Reddit reviews Sex, Dating, and Relationships: A Fresh Approach

A few things to point out:

1. Not talking about sex or being allowed to date is common in some Christian cultures, but not all of them. There are excellent resources out there, like Sex, Dating, and Relationships. I would recommend that you start reading the books from this list.
   
2. This subreddit follows the traditional Christian view that pornography is evil. There’s several reasons for that, but the basic one is that it is sexual activity outside of marriage. It also fosters some extremely unhealthy behaviors and mindsets that our culture is only now recognizing: objectifying women as sexual objects, creating unrealistic expectations about sex and intimacy, viewing sex as just about release, and creating a pattern of unchecked desire.
   
3. You’re accurately recognizing the cycle you’re in. What you’re wrong about is the strength of desire. Semen doesn’t need to be released, the body is entirely capable of reabsorbing it. But you’re training your body to orgasm every day. You could instead be training your body for self-control. Your sex drive will readjust within two weeks. Personally, I was on both sides as a teenager, and it is a challenge with so many hormones. But it’s a good challenge and you can conquer it.

I enjoyed Sex, Dating, and Relationships: A Fresh Approach. It has a good biblical basis, but it's also very practical. The authors take a middle ground between courting and modern dating. It may be a bit conservative for some, but they didn't go full-on Josh Harris.

Challies reviewed it here.

How is it wrong though? Since this is a Christian subreddit please point me to the verse where it says "thou shalt not break up with thy girlfriend"? The guys who broke up with your girlfriend didn't do anything wrong by not wanting to date her, they did something wrong for winning her heart when they weren't committed to her. If you would be doing something wrong by breaking up with your girlfriend now then what you did wrong was acting like you were committed to her when you really weren't. If you are really committed to her then propose. Marriage is a commitment, dating is not.

Look, dude, I was kind of in the same boat you were in. I wasn't afraid of sex inside of marriage so much but I was terrified of getting involved with a girl. My grandfather was abusive towards my grandmother and I was terrified of doing anything even slightly wrong with a girl. However, I've thought about it and I've tried determining what a Christian dating relationship should look like. That isn't to say that I'm necessarily right but I've tried basing my beliefs on the Bible and not shoving the Bible into what our culture says dating looks like.

I would really recommend this book. If you trust me enough to PM me your address I'll buy it for you.