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How to be Alone

Remember you are not your diagnosis. It doesn't mean you will be depressed and anxious forever. It means that's what you are dealing with right now. Maybe the anxiety and depression were indicators that you really needed to get out of that relationship. They are symptoms of your life at the time. So getting out of that relationship was possibly the best thing that could happen because it's a step in the right direction. One of the best things you can do in this time is read a good relationship book or listen to one. There are really good books for help with trauma experiences as well.

It's tough being on your own but being alone and working on healing is better than being with someone who pushes you down. Work on healing and being confident and comfortable being alone. If we switch the terminology, don't worry about being alone, work on being alone without being lonely. Remember Superman's fortress of solitude. Sometimes being alone is the best way to think and to decompress and to find that quiet space where we're comfortable with ourselves and the universe.

Consider keeping a journal of your thoughts to help you work on your anxieties but also to rediscover who you are. You don't have to write a lot, just enough to remember the persistent ones you're working on or things you would like to prioritize. Use the journal to plan things you want to do. It helps to do one small thing each day. Check out bullet journal and poke around r/bujo as a means of personal organization and discovery.

Who were you before this toxic relationship? Can you remember parts of that person you can reconnect with? You don't have to go back to that but it can help be a guide to who you are now and will be tomorrow. We have experiences and then we look back and evaluate them. The goals we have today are what we use to do that. If your goals change, how we view the past changes. You are changing and that's the best thing that can happen if you were recently in a negative place. Protect your "area", wave your arms over your head and around you and say "this is mine." Claim your space. Get your power back.

Online therapeutic classes can be expensive but there are several you can take here after a one time $10 registration fee. Take notes in your journal on what seems like it helps. Don't make it all work. Watch movies and read books you enjoy. Most of all be kind to yourself while you are figuring it out. Don't judge yourself harshly or beat yourself up about anything that happened. It's all in the past. Focus on today and tomorrow. Hang in there!