Reddit reviews In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People

So ... since her "gift" to you was "her Tribe"... just out of curiosity, how many/what percentage of those people who are HER support system in life have done anything whatsoever for you, DH, and LO since then, outside of attending this Diaper Shower?

Because I'm getting the vibe that the rambling, highly awkward speech made Her Tribe all exchange glances, take some big long gulps of their "fire water", and subtly change her caller ID in their phones to "Don't Answer". Here's the thing OP, that an old broad of 49 sees that maybe a 20-something wouldn't' pick up on - that whole little monologue she did was engineered to EXCLUDE you, entirely. If she had been genuinely welcoming you in to the Tribe she would have talked about YOU in an introduction of sorts. It would have been about honoring you - and she would have started with, "Op is shy, so I'll keep this short" but then she would have praised you, (even if you haven't cured cancer or finished college, she could say how happy you make her son, what a nice person you are, and what a good mom you're going to be and how grateful she is that you are now part of her family). Instead, what she did was absolutely to set in people's heads HOW MUCH SHE NEEDS THEM and COUNTS ON THEM in HER LIFE. (My spidey senses are telling me that before this party she's been running around to the entire "tribe" complaining and howling and whining their ears off, and playing this as the collapse of civilization that you snared her baby boy with your Devil Vagina Magic.) Instead of bringing you into the group, this precisely EXCLUDED you. It honored the past service they have given to her (and reinforced that she expects them to keep it up in the future - because you two are just dumb noobs for getting pregnant and they all know "from experience" how screwed you are). That was the message. She honored herself and thanked her support system. She blamed you to them for whatever leaning on them she'd been doing (I'm guessing a shit ton of Narc supply in the form of sympathy, and bending of ears, has been bestowed on her as a bonus from this whole situation).

So... this is what you do - keep coming here. Polish up that shiny spine. Start reading up on Narcissists, and cover aggression. There was a book In Sheep's Clothing that was GREAT on covert aggression. I read it a few years back, really helped me with my own toxic mother.

I'm thinking her name should be Tribal Tina, maybe?

I bought "In Sheep's Clothing" as a Kindle Book: https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B005CN6PJ0/ref=tmm_kin_title_0?ie=UTF8&qid=&sr=

Enjoy!!!

>I'm not used to dealing with manipulative people

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This is the link for the Wolf book though