Reddit reviews Lost at School

I did a FBA (functional behavior assessment) on a second grader with emotional impairment. When I asked him the question "Who at school likes me" he couldn't answer and wouldn't stop staring at the floor. When I told him that I liked him, he started crying.

EDIT: Holy cow this blew up. If you are interested in emotional impairment in schools, I would recommend the book Lost at School. Its very interesting.

This is down to the teacher's classroom management skills (or lack thereof). Punishing a 4 year old at home is not going to magically fix things that are happening in the classroom, particularly when you're dealing with a child who has some out-of-the-ordinary challenges to overcome.

Talk to the teacher, find out what the specific problems are, and help her to find ways to address them in the classroom. (You might find Lost at School interesting.)

Arguing from authority will not convince me. Teachers can be some of the worst offenders in failing to understand how to constructively deal with frustrating child behavior. See this book.

I totally understand why and how it can be frustrating for teachers to deal with challenging behavior, and why the system doesn't do much for any of the parties involved.

Also, I am not taking a position as to exactly where OP's nephew falls on the spectrum of easy vs. challenging behavior. But just because many, or even most, children might struggle less with this does not make it okay to mistreat the one who is struggling.

As I say to my child, "Two wrongs make a..." (Incidentally, he never fails to complete the sentence for me, as he can't resist the cognitive dissonance in showing himself to be someone who ostensibly doesn't know an answer, so I walk him right into being more open to my message and cooperative with me, all without shaming or scolding. I would argue that the non-shaming approach CAUSES the cooperation, actually.)

If you're saying that 8yos never act out at all or struggle with certain rules, I call BS.