Reddit reviews Nurture by Nature: Understand Your Child's Personality Type - And Become a Better Parent

At 27 I did. Wish I knew sooner because my life has been improved dramatically by acknowledging who I am rather than who I think I should be (which was largely determined by others' expectations of me).

If you want to deep dive, I'm a huge evangelist concerning the personalityhacker podcast/website -> https://personalityhacker.com/

You can find some INFP-specific podcasts on the site which can validate a lot of things in your life.

There are also some neat books that I think are great introductory/overview material to this area of study that you can probably find at your local library like the ones below. I recommend them to people that I think find MBTI-related study interesting/want another lens to look at themselves with.

(My favorite broad introduction to types. Hardly technical but accurate, I believe)
https://www.amazon.com/What-Type-Discover-Who-Really/dp/014026941X/

(Career focused one)
https://www.amazon.com/Do-What-You-Are-Personality/dp/031623673X

(One that talks about the theory in general but gives interesting suggestions on how to communicate with different types [note to self, look at what you need in conversations under your section to get your needs met conversationally])
https://www.amazon.com/Art-SpeedReading-People-Speak-Language/dp/0316845183/

(One that talks about personality types for children but can still be used to be insightful for yourself)
https://www.amazon.com/Nurture-Nature-Understand-Childs-Personality/dp/0316845132/

(Excellent book about just infps)
https://www.amazon.com/Comprehensive-INFP-Survival-Guide/dp/1945796154/

Warning: if you're an INFP and you start looking at information about other types, you will probably be constantly debating in your head as to which type you are. This is normal.

I think the best thing an INFP can do with such self knowledge is to a build a life to get their needs met without being righteously indignant (i.e. a jerk) about it when faced with resistance

Communicating is the most important thing and by that I don't mean asking what's wrong, I mean expressing what you are trying to do and what you feel to your partner who should feel encouraged to do the same. Communicating is about you telling your partner about yourself and listening when they do the same. I know too many people that think asking their partner what they feel or what to do is communicating but it ignores the mental load and ultimately isn't very effective communication and doesn't promote good cooperation either.

The only book I have particularly liked is Nurture by Nature. It's got elements to it that are a bit of a reach but overall it's useful in how it talks not just about different ways of interacting with the world, learning, and living but how a parent with different experiences can identify and properly encourage a child that's different to themselves.

I got this ebook off Amazon a while ago when I was trying to pin point my personality type. It thoroughly analyzes various stages of childhood from an MBTI perspective. It's actually an extremely enlightening read!

As far as your point about development, I would refer to personality junkie. He covers reasons why some people may favor various non-primary functions during childhood, since they are often the recipient of strong external or parental pressure to conform.

The same way you type anyone else? Yes, it’s technically a “self reporting” test but anyone mildly familiar with MBTI knows there are demonstrable patterns of behavior and observable traits corresponding to the different “types”. Nurture by Nature is a particularly good book on the subject.

The formative years of children’s personalities, developmentally speaking, are between the ages of four and eight. My child is almost seven and exhibits pretty standard behavior of an Se dom.

Since I’m his mother, am knowledgeable about MBTI, and am highly intuitive about other people in the first place, I’m aware of his strengths and weaknesses...as well as those of the other people in my close network.

I’m surprised I’d have to explain that to an ESTP.

If you want to go the formal route, look into the Murphy-Meisgeier Type Indicator for Children® (MMTIC). It's the MBTI equivalent for children. (Google it for more info.)

If you want to go the informal route--or even if you get the MMTIC--consider reading a book on the matter. There are several good ones. One is, "Nurture by Nature: Understand Your Child's Personality Type..." https://www.amazon.com/Nurture-Nature-Understand-Childs-Personality/dp/0316845132

Good luck with it.

A great book on personality type and children is

Nurture by Nature by Paul D.Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger

http://www.amazon.com/Nurture-Nature-Understand-Childs-Personality/dp/0316845132

A bit late to the party, but here's a book you might be interested in:

Nurture by Nature: Understand Your Child's Personality Type - And Become a Better Parent

As an ENFP with ESTJ and ISTP parents who wished their daughter would be something more along the likes of ESFJ or ISFJ, it was quite difficult for me. I read this book to learn more about myself and I wished they have read something like this too. It wasn't that they weren't good, caring parents, nor was I a particularly difficult to raise child. It's just that I don't understand why I can't be accepted for who I am, and they couldn't understand why I acted certain ways. Our values were different. Their knowledge on this would have saved me from so much pain I had growing up.

My INTJ sister had an easier time growing up. She knows what her values are and she's not afraid to stand for her values, whereas for me, I had a difficult time deciding between what I wanted and what I had to do in order to not displease my parents.

It’s possible I’ve seen others mention their results are different based on mood. So the online tests aren’t that great.

I became more confident in my result after reading some books about my type.

Such as : https://www.amazon.com/Comprehensive-INFP-Survival-Guide/dp/1945796154/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1539050811&sr=8-1&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_QL65&keywords=infp+survival+guide&dpPl=1&dpID=412knVQuKlL&ref=plSrch

Iam no parent but I found this book to also be interesting.

https://www.amazon.com/Nurture-Nature-Understand-Childs-Personality/dp/0316845132/ref=mp_s_a_1_fkmr1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1539050902&sr=8-1-fkmr1&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_QL65&keywords=nurture+by+nature+mbti

Iam not sure how accurate MBTI is, but I do know it can be an effective tool for introspection.

There is a book, [Nurture by Nature] (http://www.amazon.com/Nurture-Nature-Understand-Childs-Personality/dp/0316845132) that is basically a picture of what each MBTI child is like. It has descriptions for toddler years, elementary and teen years for each type. I found it to be interesting, but of course rather broad in scope. Could be an interesting read for you though, if you want to read about other types as well as ENTP.

I have an interest in the MBTI types of children as well, and while I can't type my son yet, I'm pretty confident my daughter is an ESFJ.

There is another book, but it's usually not in print so you have to get it from a used bookstore or online. It's called [One of A Kind: Making the Most of Your Child's Uniqueness] (http://www.amazon.com/One-Kind-Making-Childs-Uniqueness/dp/0935652205/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1411666642&sr=1-1&keywords=most+of+your+child%27s+uniqueness). I found this one to be more helpful in some ways. This author says that you shouldn't type your child confidently, because it does take awhile for a personality to mature, and your child will "try on" all of the functions in order to find which one they are most comfortable with. But then she goes on to help you try and type your child. :) It is a Christian book publisher, but the references to God are minimal, and the content is pretty good.

There is one last book, called [Motherstyles] (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0738210455/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_dp_ss_3?pf_rd_p=1535523722&pf_rd_s=lpo-top-stripe-1&pf_rd_t=201&pf_rd_i=0316845132&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_r=1KD13GNRH6C5PASDNDR5) that I have been wanting to get but just haven't yet. If you are having fun investigating your child, you may enjoy this book too, as parenting interactions based on our types can be kind of revealing. It has helped me, as an NT, learn to allow my very "F" daughter to express herself as needed, and to understand that her emotions are as important to her as my logic is to me. It also helped me to learn that Feelings are considered a rational function, and that's how she processes.

Kudos to you for seeking out how to let your kid be who he is, rather than a mini version of mom and dad. :)

To answer your question: http://www.amazon.com/Nurture-Nature-Understand-Childs-Personality/dp/0316845132

Just go to a bookstore and read the chapter about your kid. If it makes sense to you, get the book and read that chapter every few months to re-center yourself around what kind of personality your kid has and what he needs. Some kids can handle detachment just fine, some just dislike it, and for some it does major damage.