Reddit reviews Never Give Up!: Relentless Determination to Overcome Life's Challenges

>"And now I cannot see in [my]self what I see in others - hope, potential, and greatness. I see that in every person, but myself. I have this ability to see more in every broken person that I encounter. I see past each person's mistakes and past. I see what this person can become. That gives me the chance to show this person the greatness within them.
So I end up living a life telling other[s] how great they can be. Yet I see nothing in me."


This is hauntingly and beautifully written. Your words are remind me of what I had been struggling with these past couple years. I started to withdraw myself from everyone and found myself on a dark, narrow, lonely path with nothing but my own imperfections and failed potential staring me back in the face. No matter how I tried to be positive and find the good in myself, it never worked. Being an INFJ, I've always felt the burdens of the whole world and all the people that I've known weigh on me. Even if I hadn't talked to a friend in the longest time, I would feel for them some semblance of an endearing love; I would want the best for them, for them to be happy and be the best they could ever be. I hated that I cared so much for them and this caused me to withdraw even more. My friends thought I stopped talking to them because I stopped caring, but that was never the case. I didn't want to burden them with any of my problems and it was just too hard to deal with all their issues when I, myself was not sorted out. I am currently in my 6th year of college, with my planned graduation in a year or so. Although I have received so many undeserved chances, I have kept struggling with my issues and kept questioning the world around me and being upset at myself for not being able to do what I knew I wanted for me to have done. Only recently, have I finally started to feel like I am living for the first time. I won't go into too much detail, but it was centered around my faith and also medication that helped me to face myself. Although I am not completely well yet, I feel that I am slowly making progress and beginning to appreciate the personality traits that I carry and accept myself for who I am.



I cannot promise you that it will get better. I cannot say that you will one day accept yourself and be happy with who you are. You will always care for other people. No matter how much you hate it, you will always have an unwarranted sense of responsibility for all the other humans in this world. It won't be easy, but please don't give up. If you drift down the indifferent and apathetic road, you will just wake up months/years later and be in the same position, most likely more depressed and more crushed. Start small and work from there. I started watching videos and reading encouraging books. I started to keep a journal where everyday, I write three things that I am thankful for in my life. Don't overthink things and don't make it more complicated than it is. My whole life I've tried to figure it all out by thinking everything through and in the end I would just end up a hopeless mess that was worse off then I started. Stop thinking about how miserable you are or all the missed opportunities you had. You can't change any of those, but what you can do is change what you do starting from today. Think about all the things that you are grateful for that are important to you. Hold on to those things and protect them. Remember the most important thing to INFJ's is to work on yourself first. Focus on yourself and what you know you need to do. Even though it seems contrary to who you are, force yourself to do that, because you can actually help others better if you yourself are more stable and of sound mind. I know you feel all alone and that you've dug yourself in a humongous hole. Don't worry! We are all here with you ;]. Take baby steps and maybe one day you will find yourself in a place where you can use this experience to help someone else who is struggling through a similar situation!

not sure if your cup of tea, but i am currently reading Never Give Up!: Relentless Determination to Overcome Life's Challenges by Joyce Meyer. It is faith-based and has a lot of tie-ins with scripture. Very encouraging and motivating for me!