Reddit reviews Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too

Two things helped me. One is a book I've referred to often over the years called Siblings without Rivalry.


The other is to focus on encouraging her relationship with her little brother. "Wow, you are such a great big sister! Can you help me feed the baby? You are so great with him. Can you get him a new diaper? I don't know how I would do this without you. Thank goodness he has you for a big sister. He's so lucky to have you. You're probably the best big sister in the world. Oh, it looks like he wants his big sister to help get ready to go! Can you get his blanket?" You know, things like that. Help her feel needed and proud of her role. Even when someone meets the new baby you can interject with, "Yeah, and he's so lucky because he has the best big sister ever!"

Right now I'm on a major jag telling people about this book *Siblings Without Rivalry* I picked it up from the library this past weekend and literally read it in one day while the kid was with grandma. It was so eye-opening to me, and it made me cry to imagine how different my relationships with my siblings would have been if my parents had read this book when we were young. This is one of the topics that the authors address. I really recommend it very highly to everyone. I know you have a little newborn so reading is not something you can do a lot of right now, but they also have an audiobook version and maybe you could swing that?


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