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u/j3ss1b0wtF · 4 pointsr/slaa

Hi there, I feel you completely. There is someone I dated in my past that when we broke up, it was truly amicable. I was in the process of getting sober and I was so toxic that I had to end things, even though he was willing to stickit out. We have absolutely unconditional love for each other and from time to time, text each other. None of it is romantic, but he is someone I feel the safest I ever have in my life, and I think that speaks volumes as to how healthy (even though I was unhealthy) it was. I don't know if he's my soulmate. But I know we are riding parallel lives down the universe at this moment in time. Maybe we'll cross paths again, who knows, but I absolutely adore and respect him. He will forever have a special place in my heart, even if he marries someone else. (And it's come to light over time that I don't think we would have worked out had we continued dating)


Remember, love is freedom. Love is the ability to let people go to let them grow themselves. The tighter one grasps at something, the more likely both things will end up hurting. The fact that he is able to recognize what you need (even if you can't recognize it yourself) and give you time to heal is one of the most loving actions anyone can take. Even if you do not get back together (and who the HELL knows what happens), just take it one day at a time and really work on yourself NOT because you think if you do you will get back together with him, but because you legitimately want to work on it for yourself.

If you do this for him, you will create a disaster that will take you years to recover from... trust me, I made that mistake.

I really recommend getting this book to start out (link below). I have a lot of the same issues (never being single, always in a relationship, etc). The first 20 pages was life changing for me.

I WISH I had someone at 21 tell me this was what was going on. You will discover so much of your own self over the next few months/years/lifetime. Really, congratulations. It might be painful, but pain just means you have the opportunity to get stronger.

This is probably the most useful and meaningful thing that I can say about this recovery process: if you just let the universe unfold in front of you, you will discover yourself in the most beautiful journey, and you'll find the most incredible people, hear the most emotional stories, and uncover a life that most people don't get the opportunity to.


Best of luck, don't fear the unknown, embrace it with all of your heart.


https://www.amazon.com/Facing-Love-Addiction-Giving-Yourself/dp/0062506048/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1535596447&sr=8-1&keywords=facing+love+addiction+by+pia+melody


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u/sweetpotatocinnamon · 1 pointr/slaa

Hi misskriish. I've just seen your post. I hope you are doing better. I just recently found out about love addiction, which I also am (I've used relationships my whole life to escape from reality). I found this website today and I appreciated reading the different types of love addicts: http://www.loveaddicts.org/kindsofloveaddicts.html

Also, I highly recommend you read this book: https://www.amazon.com/Facing-Love-Addiction-Giving-Yourself/dp/0062506048/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1506147116&sr=8-1&keywords=facing+love+addiction+by+pia+mellody
It has been amazingly helpful for me to start putting my life together. There is a section regarding how to "put your relationship on hold." I strongly suggest you look into this, it might be the best option for you and your relationship. I am in a relationship with another love addict and we have had to put our relationship on hold and focus on individual healings.

Good luck and take care. Better, calmer times are ahead.

u/Kinja13 · 1 pointr/slaa

Maybe start with a book "Codependent no more" by Melody Beattie.


https://www.amazon.com/Codependent-No-More-Controlling-Yourself-ebook/dp/B00BS027FC

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And yeah, a therapist is a good choice.

u/[deleted] · 1 pointr/slaa

I understand. Here is the big book. It's good, it saves lives. And its required reading in my Fellowship, haha. Not really, but still, we read it at meetings.

I'd also HIGHLY recommend Sex Addiction 101 by Dr. Robert Weiss. This was one of those books that changed my life, no joke. I don't mean to be hokey, but I broke down and cried reading this once. That's a big step for me. It's also a very modern and up to date look at the disease.