Reddit reviews Premarital Sex in America: How Young Americans Meet, Mate, and Think about Marrying
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It's hard to get proof of this because of causation / correlation issues.
Check out this book: http://www.amazon.com/Premarital-Sex-America-Americans-Marrying/dp/0199743282
Some very interesting research done on young adults in this book. While it can't prove the hypothesis, the data is in line with it. Some findings (which I'm stealing from an amazon review since I don't currently have the book):
"Rather surprisingly, research shows those marrying between "ages 20-27 report higher levels of marital success" (p 181) than those who marry later. And "those who marry between 22 and 25" (p 181) have an even higher rate of marital happiness."
"Study after study has shown that women with higher numbers of sexual partners, or those who began having sex at an earlier age, frequently suffer from depression or other emotional problems. In fact, after the sexual revolution and the feminist tidal wave of the seventies, increasing numbers of women are looking back on what's happened with regret, not happiness."
And perhaps a positive one for people who still want to get married:
"One very interesting fact: one of the most influential statistics about marriage in the US, the one mentioned many times by young adults, is wrong--or at least misunderstood. That would be the old chestnut that 50% of all marriages here end in divorce.
In truth, some people marry and divorce again and again. But those who marry for the first time have a much, much greater chance of remaining married."
Anecdotally, I know a few 28 year old women that have basically said exactly what Demonspawn said to me. Basically, "I don't know if I can love anyone anymore." Quite interesting coming from two different women at similar points in their lives, similar backgrounds, and saying the same thing. They both aren't sluts, but they've had around 8 LTRs each at this point, and have certainly gotten into the double digit dick mark.
This book provides some compelling data regarding why it may not be as 'risk free' as you think. Fact of the matter is that the human animal is more than just physical organs, and consequently there are significant psychological ramifications to every choice we make. Abstinence before marriage and monogamy during marriage is effective and stable precisely because it safeguards us from the psychological toll promiscuity takes on us.