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The Hite Report: A Nationwide Study of Female Sexuality
I hope you don’t mind me proposing an alternate hypothesis.¹ You didn’t mention your age or range of experience, but it seems to me you might just have had a lot of crummy sex. The stereotypical inexperienced sexual encounter is making out followed by plain PIV² until the man orgasms. For most men, that’s a satisfying, if not exceptional, encounter. For many women, that’s duller than a dental cleaning, disappointing, sexually frustrating, and sometimes physically painful. Most of my women friends’ first few sexual relationships fell squarely into this category.³
In my view, that explains everything you said: Lousy sex would, obviously, explain your distaste for partnered sex. Feeling put on to do things you don’t want to do would make almost anyone feel viscerally repulsed; at least that’s been my experience. And, as your dating relationships progress, I assume your partners have only gotten more persistent, until your disgust overpowers your warm fuzzy feelings. Is it possible that’s what’s going on?
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Standard disclaimers: Orgasm need not be the goal or end-state of sex; just a pleasant effect sometimes. Per the Hite Report and more-recent studies, around 70% of women won't achieve orgasm through penetration alone. Add to that that most partners are going to be different in some significant way or other (in size, angles, neural pathway/sensitivity, stamina, etc), and you're not gonna find a catch-all solution. That said:
Hope some of that was helpful.
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