Long time lurker here. I enjoy all the success pics.

I decided a while back to stop fighting my curls with gel and short haircuts. It's been going well and get compliments and surprise from friends and family. Those who haven't seen me in a while are totally confused and have asked if I've gotten a perm!!! I guess I have two questions

First: I'd like to go for the Jon Snow look if possible. I've been letting my hair grow and grow and grow. Now it feels like an afro-mullet combo. How should this hair be cut while it's still growing out? I get frustrated with stylists/barber/etc as I want an expert or at least someone with experience to guide me through this instead of asking what I want. "I don't know... that's why I'm asking you..." I don't want my hair ruined by someone guessing or going off of my unqualified instruction.

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Second: At the end of the day, it gets frizzy/puffy (see the last pic in the album). I've tried not showering and it ends up looking greasy. How do you get smooth curls that aren't greasy or crunch due to gel?

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Daily Routine:

1. Warm/hot shower with Shampoo and Conditioner from Costco.
   
2. Dry with a cotton t-shirt while hanging my head upside down
   
3. I'll apply Shea Curl Enhancing Smooth or Shea Curl & Style Milk
   
   

CG method for over a year, but revamped what I do for it a week ago. Before: co-wash with maple holistics argan oil conditioner, scrunch in herbal essences totally twisted curl boosting mousse. Let hair air dry (no plopping). Every other wash using arvvazallia hydrating Argan oil mask.

After: co-wash with Shea moisture coconut & hibiscus curl moisture Co-wash, condition with maple holistics Argan oil conditioner (S2C), scrunch in Shea moisture coconut & hibiscus curl & style milk, scrunch in HANDFULS of L.A natural styling gel. Plop with microfiber towel for 15 min - 1 hour. Let air dry the rest of the way (which takes hours lol) and then scrunch the crunch out. Every other wash I condition with arvazilla hydrating argan oil mask instead of the maple holistics conditioner. Occasionally use neutrogena anti residue shampoo to get extra junk out of my hair. I also bought a silk pillowcase and have been sleeping on that.

Before and after, I wash my hair about once a week. On my before method, my hair would pretty much lose all curl by day 3. Now it holds the curl all week, but starts to feel really gross around day 6. I have some frizz problems, but I usually smooth it down with a very light amount of coconut oil.

So far I love the curls that I am getting through the use of gel! I was scared at first, but this sub is totally right about gel not being what it used to be.

I posted here a few weeks ago looking for Tips for my hair being very dry and causing matted knots on the underside of my hair even after washing my hair day one.

I actually already had the products, but I decided to try it again. I used Shea Moisture Coconut Hibiscus Curling Shampooand SheaMoisture Coconut & Hibiscus Curl & Shine Conditioner I took the advice and applied the conditioner to the underside of my hair to help get it where it needed it most.

After stepping out of the shower I towel dried my hair and applied Shea Moisture Coconut & Hibiscus Curl & Style Milk

Plop until I felt like it, slept in a satin cap and bam! My hair is noticeably softer, the curls are a lot curlier not wanting to fall straight like they did before.

I have high prosperity hair, my hair would actually get frizzier and dryer as The days go by, these products have protein which has helped my hair get the moisture that it needs which has reduced the frizz and the drying out. Very happy with the out come, I washed on Friday (this pic is Sunday) and I’m still rocking my hair today Monday, I expect to make it most of this week with out needing to wash. I’m 38 weeks pregnant (tomorrow) this was for my baby shower!

Because of how loose your curls are, I would use some product to keep it more contain. This is a product I use that works well for many black people. A high fade while keeping the top kind of natural since your hair has a lot of character to it would work imo. Kind of like this but not as low on the top.

YES! This stuff is great!

https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/B0038TYTSO/ref=ox_sc_act_title_4?ie=UTF8&psc=1&smid=A3IQGL03Z0MNP5

from someone who just learned how to style my own frizzy/curly hair:

Start by getting a trim - I would take at least an inch off the bottom and get regular trims (every 2 months or so) for the next year to grow out healthy hair. Be gentle when you shampoo, use your nails to scratch around your head, but be gentle with the actual long hair. When you condition, only condition from about your ears down or your hair will get oily quickly. Wash every 2 or 3 days unless it's really dirty. After you get out of the shower, PAT dry; do not rub the towel all over. Then, comb it out with a wide tooth comb and use a styling product to kind of keep your hair together. If you need to, make some curls with your fingers to keep the hair together. Following these really easy steps has allowed me to actually leave my hair down and not look like a frizz ball.

My current routine: I just switched to Herbal Essences Naked Shine shampoo about a month ago. Smells great and hair is definitely shiny! I condition with One N Only Argan Oil Conditioner I found at ulta. For a wide tooth comb, I went fancy and got one of these. After I comb, then I use about a nickel sized squirt of this leave in conditioner/style cream - for this one use just enough or you will look greasy and only use it from the ears down and scrunch your hair together. Good luck!!

One more thing: It's kind of an initial outlay of a little cash, but everything lasts me for months except the shampoo. I've had the conditioner since last year and it's still a little less than half way empty. The curl cream - same deal. I've had it since mid last year. The trick is to use sparingly. Shampoo lasts a while too since I only wash my hair twice a week. The wood comb - I LOVE it; it's really gentle but still detangles.