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u/BluebirdHaiku · 6 pointsr/ttcafterloss

Hello, all! This is my new username (formerly /u/infertilitythrowaway). I wanted to explain my new name, because it has a lot of meaning for me.

After our first loss, we donated a children's book to our public library in memory of the baby. The head children's librarian picked out a book she thought would be good: Hi, Koo!: A Year of Seasons by Jon Muth; it's a book of haiku for kids. A little bookplate was put in the front cover; it says "Presented to [library] in memory of Baby [last initial]. Love, Mama, Dada, and [#1]." The thing that let me know that this was the perfect choice for us was in the author's intro: "Haiku is like an instant captured in words." This is what I wanted--the brief time of my pregnancy, memorialized with the book. It was really meaningful to me to eventually go to the library and read the book. It was a way for me to do something positive with the loss, contribute to a cause I believe in (yay, early literacy!), and ensure our baby isn't forgotten. Whenever I check the book's status online, it is checked out, so I know people are reading and enjoying it, and that makes me happy.

Anyway, a while ago I asked the librarians to pick out a book we can donate in memory of our second loss, and they emailed me back this morning with their choice: Bluebird by Lindsey Yankey. I've asked that this one's bookplate read: "Presented to [library] in loving memory of Baby [nickname] by Mama, Dada, and [#1]. We will always wonder where your wings could have taken you."

In the midst of trying to hold back tears while confirming with them that this book is a good choice, I realized that the two books together make a good new username for me. They capture my sadness at our losses, my love for all our babies, and my hope for our future.

Thanks for reading my wall of text! I feel so connected to so many of you and wish I could give you all hugs IRL.

u/sjn123 · 4 pointsr/ttcafterloss

I'm putting it off as well. I read about half of Expecting Better back when I first started TTC. I had a friend that really liked "Happiest Baby on the Block."

If anyone is interested in communication for birth to 4 years (let me get on my soapbox), I highly suggest It Takes Two to Talk by the Hanen Centre. It's marketed toward parents of children with language delays, but it's helpful for everyone wanting to promote their child's language development. I teach the class to parents, and one of the things I consistently hear is "Why isn't this for everyone?," "I wish I knew this for my other kids," and my favorite: "I want to have another kid again and try this from the beginning!"

u/La_plant · 2 pointsr/ttcafterloss

I absolutely LOVED Tiny Beautiful Things. It is kind of a different read, as it's a series of advice columns done by the author Cheryl Strayed (who wrote Wild). I read it shortly after my MC, and it was quite perfect as there were two columns on MC/infant loss that were beautiful to read. I was bawling in the best way.

u/impetuousraven · 3 pointsr/ttcafterloss

It primarily focuses on infertility, but I really appreciated what "Conquering Infertility" by Dr. Alice Domar had to offer. She was the founder of the nationally reknowned mind body center in Boston. The book provides so many helpful mindfulness strategies, I have been using them often, and they are consistent with what I have worked on with my therapist, too. There is also a newer free app called FertiCalm that Dr. Domar is a part of, and it has a number of recordings with her mini-mindfulness strategies, longer guided relaxations, and such. The app is free and requires minimal permissions (aka, they are not selling your data).

u/usernamegibberish · 1 pointr/ttcafterloss

I'm so sorry. Grief isn't usually linear and can come like waves. I love the book "miscarriages: women sharing from the heart" and highly recommend it as it normalizes a lot of the grief and feelings around loss. Counseling can also be helpful if that's an option for you.

Miscarriage: Women Sharing from...

u/RockCollector · 3 pointsr/ttcafterloss

Would anyone be interested in a free copy of Trying Again: a guide to pregnancy after miscarriage, stillbirth, and infant loss? I found it helpful to have a physical book on my TTC journey to hold and read when I was nervous. Comes with good vibes and free shipping. Will likely take a week or two to be delivered.

PM me if you're interested.

Thinking of you all.

u/tathougies · 1 pointr/ttcafterloss

Oh I see... that could certainly take timing out of your hands.

> my decidedly un-mucus-y cervix and his drier than normal semen

My wife has had gotten good advice on these kind of 'nitpicky' aspects of the cycle from a book called Fertility, Cycles, and Nutrition. Some of the supplementation advice in that book has really helped some women we know (we volunteer to teach fertility awareness, so we're somewhat familiar with a lot of couple's bodily functions, haha).

As for your husband... has he tried drinking tons of water? I know it sounds stupid, but I've personally noticed a ton of difference. There's some advice in that book for men too! We've found that some of these tips make us feel like we're 'doing something', so at least there's some psychological benefit?

