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We found 3 product mentions on r/transeducate. We ranked the 4 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the top 20.
We found 3 product mentions on r/transeducate. We ranked the 4 resulting products by number of redditors who mentioned them. Here are the top 20.
Work on seeing him as a person first, not a gender. You'll be surprised how far that takes you, even if you're sure it's something you already do.
Is he out to everyone? Check with him about what name and pronouns he wants you to use, and whether there are contexts where he wants you to use something different (maybe around his parents, fellow university alumni, etc.).
Work at getting his name and pronouns correct consistently. That will mean the world to him. If you screw up on his name or pronoun, just correct yourself and move on. Don't make a huge deal out of it and spend ages apologising. That's what's embarrassing, not the slip-up.
Educate yourself as much as you can. Don't rely on him to be your only connection to all this. Before asking him anything, ask if it's okay to ask him about Trans stuff. Ask if it's okay to ask him about his transition before asking about that. Ask if it's okay to ask a personal question before you do. And if he says no, obviously honour that. Doing that will already put you light years ahead of a lot of the people that we have to deal with, especially early in transition.
Here, have a resource dump. :)
Talk to lots of Trans people! We're not all cookie-cutter; for many of us, the only thing we have in common is that we're Trans. We cross every demographic group and have a lot of different perspectives to offer. Get as many perspectives on things as you can.
Take your time with these links; getting through them is not a race, and going through them slowly is a better idea anyway. Go through them in whatever order you want; I've just listed them by URL length so they're easier to read. I put a few in bold that I think might be especially helpful for you.
Must-reads if you can get hold of them - you may be able to find them at your local library or through inter-library loan, or get a cheaper used copy online:
(The books, aside from Trans Forming Families, can be ordered on Amazon or you can get the ISBNs from Amazon and bring them to any bookshop to order them. The DVD can be ordered on Amazon also, as you see from the link.)
I found a great book! I don't know why I didn't remember it right away. Be Who You Are by Jennifer Carr is accessible and explains many of the questions kids might have. Here's the Amazon link: http://www.amazon.com/Who-You-Are-Jennifer-Carr/dp/1452087253