hardware store for cotton or nylon rope. I'd say go with an inexpensive natural fiber vendor to start with and skip the cheap beginner rope step.

If you want to pay more Twisted Monk is very popular for finished hemp rope although I'm partial to DeGiotto. M0co Jute (very popular for jute rope), Douglas Kent Rope (by bondage author Douglas Kent), Jugoya (respected Japanese rope top Arisue Go's shop), Knot Normal... sometimes it seems like a new shop selling good quality bondage rope opens up every day. For these shops you can expect to pay closer to $1/foot or slightly higher, but you'll have very nice, fully conditioned rope.

As for length and thickness a lot of that is going to be personal preference. Topologist has some good advice on rope sizes here. It says just about everything that I would although he recommends a slightly more complete kit. For beginning I'd suggest going with about 3 long ropes and 2 short ropes (roughly half the length of the long ropes). I'm currently using 8m and 4m lengths of 6mm hemp.

Use your imagination!

But seriously, there are tonnes of ideas you can get from porn or from searching around. Once you start thinking kinky, the dollar store can be a treasure trove of pervertables.

I'm not sure about swimsuits and latex, but if you're into the same tight feeling of mummification with plastic you can buy rolls of plastic wrap. Check out pallet wrap as well.

Scarves can be found for very cheap and make for great restraints or blindfolds.

Good quality rope is a bit more expensive, but worth it. Research your rope beforehand:

• Hemp and jute are the "classic" tan-coloured rope you see in most bondage shoots for good reason: it's solid, doesn't stretch much, and holds a knot really well while not being impossible to untie. Good for all levels.
  
  
• Cotton rope can be comfortable for light bondage, but it stretches, making some knots very difficult to get undone if struggled against. Good for begining and very light bondage.
  
  
• MFP (Multi-filament-polypropylene) is comfortable like cotton but holds its' shape like hemp or jute. It's a good beginning material, but more expensive.
  
  
• Polypropylene rope (the kind you might find on a dock) is very uncomfortable, painful, and difficult to undo knots (this stuff: http://www.dingocroft.co.uk/acatalog/ropeyelow6m.jpg ). Do not use (unless you're a sadistic bastard)
  
  For rope bondage, here is an excellent introduction pdf: http://www.kinkfriendly.org/wp-content/uploads/2010/12/kinkfriendly_org_rope_101_compressed.pdf
  
  Here are some other valuable rope/bondage resources:
  
  
• Two Knotty Boys - http://www.knottyboys.com/code/downloads.php - Hundreds of instructional videos for rope bondage
  
  
• The Better Built Bondage Book - http://www.tbbbb.com/ - Do It Yourself guide to bondage furniture and accessories; a fantastic book
  
  
• Complete Shibari Volume 1 - http://www.amazon.com/Complete-Shibari-Volume-1-Land/dp/0973668814/ref=pd_bxgy_b_img_y - Japanese-style rope bondage instructional book.
  
  
• Complete Shibari Volume 2 - http://www.amazon.com/Complete-Shibari-Volume-2-Sky/dp/0973668822 - Volume 2 of the above, with suspensions
  
  Hope that helps!
  
  EDIT: Formatting.

As far as free online videos, Twisted Monk has some very basic videos, and I learned a lot from the Two Knotty Boys videos as well. They're both very helpful when starting out.

For Shibari information specifically, Midori's classic book is a good place to start. After that, I suggest moving on to Douglas Kent's excellent Shibari books, both the first and the second volume.

I can go on for a while about other good rope books if you're looking for more general information, so feel free to ask if you need more info. Of course, sticking your head over in /r/BDSMcommunity is a good move as well.

This is 3903 vinyl tape. You cant see in the video but there are slight ridges all along the tape to make it easier to tear. It is my favorite bondage tape as it unrolls quickly and easily, comes off nicely, and comes in a variety of colors. it is overpriced on amazon though.... should be about 6-9 bucks.

I am quite certain it is this tape...or damn near exactly the same...proof here: http://i.imgur.com/f6FGi0m.jpg <-- this is my personal stash of tape

https://www.amazon.com/3M-3903-Vinyl-Duct-Yards/dp/B0000AXT8K/ref=pd_day0_328_9?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=B0000AXT8K&pd_rd_r=DAVVA01NPD6YQ21FTJV8&pd_rd_w=pKPOC&pd_rd_wg=67LFl&psc=1&refRID=DAVVA01NPD6YQ21FTJV8

I am a rope bondage instructor. I would highly suggest Complete Shibari Volume 1: Land
I wish I had this book when I was starting out. In my opinion it is the best shibari instruction book out to date. He has an advanced follow up book called Sky that is for rope suspension.

To really know the difference between the two, you have to look at the Japanese. Shibari (縛り), the nominal form of the verb shibaru (縛る), which means to tie.

Kinbaku (緊縛) is used to refer to sexual bondage.

Shibari is generally more artistic and doesn't need to involve nudity and/or play.

You can get a much better description of both from this book:
https://www.amazon.com/dp/0692344659

Both shibari and kinbaku come from hojojutsu: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hoj%C5%8Djutsu

Hope this helps.

Try Vet Wrap. It's a self-adhesive cloth tape. It won't stick to your skin or hair or anything. A few times around works great for bondage. It's also rather nice as a blindfold (wrap it around your face a few times).
https://www.amazon.com/3M-Vetrap-Bandaging-Tape-PRICE/dp/B000RI3ZVG

I took a look at that one, but I did not like how open it was. Was worried I could snag someone with it. Still, obviously better then a knife (which should never be used as an emergency rescue device) but I do prefer the benchmade one. They will also sharpen it for free if you send it in. The exact one I use

I asked the same thing when I saw them! The best I can find are:

Master Series Stainless Steel Clover Clamp Nipple Stretcher

Master Series Stainless Steel Nipple Spiral Extender and Barbel

Have you tried "pleasure tape"? (or whatever they call it) I've seen it at most adult stores I've been to. It's a tape that only sticks to itself, not to the skin.


Here's an example on Amazon!


www.amazon.com/Pipedreams-Fetish-Fantasy-Pleasure-Black/dp/B000KBV814

Thank you! One of my favorites resources is The Complete Shibari books. http://www.amazon.com/Complete-Shibari-Volume-1-Land/dp/0973668814

Here's a link to the Amazon page.

https://www.amazon.com/Bordello-Pleaser-Womens-Teeze-20-Ankle/dp/B00A0IWE9W?th=1

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0091WNGY0?ie=UTF8&force-full-site=1&ref_=aw_bottom_links

https://smile.amazon.com/Master-Steel-Anal-Bondage-Hook/dp/B007YUX6UA/ref=pd_bxgy_121_img_2?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=B007YUX6UA&pd_rd_r=7PXHF6MKFD10JH3966F4&pd_rd_w=2zVV7&pd_rd_wg=AMQYH&psc=1&refRID=7PXHF6MKFD10JH3966F4

or

https://www.amazon.com/Miss-Darcy-Arrival-Fetish-Bondage/dp/B00E4GURE0

or

https://www.twistedmonk.com/products/ass-hook

Here is the one I bought that is similar. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000W0EW9I/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

You can get hinged handcuffs that don't have a chain.

Here you go

They're thumbcuffs.

I have one but it's not me in the video, I guess I should have said that

For some reason it's not available on Prime anymore, but here you go.

Freebily Women PU Leather straitjacket Strict Kinky Fancy Straight Jacket Fancy Costume Red One Size https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07B8KXVXG/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_dQwyDbSAVB7VK