Well anyway, just thought I'd recommend that. Totally understand if it sounds unappealing, though.

u/fallingleaves1031 · 2 pointsr/ttcafterloss

I haven't quite gone through a loss yet, but am potentially in the process of it (waiting on CVS results). I've been reading a lot on forums about TFMR, ending a wanted pregnancy, etc. and that helps. I did buy the book Our Heartbreaking Choices: Forty-Six Women Share Their Stories of Interrupting a Much-Wanted Pregnancy. That has helped.


I guess we are kind of in the same spot, needing answers and waiting for them to come, hoping for the best. I'm really sorry this is happening to you. I have found tremendous support from other women on here.

u/tulipsbetterthanone · 5 pointsr/ttcafterloss

I used [email protected]:

You can find wondfos on Amazon too.

I gave my leftovers away to a friend when she visited/hosted Max's baby shower. At 36 weeks I thought I was in the clear and would never need them again.

Wow do I have so much baggage.

u/jezebela_jones · 2 pointsr/ttcafterloss

Hi. I'm so sorry for your loss, but I'm glad you found this community. It's been invaluable to me, and I hope you find it healing as well.

In terms of healing materials, I cannot recommend the book Empty Cradle, Broken Heart enough. I read probably 4 books on loss after our TFMR in December and that one was by far the best one, and the one that's helped me the most on this crazy journey.

I also recommend going to therapy, if you can. Especially as the grief becomes less obvious, I've needed my therapist to continue to help me grieve the less in-your-face feelings that still need to be dealt with but can also easily (and unhealthily) be locked away.

u/Hippopotamuscles · 1 pointr/ttcafterloss

I use this one! It's playful and kooky and as much work as you want it to be :)

u/thursdayborn · 3 pointsr/ttcafterloss


Regarding resources:
The International OCD Foundation has some info about OCD including perinatal OCD: Fact Sheets and Brochures, Long list of books, and some Expert Opinion articles..

This is a general book about OCD that I have recommended to patients with OCD.

This is a workbook for anxiety, depression and obsessions during pregnancy and postpartum.

The Imp of the Mind: Exploring the Silent Epidemic of Obsessive Bad Thoughts is a book specifically targeted at people who primarily have intrusive thoughts. Be warned that the descriptions of some of the thoughts depicted in the book are quite graphic though.

Dropping the Baby and Other Scary Thoughts: Breaking the Cycle of Unwanted Thoughts in Motherhood is a book about obsessive thoughts specifically related to postpartum.

Perinatal Support International is a great website for finding local help. They also have a 24/7 support line you can call.

And finally, the MGH Center for Women's Mental Health also has great resources for a variety of perinatal mental health conditions.

(I have mild OCD symptoms myself so it's been interesting and eye opening treating perinatal patients with OCD and wondering if mine will get worse or better with pregnancy and postpartum).

u/managingmiscarriage · 1 pointr/ttcafterloss

I enjoyed "Magical Beginnings" by Deepak Chopra. It helped me get in a headspace of preparing for another baby and helped me feel a little in control.

u/Amc1984 · 5 pointsr/ttcafterloss

Oh, my heart hurts for you. When I was faced with the decision of possibly TFMR - I read Our Heartbreaking Choices and found it really helpful. (My baby ended up dying before I had to make that choice, but I felt comforted reading others' stories. You are making a loving choice and I'm so sorry that you have this burden.)

>It was hard to bond with her because I was still grieving her sisters, but I’d hoped when she was here safe it’d be easier, but now she’s all but gone too.

I resonate so much with those words. I, too, had two mid-pregnancy losses in a row. It was the darkest time in my life. I couldn't believe I could be faced with that reality. It is unfathomable, isn't it? I was so anxious the entire second pregnancy only to have it end horribly, too. I'm so sorry you know this pain. I'm so, so sorry.

u/quietlyaware · 1 pointr/ttcafterloss

It's called "It's Okay to Laugh: (Crying Is Cool Too)".

She also has an old tumblr documenting the time leading up to her husband's death.

u/yawaworht9876543210 · 5 pointsr/ttcafterloss

Amazon has them for extremely cheap. They are just little dippers without the plastic case and usually have pregnancy tests in the same box. I used these: [email protected] 50 Ovulation Test Strips and 20 Pregnancy Test Strips Combo Kit, (50 LH + 20 HCG)

u/therealamberrose · 2 pointsr/ttcafterloss

Oh no picking furniture yet - just browsing. We aren't ready yet. Sigh.

I'm reading An Exact Replica of a Figment of My Imagination -- trigger: its about stillbirth (full term, too). Its very well written, but you WILL cry.