Top products from r/emotionalabuse
We found 6 product mentions on r/emotionalabuse. We ranked the 5 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the top 20.
1. Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
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Show Reddit reviews2. Invisible Chains: Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship
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Show Reddit reviews3. Mind Games: Emotionally Manipulative Tactics Partners Use to Control Relationshi
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Welcome, and congratulations on leaving your abuser!
> so why am I so overwhelmed?
Because without any formal training whatsoever, abusers are natural masters at using fear, obligation, and guilt to get what they want -- See Susan Forward's book called Emotional Blackmail. You've literally been "programmed" to feel these things in association with him. There's also the possibility that Trauma Bonding is at play here.
The good news is that it starts to let up as time goes by. In the mean time, keep your brain and body occupied. Writing helped me a lot. Intense exercise such as running was also a huge help to me. If you like reading fiction, it helps get your mind off of reality for a while. Be sure to stay "No Contact" with him and find a therapist to talk with about your dad and your ex bf if you can afford it.
In any event, feel free to post here anytime! We're here to support you!
One thing that helped me immensely was leaning they never loved ME. They loved CONTROLLING me. If they did, the would have given a shit about my feelings. I just got out almost 3 weeks ago, have read lots of articles about emotional abuse and gaslighting, and surviving and thriving after.
Mind Games: Emotionally Manipulative Tactics Partners Use to Control Relationshi https://www.amazon.com/dp/1537379968/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_7jV0xbQYRSZHD
This book is pretty good, too.
Talk to your friends about it, start a discussion. Take care of you like you're already doing.
I wish you well :)
Try reading this book, it helped me a lot. Also a few months of NO CONTACT also helped. Be with friends and family who can support you through this.
https://www.amazon.com/Why-Does-He-That-Controlling/dp/0425191656
I read this book and it helped me SO MUCH. I was a prisoner in my relationship. My ex used to isolate me and tell me i was “a piece of shit.” Asking to spend time with friends was like undergoing a hostage negotiation. This book is easy to read and I devoured it in two days. It’s called “Invisible Chains” by Lisa Aronson Fontes
I emailed the author to tell her how great it was (she is a PhD and overcame an abusive relationship herself). I found out she is paying out of her own pocket to have it translated in to other languages to help non-English speakers who may be prisoners in their own relationships and have nowhere safe to turn.
https://www.amazon.com/Invisible-Chains-Overcoming-Coercive-Relationship/dp/1462520243
I think there were classic abuse behaviors in that relationship. Have you read "Why Does He Do That?" by Lunday Bancroft
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