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u/cfwang1337 · 17 pointsr/confessions

It's a good thing you're not cutting anymore...


Hey, I didn't even go to prom junior year and didn't have a date senior year. To be trite, it gets better. I'm guessing you're not even 18 yet, but people do get less shallow/more mature over time. A lot of the shorter dudes I know (myself included, at 5'5" - and my dad is 5' flat) ended up doing just fine. Here are some things you can do:


  1. Bulk up. It's an easy way to compensate for a lack of verticality. Plus, it'll give you a hobby and something to talk about, even if mostly with gym bros and fit chicks. You should also make sure to dress well. You don't have to "peacock" or any of that nonsense, just make sure your clothes fit and don't clash. You can compensate with shortness a little with a hairstyle like a faux-hawk or something, too.
  2. Get charismatic and confident! There are tons of resources out there on how to develop good social skills, make good conversation, and come across as super interesting. Of course, you can only come across as super interesting by:
  3. Becoming an interesting person. Find a cool hobby (or job) and get good at it, develop a good sense of humor, get well-informed and worldly. Maybe pick up a martial art or something similarly badass (I'm biased, as I'm a black belt and instructor).


    It's absolutely unfair and absolutely sucks. Unlike weight, you have essentially zero control over it. You *will* have to work harder than someone taller. To the extent that it forces you to work on yourself, though, it's also a good thing.


    Peter Dinklage is 4'4" and married to a total babe. It's not by any means hopeless.


    For reference:
u/RoutineIngenuity · 1 pointr/confessions

I know I’m going to get bashed for this but this book makes some strong and fascinating points on why it is ok for kids to go up the slide...

It's OK to Go Up the Slide: Renegade Rules for Raising Confident and Creative Kids

u/KillinTime0 · 1 pointr/confessions

Disclaimer: I am not a parent, I am not married and, I am not related to anybody who is neurodiverse. However-I have spent several years working within a few support agencies and non-profits in the field, and have worked with a wide array of individuals.


I do not want this to be a reply that assumes I know anything about your position or difficulties, rather, I want to share some of the most useful ideas that I have learned in the past few years. While these strategies have helped me greatly, I don't claim them to be a quick save for your exact situation. After all, I am able to leave work and if tension rise between me and an individual I am able to switch staff members. You have a far more difficult and long lasting challenge. I am hopeful that they can be of some assistance in any case.


  • Balance their freedom and their betterment.

    On of my personal difficulties in supporting individuals at work is balancing their freedom alongside their health/betterment. Full freedom means they will spend all their money on Snickers and a TV without buying soap and socks. A betrayal of their freedom would be me dictating their foods (WE MUST BE HEALTHY), controlling their social life (you can't be friends with them), and forcing them to obey a strict schedule (Bedtime. Now.). Nobody wants that. Instead, we must find balance among the two and learn to pick the fights for the greater good. Sometimes they could have a rush of energy and really need to channel that toward something- often times they could kick the wall or headbutt me. The compromise is that we re-channel their energy; allow them to still decompress, but without injuring me. One resident LOVES to rip newspapers into shreds. Another likes to break down cardboard boxes. I've noticed that if they feel what they are doing is constructive to themselves or others, then the task is more compelling to them. Which leads to another observation:


  • Everybody wants purpose.

    It is remarkably easy to say that the disabilities of a person mean they have no responsibility- but we long for responsibility. I know of one individual who used a electric wheelchair because he had no muscle function below his neck. He was remarkably depressed (common among the neurodiverse) and had made several attempts on his life. He had sat in on a support group that was reading Man's Search for Meaning (highly recommended). The book is written by a psychologist who is describing his perception of how humanity finds meaning from his firsthand experience in the concentration camps. After finishing the book the individual spoke to the staff member leading the group (this was the first time he had spoken in literal years, to the staff's knowledge). He wanted to know how his life could have any slight amount of meaning. After working with him, they found that he could push a large broom through the halls of the support center where he stayed. To my knowledge, he has been doing this for years- and the idea that he has been able to support those who support him has brought him back from some of his darkest moments. I currently work with another resident who has recently stopped a lot of violent behavior when we taught him the "game" of organizing cards. By color, by suit, buy face value, all of them. He loves the idea that he can contribute his energy to anything productive in a world that offers to do nearly everything for him. Lastly:


  • Control cannot be the goal.

