Top products from r/dbtselfhelp
We found 38 product mentions on r/dbtselfhelp. We ranked the 25 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the top 20.
1. DBT® Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets, Second Edition
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 4
2. The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation & ... (A New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook)
Sentiment score: 2
Number of reviews: 3
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3. DBT Skills Training Manual, Second Edition
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 3
Guilford Publications
4. Jealousy and Envy (Psychoanalytic Inquiry Book Series)
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
5. DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets, Second Edition
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
6. The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook
Sentiment score: -1
Number of reviews: 1
The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook
7. Psychoanalytic Diagnosis, Second Edition: Understanding Personality Structure in the Clinical Process
Sentiment score: 0
Number of reviews: 1
Guilford Publications
8. The Wisdom of No Escape and the Path of Loving-Kindness
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
Shambhala
9. Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin - How to Recognize and Set Healthy Boundaries
Sentiment score: -1
Number of reviews: 1
Hazelden Publishing Educational Services
10. Borderline Personality Disorder: New Reasons for Hope (A Johns Hopkins Press Health Book)
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
Johns Hopkins University Press
11. When Bad Things Happen to Good People
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
Anchor Books
12. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
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13. How to Survive the Loss of a Love
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
Great product!
14. Cognitive-Behavioral Treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder
Sentiment score: 0
Number of reviews: 1
Guilford Publications
15. Skills Training Manual for Treating Borderline Personality Disorder
Sentiment score: 3
Number of reviews: 1
Used Book in Good Condition
16. Overcoming Jealousy (Overcoming Common Problems Series)
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
17. Another Chance to be Real: Attachment and Object Relations Treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
18. Living with a Black Dog: His Name Is Depression
Sentiment score: 1
Number of reviews: 1
Used Book in Good Condition
I'm sorry to hear that you had a bad evening and that you felt the way you did. Certainly those are difficult emotions to deal with, and can cause a lot of problems.
I applaud your choice of giving the situation some distance and looking for some help. It's great that you recognized and were mindful of your situation. Not everyone can identify and express what they are feeling and why, so good job you for knowing yourself.
So lets go thru what you said, and I'll try to give you a different perspective.
"When i tried to sing, she sang over me with her improv and everyone just played & laughed a long with her."
I think a lot of people would feel invalidated if someone else monopolized the room. Especially if they were trying to contribute and share. Did you ever try to actually speak with her directly, or to the room in general, and say, 'Hey, I'm trying to sing here too, could you not sing over me? I'd like a chance as well." (check out DEARMAN in order to communicate what you want/need) Now I understand that social anxiety can block you from addressing this (which would be something you'd have to practice and work on.) It's possible 'robot girl singer' didn't realize that she was doing. People tend to be focused on themselves, their own experiencences and are not always paying attention to others. It's very probable that everyone there had no idea that you felt that way, or if you left abruptly, why you left. You need to communicate your feelings, which I know can be hard. Practice is the only thing that makes this easier.
'I feel like, why don't he just leave me & spend his life jamming with this person who is confident & talent since he's obviously not bothered by my absence any way??"
Again, your fiancee may have no idea why you left if you said nothing to him about how you were feeling and why you were feeling that way. You need to start challenging those automatic negative thoughts about yourself.
Again, I'd like to congratulate you some great things you did.
All of these are positive things that YOU did. You obviously have some negative feelings about yourself, and you need to start challenging those. You must have some great qualities. Try to think about what those great qualities are and own them. Sure, other people may be better at some things but that doesn't mean that what you bring to the table is worthless. Practice some self compassion and self love.
A friend of mine who struggles with social anxiety, found this book to be helpful, you may too! (your mileage may vary!)
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life The author, Mark Manson, also has a website with some articles as well.
You may also find these links about overcoming jealousy helpful.
And remember, for any change to work, you need to work it. It will take time and practice for you to change those thoughts and beliefs.
-hugs- take good care!
*edit - grammar - spelling (it's monday)
I finally realized the ideal book. It's Another Chance to be Real - I would recommend buying the hardcover, because you'll timelessly cherish it for decades to come. Google Books may have more to preview than Amazon however.
Nice video. I only knew this as a book, it's really easy to understand and helpful for anyone who suffers from depression, and their relatives. I can really recommend it. It's on amazon: "Living with the black dog" by Matthew Johnstone
I'm in a DBT group and we learn skills from this book https://www.amazon.com/Skills-Training-Handouts-Worksheets-Second/dp/1572307811/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1495915692&sr=8-1&keywords=dbt.
I learn the skills more in a group than from the book itself. But I've never encountered anything spiritual.
Part of DBT treatment is learning to accept things as they are (as opposed to how you think they should be) ... so perhaps choosing to ignore the spiritual aspect and focusing on the parts that work best for you is a DBT skill in itself.
THIS book has everything you need. I would recommend starting with mindfulness (the book has all of the skills and handouts as well as the worksheets/homework associated with them). Then work through the other modules (Emotion Regulation, Interpersonal Effectiveness, and Distress Tolerance) in any order. If you're in a bad place now I recommend starting with Distress Tolerance because that is the most immediately useful.
Most DBT classes introduce one skill per week and assign the associated worksheet(s) as homework. You can work through the skills at any pace you'd like but I like having a whole week to focus on practicing and using a single skill.
This is the book I wish everyone would read about BPD. It describes the experience of having it well and is based on the latest research.
http://www.amazon.com/Borderline-Personality-Disorder-Reasons-Hopkins/dp/1421403145
Nancy McWilliams has written an incredible book on personality structures which covers the Borderline structure. It's aimed at trained mental health professionals so it's very dense, but also very well written.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/1609184947?pc_redir=1409108898&robot_redir=1
Otherwise, James Masterson writes a lot about BPD, some writings are more accessible than others.
I'm reading and trying to implement the routine from this book:
https://www.amazon.com/Exercise-Mood-Anxiety-Strategies-Overcoming/dp/0199791007
https://www.amazon.com/DBT%C2%AE-Skills-Training-Manual-Second/dp/1462516998/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1549169977&sr=8-2&keywords=marsha+linehan+dbt+workbook Marsha's book. I always thought it was the main book upon which DBT is based. That's how it's presented in the groups I've been to at least.
My therapy group uses DBT Skills Training Manual by Marsha Linehan
I asked my therapist for the name so I could see about getting a copy for myself.
Edit, there's also a companion book that's just the worksheets that are used. These are activities and homework we get assigned. link
The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation & ... (A New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook) https://www.amazon.com/dp/1572245131/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_FE7wDbDKW29TK
I recently started The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook by Matthew McKay, and I’m following it so far.
The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation & ... (A New Harbinger Self-Help Workbook) https://www.amazon.com/dp/1572245131/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_QmHvCbTFN7A5T
You can just google it but here it is
There could be cheaper options but that’s the price I paid for mine.
I’m a bit late to this thread; I had the same Abandonment schema for the longest time. I did a schema worksheet with my therapist and my abandonment fears were off the charts. I recently have filled it out, and the abandonment schema has definitely moved to the back burner.
These are the steps that I had taken since I took the schema assessment:
The fear of abandonment sucks. It was a big part of why I was self-harming and experiencing panic attacks before I started DBT. Perhaps these will help you take steps in the right direction. Please let me know what you think!