Reddit reviews The Peacemaker: A Biblical Guide to Resolving Personal Conflict

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[1 Cor 13:7] and [James 3:14-16] and [James 4:11-12] tell us to believe the best about people. Be gracious in our evaluations and judgments of them.

Lastly - Ken Sande is great on this kind of stuff. http://peacemaker.net/project/charitable-judgments-an-antidote-to-judging-others/ - if you appreciate that post, you should pick up the book: The Peacemaker if you don't already have it. It's not just about resolving conflict, but also changing the way we think about others to be more charitable before any conflict ever happens.

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1. It means being recognized and affirmed to the work and to be supported and have fellowship with others doing the same thing.
   
2. Do tasks in and around the church. Visit people in the hospital. Call/visit people. I also lead a group.
   
3. Most of them are older folks who have been in the church for a long time, though we've recently brought in some folks in the early 30s to mid 40s. I'd say most of our deacons are 60+.
   
4. Knowing what you ought to do and not being able to do it--that is sometimes we know we need to care for X more but given that I have a job, small kids, etc... it can be hard.
   
5. Building relationships with people that you might not normally associate with in the church.
   
6. James 1:27
   
7. We meet with Elders regularly and the deacons meet once a month.
   
8. Not sure about that.
   
9. We were given copies of The Peacemaker when we became deacons. But really I've found a healthy look into the workings of the Holy Spirit to be something that is essential to life and ministry.
   
10. I filled out a long "application" and then met with the Deacons for an hour.
    
11. I went a few times to the hospital with our Pastor and for our ministry to widows we work in teams.

Too many to choose from, but briefly:

The Peacemaker by Ken Sande

Repentance by John Miller

The Mortification of Sin by John Owen

The Book of Romans by John Murray

Jesus on Every Page by David Murray

Paul: An Outline of His Theology by Herman Ridderbos

Redemption Accomplished and Applied by John Murray

Collected Writings...4 Volumes by John Murray

The Shepherd Leader by Timothy Witmer

I am also partial to most things by Sinclair Ferguson and Richard Gaffin.