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1. Fuck your family, that behavior is not okay. I've had similar reactions from some people in my life and I no longer interact with those people. Your family hypnotized you into believing that you don't need help, because they couldn't cope with their own emotions. It's also possible that one or both of your parents are also ASD/ADHD, this stuff is genetic, so a lot of this could be them coming down on you the way they come down on themselves. But you're not going to save them from themselves, you need to get away from them.
   
   
2. For me, it's 100% around coping energy. All the weird little idiosyncratic behaviors I have? They're the skills I intuitively developed over the past few decades to help me manage my coping energy, which is a finite and precious resource. As long as I have coping energy I can generally deal with stuff - but when I run out, even little stuff like taking a shower becomes incredibly challenging. Big stuff becomes impossible.
   
   
3. Burnout happens when you've got low/no coping energy but keep trying to push through it. Eventually you build up a debt of coping energy that starts to interfere with your day-to-day functioning. It's crucial to become an active observer and protector of your coping energy reserves.
   
   
4. This means: pay attention to what makes you feel recharged and pay attention to what makes you spend coping energy. For me it's even little stuff - I realized recently that the aversion I have to walking around things in my path is due to the CE cost. Stepping around a box all day left me totally drained by evening, and I couldn't deal with shit.
   
   
5. So my advice to you is to make a list of the things that restore your energy, and make a list of the things you know drain your energy. Quantify it if you can. Then, of the things that drain your energy, identify the ones you still have to do no matter what - these define your minimum coping energy needs. The rest, give yourself permission to figure out how to avoid ever having to do again. This doesn't make you lazy, it means you're managing an invisible scarce resource that informs every part of your life and nobody else gets to have an opinion about that.
   
   
6. Find a way to start spending more time restoring your energy, find ways to say no to the things that cost your energy. Spend a good length of time in this state. You will soon start to feel better - don't push it! You're burned out, you can't start pushing the minute you get above 0 because then you just burnout again. (I learned this the hard way).
   
   
7. It's going to piss off people who have expectations around your behavior. You can explain to them or not - but you don't owe them explanations. If you must live with family it's probably best to let them know what's going on and let them know that whether or not they believe you it's very real to you, and that it's going to inform your behavior moving forward. Tell them that their comments are hurtful, though, so that if they choose to continue they're making an informed decision to hurt you.
   
   
8. Get this book: https://www.amazon.com/Complex-PTSD-Surviving-RECOVERING-CHILDHOOD-ebook/dp/B00HJBMDXK/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
   
   I hope that helps, and welcome to our family! :)

My family has used the older version of this humidifier for 18 years

It's legit magic

Edit: for humidifiers, ceiling fan on winter mode and/or any fan at the lowest speed and make sure the door to the room you're using it in is closed if you live in a larger house. It'll help keep the air circulating better if a fan is on