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I graduated from a top-tier university with really great GPA, great opportunities, and surrounded by ambitious friends. About a year after graduation, my life was in shambles. I didn't have a job and I sat around doing very little most of the time. It took me over a year to get a job (a terrible one) and almost five more years to crawl back into the real working world.
Given that background, here's a few pieces of advice I can offer:
To circle back to my first point about fear, recognize that fear is usually a result of pushing toward the unknown or stepping outside of your comfort zone. Given that your current comfort zone isn't very comfortable for you, recognize that when you feel fear, you're thinking about changing something or actively changing something. Even if you just walk up to that fear bubble and stick your toe out of it and recoil, congratulate yourself on confronting your fear. Period. It's a bold move and for many people fear keeps them locked into things they are not happy with.
Splitting these big commitments up into smaller pieces helps you overcome your own mental hurdles. It helps you celebrate the small wins (I went INTO the gym this week! I ran on the treadmill for 5 minutes!) -- which are what matter. If you can string together 15-20 small wins in a row, you're well on your way to whatever goal you set.
First, you are comparing apples and oranges. Any time you compare yourself to someone else you're taking your own internal thoughts and feelings and comparing them to someone's projection of themselves. What you're doing is looking at people's proverbial Facebook feeds (where only the good stuff gets posted) and comparing it to your own life (where both good and bad things happen). People's lives are all different and all face unique sets of challenges. Even the most successful people you know struggle mightily with issues that you aren't aware of. DO NOT fall into this trap and whenever you do, close Facebook / Instagram / Twitter and go for a walk.
Second, learn your own origin story. Again, this might sound stupid, but I am firm believer in this strategy. I told you above that my life fell apart within a year of graduating from school. What I didn't tell you was how obvious it should have been to everyone that this would happen. Looking back, I have come to understand all the decisions I made as my best attempt to survive the various stages of my life. Without getting into too many of my own details, I quickly realized that MY story was an integral part of ME and it is a key differentiator between myself and many other people I meet today. Very few people I meet have gone through some of the shit I've gone through and very few people have developed some of the behaviors and oddities that I developed to even be ALIVE today. So, when I find myself saying "you're almost 30 and haven't done 'blah blah blah' I tell myself "hey you're on your own path, doing your own thing and, given your origin story, you're doing pretty goddamn well for yourself."
>Most importantly, do you guys believe I can change for the better?
You've got it backwards. All of your questions above are far more important than this one. Yes, it's nice to have some people who believe in you and what you're doing, but those shouldn't be strangers on the internet. Build a support circle. Find someone that you can be weak and lost and confused in front of. That's part of this process and it's part of life. It doesn't matter what I think (nor would my answer to this question have any bearing on reality). It's entirely up to you what you do and what paths you choose to take.
edit: I needed to clean up the formatting a bit. I hope that was helpful.
Right there with you and have taken a step back to realize that an office environment is something I need right now. Perhaps also a co-founder when I decide to start investing 100% in my company again. A book has really helped me in the last few months and I cannot recommend it enough -- Positive Intelligence.
Thank you for a great answer! :)
Your first and second suggestion remind me of a book i read many years ago called Positive Intelligence. In that book the author had identified 12 common mental saboteurs (that had more to do with attitudes than activities) that you were supposed to label as soon as you identified one of them. You were also supposed to do "PQ reps" that were more or less the same as checking in to your body. :)
I will start trying out all of your suggestions above as soon as I have the opportunity, probably at work on Monday morning. Thanks again! :)
This helped me.
Then I read this as well.