Reddit reviews A Mother for Choco (Paperstar)

We've used this book:
https://www.amazon.com/Mother-Choco-Paperstar-Keiko-Kasza/dp/0698113640

and this book:
https://www.amazon.com/Tell-Again-About-Night-Born/dp/0064435814/ref=pd_sbs_14_t_1?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=KXWRZ8XANMAVDAPZYHRJ

and this book:
https://www.amazon.com/Wished-You-Adoption-Marianne-Richmond/dp/1934082066/ref=pd_bxgy_14_img_3?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=1934082066&pd_rd_r=VQQX0YJDRY9ZENP34DA7&pd_rd_w=bupmJ&pd_rd_wg=FbnwR&psc=1&refRID=VQQX0YJDRY9ZENP34DA7

and this book:
https://www.amazon.com/Day-Met-Aladdin-Picture-Books/dp/0689809646/ref=pd_sim_14_13?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=0689809646&pd_rd_r=F1RS4C5VVNAKP65QV8JR&pd_rd_w=CdcFC&pd_rd_wg=DGunr&psc=1&refRID=F1RS4C5VVNAKP65QV8JR

and we've had a lot of talks about her birth family and how sometimes someone loves you so much that they send you to a family who can protect you and keep you safe.

Kids read your anxiety as much as they hear your words. I know it's hard, but it's important to tell yourself that even though she is having these feelings, you have the rest of your lives to get it right, and she's not going anywhere. Calm yourself as much as you can, smile and tell her you love her.

Do you lie down with her at night at bedtime? One of use does this every night, and we always answer any questions she has as she's falling asleep, and we remind her that we love her, that she is special, that she is safe with us, and that we will be here for her forever.

Every night.

Good luck.

I would start with the idea that families are all different - there are many different ways to be a family. Todd Parr's The Family Book or Families, Families, Families! are both fun ways to introduce diverse family structures that would be appropriate for a 4yo. Both include families with children who look different from their parents, which could be a good way to bring up your friends' family. There are also some good picture books that focus on interracial adoption specifically, such as All Bears Need Love, Horace, A Mother for Choco, Over the Moon, and The Red Thread.

My all time favorite (although more in line with female empowerment than cultural diversity) would be The Paperbag Princess by Robert Munsch

A Mother for Choco is a good book about non-traditional families in general for young children.

The Name Jar by Yangsook Choi is another good one that deals with a young Korean girl trying to pick an "American" name but deciding she likes her own at the end.

Adelita by Tomie dePaola is a Cinderella story, but set in Mexico

And then ones that I can remember off the top of my head quickly (that are more tales from many different cultures) are are Ananzi the Spider, De Colores (Jose Orozco), Legend of the Bluebonnet (also Tomie dePaola), Cendrillon: A Caribbean Cinderella,