Reddit reviews The Next Happy: Let Go of the Life You Planned and Find a New Way Forward

I highly recommend reading The Next Happy. It's written by someone who had to give up on infertility treatments and got a divorce and is about grieving the plan you had for yourself so that you can move on.

So sorry you're going through this, and sorry you are lonely. Sometimes the emotions about parenthood hit like a tsunami, as you've experienced, and it sucks.

I got a diagnosis in June that meant that my uterus has never been set up to carry a child to term without complications or early miscarriage. That was the biggest piece of information for our 'unexplained' diagnosis. Even though we stopped trying a year ago, it still hit me like a ton of bricks. I was born with this uterine anomaly, but my whole life thought 100% that I would be a biological mother. It's really hard to look back at my life and see how many decisions I made based on that feeling, and now I'm going through a period of reimagining what my life will look like.

I'm no expert on this, but can offer advice from my experience. I would let yourself grieve. Maybe find a counselor. FWIW, I'm cisgender and the fertility support group still didn't feel right. I went to one meeting and that was more than enough for me, especially when the leader handed out baby dust at the end. Read some books, or find blogs that talk about this experience. A really great one I've found is Infertility Honesty. The author is also cisgender, but maybe it can help you too. A book I loved was The Next Happy (if you're considering being IFchildfree).

Again, so sorry you feel alone in this.

I don't have much except to say that I'm sorry that you're going through this. I have unexplained infertility, which sucks for so many reasons, but one of the only good reasons is that there's always a chance that it's either or both of us (my RE said that even if SA results come back normal, there is always the possibility that there's something they might not be seeing). As far as your question about when to cut the losses? Other people are absolutely right: counseling is so important, and especially good if you can find someone who specializes in IF. And even though it might be a little early for it (for me or for you), I've been finding a lot of help and comfort in this book, which was written by a woman who was One of Us: http://www.amazon.com/The-Next-Happy-Planned-Forward/dp/1616495723 Best wishes to you. All of this stuff sucks. I hope you stick around here and get some of the help you might need. <3