Reddit reviews Mindset: The New Psychology of Success

First thing is to learn about mindsets. I don't know if you're a reader or enjoy audiobooks or not, but there's a book on the topic available here:

https://www.amazon.com/Mindset-New-Psychology-Success/dp/B07N48NM33

Basically, in any given situation, there are 2 mindsets:

1. Fixed
   
2. Growth
   
   In a nutshell, a fixed mindset says "I can't" and a growth mindset says "how can I?" So let's take a look at your assertions:
   
   >I don’t have Frank’s voice, I can’t play an instrument, I’m not an outstanding songwriter either.
   
   That's a fixed mindset across the board - let's update those things to a growth mindset:
   
   
3. "I don't have Frank's voice:" You don't have Frank's voice because you have your voice. The two next steps are (1) to practice singing & perhaps hire a talented singing tutor to help guide you through learning the ropes, and (2) play with different styles, mix & match them, and figure out how you want your sound to be.
   
4. Again, with learning to see how things really operate - your singing style is a choice. Check out Jay Pharoah's celebrity impressions. Just like he can imitate how people talk, anyone can imitate how people sing - we all do it all the time in the shower & in the car while listening to music, haha. That's the "craft a unique identity" thing I was talking about earlier. If you pick up the Talent Code book, ready the snippet on Ray LaMontagne's approach to crafting his vocal identity in chapter 4.
   
5. "I can't play an instrument": You can't play an instrument simply because you haven't practice. You are talented enough to post paragraphs & paragraphs of clear speech on reddit, which means you know how to operating a typing keyboard, which means you're capable of convert thoughts into actions on a communication instrument. Guitar, piano, etc. is no different. With that said, you do need to put in the work to learn how to play, learn multiple instruments, and also learn music theory so you understand things like why major chords sound happy & minor chords sound sad, so that you can use & manipulate those concepts in order to create music. Jaw's "dun dun duuuuun" soundtrack works because it's based off music theory, which are the rules that we, as humanity, have discovered works for touching our emotions & capturing our attention. It's almost like math (and in fact uses a lot of math!).
   
6. I would highly suggest picking up the Talent Code book to learn how we actually learn, i.e. breaking stuff down into components & then taking little bites about the topic every day. For something like learning how to play the guitar, I'd suggest getting a lifetime pass ($300, which will ultimately be cheaper in the long run than any teacher you'll ever have) to Next Level Guitar, which has 2,000+ mini lessons where you can learn step by step the skill of guitar in order to increase your talent on the guitar.
   
7. Becoming talented at something is not magic, it's just consistent work of learning bit-by-bit the physical skills & the mental knowledge of how things work...you have to populate that mental "database" little by little over time (because our brains get overwhelmed easily, so unless you're highly motivated to learn & play for hours & hours & hours, you need to just stick with learning little by little, which means picking an instrument, picking an educational path (tutor or online learning or whatever), and then doing the boring work every day to increase your knowledge.
   
8. There's not a famous guitar player out there who hasn't done this - they know how to string a guitar, what the strings do, what the frets do, etc., and you have to go down the same path if you want to obtain mastery. It takes time, it takes effort, and most of all, it takes a willingness to do a little bit of boring work every day to master one little bit of information about music or an instrument or singing or music theory. That's really hardest part - accepting that big "home run" efforts of trying really really hard to learn everything at once isn't the right way, but instead, doing a little bit every day consistently is the key, and that's really hard because you have to make a tiny push to get yourself to do it every day, and that of course implies that you've created a plan to follow to do so, instead of just keeping it in your head & using wishful thinking to will it to happen.
   
9. It's not about willpower or motivation or self-discipline, it's about selecting something specific, like learning how to play the guitar, and then buying access to the lessons above, and then sticking those on a spreadsheet of tasks to do every day, i.e. learn one or three lessons a day or whatever, and then setting an alarm & doing them. That's what I mean about setting goals & making checklists. This is the "plot vs. story" thing. The plot is the step-by-step boring work you have to do every single day to improve your skills & get good at something. The story is the fun of it - singing & playing the guitar & creating great songs & performing live in front of people.
   
10. But you can't enjoy the story if you don't hustle on the plot. Every single musician you see out there has hundreds, if not thousands, if not tens of thousands of hours hidden behind their recorded songs & their performances, building up their personal databases of knowledge & skills. Pay particular attention to the myelin part of the Talent Code book if you decide to read or listen to it - the summary is that your brain makes these little bridges or connections whenever you do something new, which sends an electrical signal for doing it. The more you do a specific task, the more this floss-like stuff wraps around that bridge & enhances the connection to make it go faster. That's how specific practice & knowledge operates - little individual pieces, and as you practice, that connection literally grows stronger & faster, making you better. As the author says in the book, practice doesn't make perfect, practice makes myelin!
    
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