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How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less
I always recommend this.
Ignore the doofy title. It's really a little handbook of social interaction, stuff Es naturally intuit, but spelled out for the rest of us. I grabbed this book in an airport bookstore just for something to read on the plane and it turned out to be one of the more useful books I've ever read. It's short and easy to read and gives you concrete applications that actually work.
Wow, I wish I would have had your insight to ask this question 9 years ago. Spend your first week reading three books (four if you come from an upper-middle-class or wealthier family).
Once you finish Never Eat Alone, start reaching out to people. Start spending your money on having conversations over coffee. Yes, some call this "networking," but don't think of it that way. You're making friends. For the next 5 months, you don't have any needs, so now is the perfect time to put others first. My life is currently full of awesome friends, and it's all because I took the time to give a shit about them. Be sure to take notes and have some sort of contact list (highrise is free). It's not romantic, but if you genuinely want to make friends, it's the way to do it. The more people you meet, the easier time you'll have of helping them by making introductions.
I've been doing this for a couple years now, and it has literally changed my life. I'm friends with people I never even dreamed of knowing. I'm a freelancer, and I literally have more work than I know what to do with. I'm throwing a big party in a couple weeks for all my friends, and I'm shocked at who all has said "yes."
tl;dr Meet all the people you can, think of others first, and someday they'll likely return the favor.
Obviously this will not be as easy if you were female. As much as I hate to admit it, the "Player's" handbooks and websites helped me learn the art of simply holding a conversation with random women when I was younger. Some of that PUA crap is rather corny and/or degrading though so be selective if you choose that route. If you are as socially inept as you suggest, then learning to have a conversation should be your first goal. May I suggest reading the book How To Make People Like You In 90 Seconds or Less as well as the ever famous How to Win Friends and Influence People. Both offer great insight into the art of communicating both verbally or otherwise.
Bottom line is either you are a natural at meeting women or it's something you have to learn. Like all things it takes work and practice. Stay the hell away from social sites. Don't get me wrong, you may be able to find something, but wouldn't you rather see someone you find attractive IRL and be able to turn that into a sexual encounter than hope that something falls into your inbox?
For a deeper dive into techniques, the psychology and practice of this, check out this book by Nicholas Boothman.
I used to be painfully shy and awful at conversation.
I suggest you (and everyone really) read up on body language, mirroring others, etc. This book is a good starting point.
From there, the key is to know about a lot of subjects. If you can hold an intelligent 20 minute conversation about almost anything, you'll be a conversation god.
Try to develop a thirst for knowledge and read up on a diversity of things. Set goals to learn about at least one new subject every week (I would say 'read a book a week' but in the internet age you can get get the info you need online sometimes, though a good book is usually far more helpful). See something cool on Reddit/Cracked/etc.? Read more about it.
Story time: I was dating a girl who took me to her dad's big charity fundraising banquet, like one of those $500/plate deals. I'm grinning sheepishly through conversations about rich guy stuff, trying to think of something to drop in. It finally shifts to golf (which I didn't even play) and I light up- I had just read this book about the best true golf stories of all time. They were riveted.
I'm reading Elon Musk's biography right now and think it might be helpful if you're talking about career success. The dude seems like a jerk but has an incredible work ethic and drive to succeed.
You can say pretty much the same exact thing about Augustus' biography.
Outliers really helped me a lot, because it made me realize talent wasn't nearly important as skill/effort. You put in the time and effort and you will develop your skills.
If you're an introvert like me these books helped me "fake it till I make it" or just want to be more socially capable: Charisma Myth, anything by Leil Lowndes, Make People Like You in 90 Seconds. Not a book but the Ted Talk about body language by Amy Cuddy
A book on leadership I always hear good things about but haven't read yet is Start With Why.
I recommend this book
I haven't read it but it has decent amazon reviews right?
Moderators Note: I removed the above comment because it included an Amazon affiliate code. The comment, edited to remove the affiliate code, is as follows:
> I'd start with this: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0761149465
Pssht 120 seconds!? Try 90 seconds! Actually it's a really good book. It's also available on audiobook for free from most libraries.
read this bruh & build the best rapport