Reddit reviews Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends

VERY similar to you; am 32, was married since 25, and have a 4 year old. First, you WILL survive. The only way you won't is if you don't believe you will. I'm willing to bet that having been with this person for this long the marriage/relationship became your identity. It's scary when you have all your eggs in that basket and then its tipped over and you're starting from scratch. I'm a big believer in that some of the best things in life lie on the other side of fear.

Take the time right now to really figure out what you want out of life. You have the opportunity to craft the life you want, and to be the best mother you can be to your child. Goes without saying that right now the #1 priority should be ensuring that your child is looked after. To that, you can't be the best parent possible if you aren't looking after yourself; similar to the rule of putting on your mask before your child's on a plane. I'm a bit over a year into this, and the best I can say is to just focus on working on yourself and your child. Figure out what went wrong in the relationship, and fix whatever you can on your end so you don't bring unnecessary baggage into a new relationship. Reconnect with old friends, re-discover old hobbies, and find new ones, and just take it a day at a time.

My therapist recommended this book to me, and as I work through now it I wish I had started reading it as soon as she recommended it a while back. It's based off a seminar that is tailored toward helping people in divorce rebuild their lives. It also includes info about how to help our kids get through this. Hope it helps.

I can't stress enough how you WILL be fine, if you allow yourself to be. This experience changes everyone, just a matter of whether it is for better or worse. It's going to hurt at times, it's going to be lonely at times, but over time you can grow and rebuild your life. Just take it a day at a time. I believe in you. You've got this!

It's called Rebuilding. Also the 10-week workshop I did with a group was based on this book. There are other books out there, but I recommend this one.