Reddit reviews When You Eat at the Refrigerator, Pull Up a Chair: 50 Ways to Feel Thin, Gorgeous, and Happy (When You Feel Anything But)

I did Overeater's anonymous and for about 4-6 months it really helped me and then I went back to my ED, I think because it was an avoidance thing rather than dealing with my underlying issues (though it def may work for other people). The Chemistry of Joy workbook was helpful to me and this book was a bit fluffy but the ideas in it are the same ones I've been working on w my therapist that have really helped me stop binge eating: https://www.amazon.com/When-You-Refrigerator-Pull-Chair/dp/0786885084

Qcontinumum has great words for thoughts. First therapy, plus medication. I started taking medication a couple weeks ago because I was tired of feeling so depressed. I've already been in therapy for awhile. See what is covered by your insurance, it's absolutely worth it.

Second this book: https://www.amazon.com/When-You-Refrigerator-Pull-Chair/dp/0786885084 is what got me to stop being obsessed with my weight/food and actually lead me to lose weight too. It is very rare for me to have bad thoughts about my body now and it's been about 4 years since I've read it. If your library doesn't have that check out other books by the author, I've heard they're good too.

10lbs is nothing to have gained so far. My friend who is also overweight actually ended up thinner after pregnancy because she didn't gain a ton during. It sounds like you might be similar you don't have that much more to go.

You need to work on communicating with your bf. Either you weren't in the best head when talking about your feelings and could have come across accusatory or you were really well spoken and he is not validating your feelings. Your feelings on him doing those things are valid and should be expressed. Try to talk about things after you know how you want to say them and make sure he is mature with his listening.

. . . How we talk about what we do matters. All bodies have cravings. When we talk about our decisions in ways that require taking responsibility for our behavior, we're more likely to succeed. But sure, if you'd like to continue fearing your body, go for it.

>I don't know how, but I'm losing by changing my relationship with food -

Actually, it sounds like you know EXACTLY how, which is great! Take credit for it. It's not magic. It's work.

Edit: Also recommend this Geneen Roth book! I really do wish you well.

Oh - and how could I forget - read everything you can get your hands on by Geneen Roth.

I LOVE her. Love love love. She changed my life; my whole outlook on my body and weight and how to live without letting it rule my life.

The easiest to start with is this:https://www.amazon.com/When-You-Refrigerator-Pull-Chair/dp/0786885084/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8, and the 'When Food is Love' is also amazing.