Reddit reviews PoMoSexuals: Challenging Assumptions About Gender and Sexuality

Here's my list so far. It's a mix of FTM-specific, general trans, and gender studies books, including essays, memoir, and more academic works. In no particular order:

Gender Trouble by Judith Butler


Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us by Kate Bornstein

Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation by Kate Bornstein and S. Bear Bergman


Nina Here Nor There by Nick Krieger

Female Masculinity by Judith Halberstam

Nobody Passes - Rejecting the Rules of Gender and Conformity edited by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore


Whipping Girl by Julia Serano


How Sex Changed: A History of Transexuality in the United States by Joanne Meyerowitz

Becoming a Visible Man by Jamison Green

Queer Theory, Gender Theory: An Instant Primer by Riki Wilchins

PoMoSexuals: Challenging Assumptions About Gender and Sexuality edited by Carol Queen

Genderqueer: Voices From Beyond the Sexual Binary edited by Joan Nestle

From the Inside Out: Radical Gender Transformation, FTM and Beyond edited by Morty Diamond

Second Son by Ryan Sallans

Why are Faggots So Afraid of Faggots? by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore

and the must-read fiction:

Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinberg

I'll edit this if I can find any others, I'm probably missing a couple. Been a big non-fiction reading year for me!

EDIT: Edited to add links, and a few more on my wish list I haven't picked up yet.

Letters for my Brothers: Transitional Wisdom in Retrospect edited By Megan M. Rohrer, M.Div. & Zander Keig, M.SW.

That's Revolting!: Queer Strategies for Resisting Assimilation edited by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore

Transgender Voices: Beyond Women and Men by Lori B. Girshick

Just Add Hormones: An Insider's Guide to the Transsexual Experience by Matt Kailey

The Testosterone Files: My Hormonal and Social Transformation from Female to Male by Max Wolf Valerio

Man, lesbian police much in this post?! Yikes. Sorry for these jerks! I think you're not alone here, sexuality is fluid, gender is fluid. I am really gay and only have dated women in my adult life, but once every 10 years or so I have an emotional crush on a guy. It happens. You do you, identify however feels true to you. All the haters are just dealing with insecurity, and it's really their problem, not yours.

I can tell you, all my exes have been women who presented much gayer than I and oftentimes were deeper in the queer scene. They've all told me they slept with a couple dudes at some point. When I used to hang out with more straight guys in college, they'd also often confess that they hooked up with a guy friend one time, or gave a BJ, etc. I guess they felt less pressure telling me since I was gay.

I think people just don't talk about it because they're afraid of being attacked (as happened here), and so it happens but people just never speak of it.

Also, I recommend you check out the book PoMoSexuals. It touches on just this kind of topic. Link: http://amzn.to/2wuX2ZV I found it super interesting.