Reddit reviews The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems: Sleeping, Feeding, and Behavior--Beyond the Basics from Infancy Through Toddlerhood
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Great product!
May I make an unsolicited suggestion? I went through the same process of driving to get my son to sleep. That was just one of many things we did in the first 4 months of his life to try to get him to sleep, all of which worked inconsistently and did not seem to get any less necessary with time.
A friend recommended the book The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems, which has an incredible section on sleep training. Driving them around may seem to work, but it's actually enforcing a really bad pattern; you actually want them to learn to soothe themselves to sleep rather than needing these other motions and whatnot. This will help them fall back to sleep without needing intervention in the middle of the night when they will inevitably wake up.
The first night putting my son down with the method described in this book was extraordinarily better, and within a couple weeks he was sleeping through the night, even through bottle feedings! I cannot recommend this book highly enough to any parent whose child is not a perfect sleeper from day one (which is pretty much all of them).
And for the record there is no "crying it out" involved in this process either. Our son did cry occasionally when being put down or when waking up at night, but he'd usually calm himself down very quickly. Within a month we were able to do nothing more than put him in his crib fully awake, say goodnight, and leave the room. If he cried at all it was generally brief and he'd chill out quickly on his own and go to bed.
I'll probably get a lot of crap for this but I'm going to say it anyway: before two is better and 14 months is definitely not too early (but it does depend on the child). It sounds like your girl is ready to be potty trained, and if it doesn't work now, try again in a couple months.
Our daughter was potty trained by 18 months and probably could have been early but I was very busy. However, if I had known it wasn't going to be that bad i would have done it earlier.
Since she was a baby we've followed most of the things Tracy Hogg suggests in her book, including a lot from the potty training section.
We did a 3 day boot camp. All three days our girl was bottomless. The first day we didn't leave the house, not even outside. We watched her like a hawk and anytime it looked like she was ready we would scoop her up and put her on her potty. Reward when they go on the potty, even if most of it got on the floor. We had a potty song and dance we did every time too...this was for EVERYONE in the family!!! Each time my husband or I went it was a big deal and we would all sing the song and dance. I believe this was key!
The second day we took her outside right after she went once. We took the potty out with us too, just in case. The third day we went out twice.
After day two she was heading to the potty on her own and really hardly any accidents after that, even at daycare. Anytime we had to leave the house she would go potty right before walking out the door (or at least sit on it) and we would put her on the training potty in our hatch right when we got to our destination, even if there was a bathroom inside. This helped a lot, too. Most of her accidence happened during or right after a car ride and once we started doing this it solved the problem.
We also didn't use training undies and definitely no pull-ups. She would wear no undies most of the time (also key) and just soft pants. When she did wear undies they were regular and we let her pick them out. We started putting her in undies all the time about 6-8 weeks after the 3 day boot camp.
Oh, we also would watch the elmo potty video while she sat on the potty. At the time, she didn't watch elmo but still loved it! This was her only reward, other than the song and dance, for sitting on the potty. She doesn't watch much tv, so we would take our laptops into the bathroom and put on a short youtube video (just a couple minutes). Here's the elmo potty video.
Good Luck!
When I got together with my wife she had a child at a young age. I became this boys step father since we met when he was 5.
As a single mom she used to allow him to get in to her bed in the middle of the night if he woke up and stuff.
First thing I did was lock the master bedroom door. No more late night access to moms bed. He would come a knocking and I would kindly escort him back to his room and tuck him in. Took about 5 months before he got the message that I was not going anywhere and his bed was his bed.
When we had my daughters years later we never allowed them in our bed. In fact 2 weeks after birth the children were moved out of the bassinet to the crib in their room.
My wife and I subscribed to the EASY plan from the book http://www.amazon.com/Baby-Whisperer-Solves-Your-Problems/dp/0743488946/ref=pd_sim_b_10?ie=UTF8&refRID=0PNCBJ0C6MQ5YBRGNAJS
At night time we would rock for a few mins then the baby would be put in the crib. If the baby cried we would wait 5 to 10 mins walk in pick the baby up walk around the room once the back in the crib.
Early on my kids learned when they they laid down it was time to sleep. It was the best thing I believe can be taught to a baby because it allowed me wife and I to have personal time with out interruption.
At night we lay our kids down at 8 pm. My step son who is 16 now is put in his room where we set the timer to his tv to go off at 9.
From 8pm on that is mommy and daddy personal time.
Without a doubt that single mom still allowing a child in her bed to sleep at such a old age will be like pulling teeth to stop for both the child and parent.
Congrats! Here are my tips . . . (Cut and pasted from another post.)
These helped me make better decisions because they presented me with many options to try for trial and error, or good jumping off points for further research. I have honestly never had a "what do I do now?!" parenting moment because I have read so much that I have back up plans in my pocket if the first thing I try doesn't work. I have also never had any of the struggles with my son that a lot of people have around sleeping, eating, behavior, etc. and while I know some of that is because we have a healthy kid, I truly believe a lot of it comes from being an informed parent who explores all the options and tries the ones that have the most evidence for working well in combination with what feels right for me and my family.
I tried to just list the neutral/middle of the road books that are fun and/or give enough indepth information on most sides of an issue to be a great jumping off point for exploring particular parenting styles, options, etc.
In no particular order:
I've found that reading a few books with different viewpoints helps. You'll be able to get a big picture of things and get ideas for what would work for you.
I only have a 2 year old, so I'll follow this thread for sure to see other recs. I've read Lansbury's No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame , and Ive also read the "Taming your Toddler" chapters of The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems: Sleeping, Feeding, and Behavior--Beyond the Basics from Infancy Through Toddlerhood.
I've got some problems with both books, but Ive also taken good points from both and made use of them.
If you can figure out why exactly your baby is crying, that can be a big help. My girlfriend and I could not for the life of us figure out what was making our daughter so upset. At first we thought nighttime was just her "fussy time", which it is for a lot of newborns. Then we read some more and realized that she had a lot of the symptoms of reflux. We adjusted some of our habits (rubbing her back instead of patting to burp her, keeping her upright during and after nursing, feeding her more slowly) and the difference was night-and-day.
For anyone with a baby that has a difficult time falling or staying asleep, I would highly recommend picking up Tracy Hogg's The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems. She goes over a lot of the bad habits parents pick up when trying to calm their newborns, and gives ideas on how to fix them.
We've also found Harvey Karp's The Happiest Baby on the Block to be very helpful. The "5 S's" method (swaddling, side/stomach positioning in the parents' arms, shushing, swinging, and sucking) worked well for our daughter.
Basically what all of the advice in the books boils down to is to read your baby's cues and fix the root of the problem, rather than attempt to patch it with short-term fixes. Sometimes you might think that you're helping, when really you're just developing bad parenting habits and reinforcing certain behaviors in your child. I was really surprised when reading those books how many bad habits we had picked up in just a few short weeks.
I contribute a lot of the success I have had with my first to this book. I highly recommend following the E.A.S.Y. routine!
Sorry about being on my mobile, I hope this links correctly. The baby whisperer
There is a common sleep regression at 4 months. My wife and I used this book which has quite a few troubleshooting cases to help you solve specific problems when they come up.