    All of the biggest melt-downs that I have encountered, among all individuals, have often come from staffs (myself included) inability to de-escalate the situation. I do not mean that we were at fault because of incompetence, I mean we were at fault due to our ignorance. And there is little more that we could do in those situations than try to learn from them. Example: I worked with an individual who was pre-diabetic and on a diet, but the guy loved to snack (don't we all?). Our goal was to get him to eat less junk food. My error in the situation was in telling him that he couldn't eat the junk food. I established myself as an authority over him that told him "no." That was a mistake, and not the proper way to support him. Rather, I should have reminded him of his goal, and further, reminded him whose responsibility that was. I learned that a better tool to work with this individual later on was to remind him of his own responsibility to his health. If it was a game of him disrespecting authority? Always. If it was a game of him disrespecting himself? Never. I don't claim this would work with everybody, mind you, but its a case where I needed to test the waters to change both his prospective and mind towards something that was more constructive for both of us.


    All that said, you are in a remarkably difficult position. I can say that it will get more difficult, but at the same time you are going to develop more skills and tools to ease the burden. My biggest hope for you and your family is that your development of tools is much faster than the increased difficulty of problems. You are doing just fine! Your child likely cannot communicate their appreciation and affection to you in a clear way; but do not, for a single moment, allow yourself to believe that they do not love and care for you with the same intensity that you do them.
u/fixmajus · 2 pointsr/confessions

I was a small liar too.

This book really helped me a lot :

Basically, stop hiding things to make yourself look better. People tend to like flaws and confidence better then akwardly perfection.

u/ChestBras · 10 pointsr/confessions

Yeah, but that's bit suspect.
If you were to put that on your phone screen, and have the phone angled under the screen, and then controlling the phone with the Bluetooth keyboard and mouse in front of you, it would look 10 times more natural.

You just need a keyb/mouse witha Bluetooth switch.
Like this

u/Minishogun · 0 pointsr/confessions

4 of my favorites. Jesus is probably the biggest factor for me. We all know Muhammed existed, but no proof of his prophethood. But for Jesus, the apostles continued their work after his "death". For me that is the largest proving factor.

And trust me, I know when someone is flaming and someone is not and i appreciate you for wanting to start an actual conversation

u/celmxc · 1 pointr/confessions

Hey if you're going to do it, there is plenty of information out there about doing it successfully and painlessly. The last thing you want is to be a quadriplegic and become a burden to your husband.

u/Numero34 · 0 pointsr/confessions

And you're still dodging the question of who would build it. What incentive would they have?

Also, you're speaking with someone else.

From reality we can see that there is nothing preventing the people from renting from moving somewhere and building their own place to own and yet they haven't done that, and instead choose to rent so as to not be homeless.

I really think you need to read a short book on economics.

Here's the first one

And here's a follow-up full of contrarian standpoints that you (really anyone) should find thought-provoking.

Go to chapter 20 on page 165 of the pdf, it's a short read (only 2000 words or so), see if you still think what you currently do.

u/jseliger · 2 pointsr/confessions

Politics are very rarely about surface-level policy debates or the trade-offs that different policies entail. Politics is usually about signaling team allegiance and fundamental personality traits, which are only tangentially, if at all, connected to policies. If you want to understand why, read Bryan Caplan's The Myth of the Rational Voter and Jonathan Haidt's The Righteous Mind: Why Good People Are Divided by Politics and Religion.

When people talk to you about politics and religion, instead discuss meta-phenomena, like why they believe what they believe and how politics / religion work as signaling devices. Those topics are usually less contentious than, say, gun control, or whatever.

u/fierceindependence23 · 1 pointr/confessions

> i can say my grandmother who did was rather unstable

There you go. What matters is who your adult caretaker during the formative childhood years was. In your case, your grandmother.

The problem is, we model on our adult caretakers, and those personality traits are what we develop an attraction to.

I recommend this book It will explain it all.

u/taurineday · 0 pointsr/confessions

I think this is the meta-analysis that's cited in the book Human Intelligence by Earl Hunt, which is what I was pulling from.

u/bbsittrr · 1 pointr/confessions

> Given your history with your mom, you likely settled into a co dependency with the GF.


There are books (Melodie Beattie), but counseling needed here?

u/culofiesta · 1 pointr/confessions

If you'd read Heart Shaped Box, you'd know this type of thing doesn't always end well.